do you guys think that stay-at-home mom is a full time job?

[myway]

HH and Bigmann...... both for mommy of the year

 

[Jimsbbc]

I was a stay at home dad for almost a year after graduating college and looking for employment. Tough to do a job search and take care of a 6 month old and a 2 year old who is getting into everything. Anyone can do it though, men included. I have to admit that my nurturing and care skills are much more developed now as is the bond I have with my children. I have always done the cooking, and stayed on top of the laundry and kept the house mostly clean. I was exhausted by the end of the day, but not so much that I used it for an excuse to ignore and neglect my wife. A lot of women use that as justification to refuse sex and intimacy in a marriage, which is a clear violation of their marriage vows.

 

[Bikini Mod]

I was a stay at home dad for almost a year after graduating college and looking for employment. Tough to do a job search and take care of a 6 month old and a 2 year old who is getting into everything. Anyone can do it though, men included. I have to admit that my nurturing and care skills are much more developed now as is the bond I have with my children. I have always done the cooking, and stayed on top of the laundry and kept the house mostly clean. I was exhausted by the end of the day, but not so much that I used it for an excuse to ignore and neglect my wife. A lot of women use that as justification to refuse sex and intimacy in a marriage, which is a clear violation of their marriage vows.

Was your wife APPRECIATIVE of all the "work" that you did during the day?... or did she bitch about the tasks that you didnt get to? Did she regularly make comments like, "Damn dinner is late AGAIN? WTF were you doing all day? How come the laundry is still in the basket unfolded? Why cant you keep the kids quiet when I come home? I just stepped on a fucking lego and goddamn it hurts. Why arent the kids' toys picked up?"

It isnt that women use the work they do as an excuse to avoid intimacy. Their work is often unappreciated and even made fun of. Tell me, would you want to be intimate with a spouse that treated you this way? Not to mention the fact that though you BUSTED YOUR ASS - you were not the one who was physically drained by having to go through the pregnancies. Imagine being pregnant while taking care of your sub 2 year old. Think about how much work you would have been able to get done being sick, exhausted and stretched to the limit both physically and emotionally, forget about mentally as your mind would have been turned to mush.

Kudos to you for being a STANDUP father. But in the end your children and your wife will be your greatest fans - because you WERE AND ARE SUCH A WONDERFUL DAD/LIFE PARTNER. The opinions of society will not change nor does that likely matter to you.

 

[H_T_]

no.

 

[Bikini Mod]

no.

Actually you are correct.

A full-time job is 40 hours p/week. You get paid. You get regular reviews with pay raises. You get sick/personal days and paid vacation after X amount of time with the company. There are usually other bennies but these are bare-bones minimum one would think.

You dont have to fuck your boss on demand and if you dont like it you just leave and get another job without so much as a shred of regret.

 

[velvett]

Hard to say - I don't have kids.

I will say from personal observation - my friends that are stay at home mothers/wives complain a whole a lot, whine about their husbands "never pitching in", getting to go out and getting gifts for them and not just gifts for the kids.


As for my mother - my father asked for 3 things:
check deposited to bank once a week
dry cleaning dropped out and picked up once a week
dinner nightly

She mostly failed.

The fought about it all the time and he was like I don't understand how you could have not had the time.

I can't blame him.

I was a quiet obedient child that loved to sleep and was out of her hair 12 hours every day between school and skating for 10 out of my first 17 years

 

[foreigngirl]

Was your wife APPRECIATIVE of all the "work" that you did during the day?... or did she bitch about the tasks that you didnt get to? Did she regularly make comments like, "Damn dinner is late AGAIN? WTF were you doing all day? How come the laundry is still in the basket unfolded? Why cant you keep the kids quiet when I come home? I just stepped on a fucking lego and goddamn it hurts. Why arent the kids' toys picked up?"

It isnt that women use the work they do as an excuse to avoid intimacy. Their work is often unappreciated and even made fun of. Tell me, would you want to be intimate with a spouse that treated you this way? Not to mention the fact that though you BUSTED YOUR ASS - you were not the one who was physically drained by having to go through the pregnancies. Imagine being pregnant while taking care of your sub 2 year old. Think about how much work you would have been able to get done being sick, exhausted and stretched to the limit both physically and emotionally, forget about mentally as your mind would have been turned to mush.

Kudos to you for being a STANDUP father. But in the end your children and your wife will be your greatest fans - because you WERE AND ARE SUCH A WONDERFUL DAD/LIFE PARTNER. The opinions of society will not change nor does that likely matter to you.

lol!!!! I sooooo feel ya on that. Or you are trying to feed the 18 month old, trying to amuse the 4 year old and cook dinner for the husband and then you get - where is the garlic bread? Why is the sauce not the same as when I made it? Blah blah blah

 

[foreigngirl]

Hard to say - I don't have kids.

I will say from personal observation - my friends that are stay at home mothers/wives complain a whole a lot, whine about their husbands "never pitching in", getting to go out and getting gifts for them and not just gifts for the kids.


As for my mother - my father asked for 3 things:
check deposited to bank once a week
dry cleaning dropped out and picked up once a week
dinner nightly

She mostly failed.

The fought about it all the time and he was like I don't understand how you could have not had the time.

I can't blame him.

I was a quiet obedient child that loved to sleep and was out of her hair 12 hours every day between school and skating for 10 out of my first 17 years

when the kids are off to school full time, I dont think the mom needs to stay home all day long anymore.

 

[Longhorn85]

Hard to say - I don't have kids.

I will say from personal observation - my friends that are stay at home mothers/wives complain a whole a lot, whine about their husbands "never pitching in", getting to go out and getting gifts for them and not just gifts for the kids.


As for my mother - my father asked for 3 things:
check deposited to bank once a week
dry cleaning dropped out and picked up once a week
dinner nightly

She mostly failed.

The fought about it all the time and he was like I don't understand how you could have not had the time.

I can't blame him.

I was a quiet obedient child that loved to sleep and was out of her hair 12 hours every day between school and skating for 10 out of my first 17 years

Thanks for sharing that. I am curious if they are still married.

Mrs Longhorn has stayed at home our entire marriage, but we have lots of kids. Once they have all left she will may find work outside the home, but right now she is very busy with the kids and other endeavors such as art, volunteer work, etc.

 

[biteme]

Thanks for sharing that. I am curious if they are still married.

Mrs Longhorn has stayed at home our entire marriage, but we have lots of kids. Once they have all left she will may find work outside the home, but right now she is very busy with the kids and other endeavors such as art, volunteer work, etc.

Can I be your wife? I wouldn't mind staying home all day and being out of the rat race.