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why is it impossible?BIKINIMOM said:
do you guys think that stay-at-home mom is a full time job?
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There are these housing projects on the NE side of town where I work. A lot of stay at home moms there. The crappy kind. There are a lot of women having one kid a year after they turn 15-16 or so. Those poor kids. They run around dirty and neglected. We call the place, "The Thorns"( it's really named Hawthorne). These chicks think the world belongs to them. They have better electronics than I could ever dream of owning, yet, the kids don't have shit. They need to just drop a bomb in that place.
I do, however, know several working mothers that do a great job. It's gotta be hard work.
My mother became a stay-at-home mom when I was about 13. That's because I started getting into a lot of trouble. Now, it makes me feel bad- the shit I put my parents through.
My mom was at my school almost as much as me. I never knew when she was going to walk into one of my classes. Every one of my teachers had my mom's phone # memorized. If I would have went to a public school, they prolly would have just kicked me out. Now that I'm older, I realize how lucky I am to have the parents I have.
I do, however, know several working mothers that do a great job. It's gotta be hard work.
My mother became a stay-at-home mom when I was about 13. That's because I started getting into a lot of trouble. Now, it makes me feel bad- the shit I put my parents through.
My mom was at my school almost as much as me. I never knew when she was going to walk into one of my classes. Every one of my teachers had my mom's phone # memorized. If I would have went to a public school, they prolly would have just kicked me out. Now that I'm older, I realize how lucky I am to have the parents I have.
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imystify said:
Totally legitimate question. Until someone has lived through this nightmare, they cant begin to know what havoc it wreaks on all parties concerned.
I dont know of anyone who would make themselves available to baby-sit me my children (that is from pick-up till drop off) for all the hours that I am to have. This person would have to have no job or personal obligations to anyone else. Do you know of anyone who could do this?... because I do not. My sister has three children of her own that she home-schools and is also self-employed, helps her husband run their architectural business out of their home office. Also by serving as a supervisor, they would be opening themselves up to personal and legal liability.
My family went through this hell once 3 years ago. Robbed us all (that is me, my kids, my sister and brotherinlaw, and their 3 kids) of over 6 months of our lives. To what end? I was found fit and ALL allegations were found to be totally without merit.... until the new allegations my ex filed with the court a few months down the road.
He has done this to me and my girls and my family 4 times in 3 years.
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The Shadow said:
Agreed! Mothers who are lucky enough to stay at home with their, have choosen that as their full time job and like any other job should do it to the best of their abilities.
Sure from time to time moms will complain about their job, but then who doesn't at one time or another. However, the greatest thing about self employment is being able to change the things in your job that are working the best.
If a mother is miserable staying at home, then I think it serves the children better if they are in a dayhome and the mother goes back to work because then the mother will end up resenting the kids and that does no one any good.
I have been on both sides, single working mother, and now married mother and have been blessed with the ability to stay at home and be there for my kids all the time and I would not trade it for the world.
But it is definitly a full time job because I want it too be.
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Guys, if you haven't stayed home with two under 2 years of age then you don't understand. It never stops. You are on the job 24/7 day and night and never get a good nights sleep bc you are the one that has to get up with sick kids, teething, colds, flu, etc. There is a never ending amount of household production that occurs with all the laundry, cleaning up toys, entertaining kids, teaching, nurturing, cooking, bed bath and bottle time, etc.
Lets just say after doing it for almost a year that I have found a great new appreciation for stay at home moms and what they accomplish while making it look easy. I can understand Bmom's point of view, and many husbands are unappreciative, which really sucks. Thankfully, my wife was very appreciative and was forgiving while I became an expert at being Mr. Mom. Now, I make it a point to help out more. I have always been the cook, and the kitchen is my office, fucking spotless. However, that is not enough for me to do by itself with a clear conscience knowing full well how much household production is on her plate. The good side is that I get more sex. But its worth it anyway with how happy she has been now that the roles are reversed.
Lets just say after doing it for almost a year that I have found a great new appreciation for stay at home moms and what they accomplish while making it look easy. I can understand Bmom's point of view, and many husbands are unappreciative, which really sucks. Thankfully, my wife was very appreciative and was forgiving while I became an expert at being Mr. Mom. Now, I make it a point to help out more. I have always been the cook, and the kitchen is my office, fucking spotless. However, that is not enough for me to do by itself with a clear conscience knowing full well how much household production is on her plate. The good side is that I get more sex. But its worth it anyway with how happy she has been now that the roles are reversed.
