I broke up with bf/ I'm back

[HiDnGoD]

so if men are stronger and more prone to violence shouldnt women take thati nto acount and not provoke them?

I think the fact that this type of behaviour is not rational factors into it. Also, some women know that men in general are reluctant to hit women, and most men would be reluctant to go to Police saying their wife is beating them.

 

[Bikini Mod]

I think the fact that this type of behaviour is not rational factors into it. Also, some women know that men in general are reluctant to hit women, and most men would be reluctant to go to Police saying their wife is beating them.

We used to have a worker, hyuge guy well over 6'3", sorta sloppy fat but young and could have put most women through a wall if he wanted to. The guy was married to a thick woman who had to be about 5' 8" or so, no small drink herself. The guy tried to leave her because she was physically abusive to him (he never fought back) but he was "in love" they got back together and she became pregnant again (See folks, it goes both ways). Shortly after their second child was born she beat the piss out of him. She as spanking their oldest daughter (which he took exception to and stepped in to try and stop it) and she turned on him. She took a metal teakettle and hit him in the crotch so badly that he passed blood for a few days then hit him in the eye with it. His eye was swollen shut for quite sometime. He left her but didnt press charges, then the custody/divorce nightmare began. He was kept from his children and had nearly all of his wages garnished. Why? Because he dared to leave her.

It goes BOTH ways and the victim isn't always the one that is protected by the law.

I dont know if he ever went back or what became of him but I just could not understand how this man stood for such terrible physical abuse from his wife. He wasn't the sharpest tool in the shed, but he seemed like a nice guy, and he only wanted to see his kids when it was "his time". There were never marks on the wife but the husband, OMG - it was unbelievable how badly he was fucked up. But the kids were given to her!!!

The system is totally fucked. He who lies first is right and everyone is guilty until proven innocent.

You should NEVER fear your partner - ever. My husband, even though he is advanced in age could do me SERIOUS physical harm if he wanted. Funny thing - our lives are far more stressfull than my first marriage was and he has never "felt provoked" by me. Yet my first husband constantly berated and humiliated me, finally beating me. Have I changed?!?!... or is it the company that I have chosen to keep.

Just some food for thought.

 

[manny78]

Well, I haven't been on here for a while, because my ex-bf always said I was on here flirting and emailing pictures. I've been called every name in the book by that guy. So, I agreed not to come on here. However, he started getting so jealous that I couldn't even leave the house to go to the gym, or anywhere else, for that matter, and last night, he did this:

Yep, that is my blood and what used to be a pretty nice dress and purse. =-(

Had to call 911, etc. He is out of the house for a few days so that I can leave.

This is probably the most embarassing, Jerry Springer type situation I have ever been in. Wow, I can't believe I let him tell me to not talk to my friends. Screw him.

So you got rid of that old fart ? That should be a blessing for you

 

[solidspine]

Good Luck with him

 

[-666-]

ur a fuking joke..seriously, do you have a life outside this board

Well, I haven't been on here for a while, because my ex-bf always said I was on here flirting and emailing pictures. I've been called every name in the book by that guy. So, I agreed not to come on here. However, he started getting so jealous that I couldn't even leave the house to go to the gym, or anywhere else, for that matter, and last night, he did this:

Yep, that is my blood and what used to be a pretty nice dress and purse. =-(

Had to call 911, etc. He is out of the house for a few days so that I can leave.

This is probably the most embarassing, Jerry Springer type situation I have ever been in. Wow, I can't believe I let him tell me to not talk to my friends. Screw him.

 

[Frisky]

ur a fuking joke..seriously, do you have a life outside this board

I can't believe you said such... you know some peeps don't have another outlet besides a random place to vent and release stress.

 

[gotmilk]

ur a fuking joke..seriously, do you have a life outside this board

No, she hangs around to open alters.

 

[Sub-Zero]

I think the fact that this type of behaviour is not rational factors into it. Also, some women know that men in general are reluctant to hit women, and most men would be reluctant to go to Police saying their wife is beating them.

i just think it is messed up when women emotionally abuse men and act surprised when they reach a point where they lose control and shit hits the fan

 

[Lestat]

welcome back sexy!

 

[Turd Ferguson]

Thanks guys. (sniffle). I really missed you guys. He kept the phones pulled out of the walls 90% of the time, broke computers, doors, walls. He didn't let me have any friends or people around. He's totally crazy and blaming me for bringing a beating on myself and that he is now in trouble with child protective services, as a result.

not your fault. you deserve better.