any time I had a friend or co-worker use the N word I imediately lost all respect for them and never spoke to them from that day forward, I also never forgot that they used it. I have no idea why a white man would say it in front of a black man and think it would be no big deal. For some reason white people feel they have to use the word...perhaps to see what my reaction would be or maybe they just hated me I'll never know but it has happend as far back to childhood so that's pushing 40 years of me hearing this shit. and i'm not even in the states lol