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Your ex needs a binding spell put on his ass, or a bullet in the head
- and that's said in the nicest possible way given the Christmas seasonal spirit. 
understanding more now, thanky for replying and explaining. hijack -> I remember the day my ex mentioned even daring to try and take away my girl (she was 2 and he'd threatened to take her to saudi where I'd never see her again - keep in mind I had cervical cancer after her and could have no more kiddos ) I said nothing, hung up the phone, and loaded a gun and drove the 45m to his place, apparently my stepdad noticed and was following me. I got to the house and got out of my car with the gun in my hand (had a sweatshirt on so hand was in my pocket). He came racing out of the house saying he had my dad on the phone, then my stepdad drove up... Clearly, I told each of them that with the ex gone, that either my mom/step or my dad would be logically next in line for custody - ex was saudi/no family here - and that I'd appreciate it if they could keep a good eye on her until she was old enough to know more. Well the ex got on his knees and begged and as I walked up to him and something in me clicked - thankfully some grace stopped me. Something ran through my head about my daughter would not fair well if mom killed dad (who, by the way she has no contact with because he later signed off on the papers once his next wife had a boy)... thank God for grace at that moment.BIKINIMOM said:
Your ex needs a binding spell put on his ass, or a bullet in the head
- and that's said in the nicest possible way given the Christmas seasonal spirit. Longhorn85
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biteme said:
You're not my type
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Re: hijack
Thank you for sharing - and Thank goodness for the grace of God.
You are correct on all counts.... The only thing that has kept me from actually putting that bullet in his head is that I would sit in jail for the rest of my natural life because of a piece of trash and that my children would have to bear the burden of knowing that "mommy killed their scumbag daddy" - and NOT a moral qualm. I would be morally justified if I slit that bastard's throat. No one argues with that. But that still doesnt make it "right".
I have a very loving and supportive husband now. He lives to make me happy. WE will find a legal and proper way to deal with my children's sperm donor. He is NO FATHER.... just an individual that gave his sperm. And we would NEVER do anything that would shorten his life. We WANT him to live to be a thousand so he can wallow in his self-created misery for a long-assed time. He will be begging to see hell.
Someday my girls will have their mother and a loving and amazing father. And that man is none other than my current husband.
Happy Holidays to all.
imystify said:understanding more now, thanky for replying and explaining. hijack -> I remember the day my ex mentioned even daring to try and take away my girl (she was 2 and he'd threatened to take her to saudi where I'd never see her again - keep in mind I had cervical cancer after her and could have no more kiddos ) I said nothing, hung up the phone, and loaded a gun and drove the 45m to his place, apparently my stepdad noticed and was following me. I got to the house and got out of my car with the gun in my hand (had a sweatshirt on so hand was in my pocket). He came racing out of the house saying he had my dad on the phone, then my stepdad drove up... Clearly, I told each of them that with the ex gone, that either my mom/step or my dad would be logically next in line for custody - ex was saudi/no family here - and that I'd appreciate it if they could keep a good eye on her until she was old enough to know more. Well the ex got on his knees and begged and as I walked up to him and something in me clicked - thankfully some grace stopped me. Something ran through my head about my daughter would not fair well if mom killed dad (who, by the way she has no contact with because he later signed off on the papers once his next wife had a boy)... thank God for grace at that moment.
Your ex needs a binding spell put on his ass, or a bullet in the head
Thank you for sharing - and Thank goodness for the grace of God.
You are correct on all counts.... The only thing that has kept me from actually putting that bullet in his head is that I would sit in jail for the rest of my natural life because of a piece of trash and that my children would have to bear the burden of knowing that "mommy killed their scumbag daddy" - and NOT a moral qualm. I would be morally justified if I slit that bastard's throat. No one argues with that. But that still doesnt make it "right".
I have a very loving and supportive husband now. He lives to make me happy. WE will find a legal and proper way to deal with my children's sperm donor. He is NO FATHER.... just an individual that gave his sperm. And we would NEVER do anything that would shorten his life. We WANT him to live to be a thousand so he can wallow in his self-created misery for a long-assed time. He will be begging to see hell.
Someday my girls will have their mother and a loving and amazing father. And that man is none other than my current husband.
Happy Holidays to all.
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myway said:
i just noticed this...lol
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