do you guys think that stay-at-home mom is a full time job?

[bigmann245]

 

[foreigngirl]

Been a working single mom, working married mom, and most recently a stay at home mom/engaged.

All have been hard in one way or another - I'd have to say HAVING KIDS IS HARD... whether you are at work or not, moms/dads still get tired, need time out, have selfish moments, their own life dreams - and kids bust through all of that whether you work or not... when I worked I paid someone else to cover the hours I couldn't. when I had a man at home plus work & kids, that meant virtually no time out from all - that was the most stressful.

I've recently accepted a new job. I'm engaged. Child is 12. The job is only 4x week so that I have 1 day off without kids or man. His days off are days I work and kids at school. We have a mix now where each gets their time out from the other... very nice!!! (not easy to do with younger ones, but at 12, its different than when they are little)

I agree about that part. It seems like after the little ones go to bed, you still have to take care of your man, cuz that big baby is still up and not sleeping Thats why when my husband has more than 3 days off from work, I tell him to go somewhere when evening falls, so I can let my brain and body loose

 

[heatherrae]

YES. it is different than the typical "job", but it is still EXTREMELY difficult. no matter how much money my father made or how hard he worked, I would have NEVER turned out like this if it wasn't for my mother.

So, it's your mother we should blame?

 

[The Shadow]

Depends....if you are truly doing what "needs" to be done with the home and kids....then yes definitely

 

[Bikini Mod]

When I was a stay-at-home mom the job was 25 hours 8 days per week. When I became a single mom by choice my life became exponentially easier as I had ZERO bullshit to contend with from a man, I paid my own bills and still took care of my household and my kids. I only needed to work outside the home which was actually RELAXING compared to what I did before. Since I have no children to take care of my mind is numb... I have so much free time I am depressed and feel that I have no value as a human being.

Even WITH working on projects and the gym/socializing... I STILL have so much free time that I am bored out of my mind.

 

[heatherrae]

When I was a stay-at-home mom the job was 25 hours 8 days per week. When I became a single mom by choice my life became exponentially easier as I had ZERO bullshit to contend with from a man, I paid my own bills and still took care of my household and my kids. I only needed to work outside the home which was actually RELAXING compared to what I did before. Since I have no children to take care of my mind is numb... I have so much free time I am depressed and feel that I have no value as a human being.

Even WITH working on projects and the gym/socializing... I STILL have so much free time that I am bored out of my mind.

Aw, sorry to hear that. This was only a year ago that the kids went to live with their father? Wow, that must still be really fresh. Do you ever have revenge fantasies?

 

[Bikini Mod]

Aw, sorry to hear that. This was only a year ago that the kids went to live with their father? Wow, that must still be really fresh. Do you ever have revenge fantasies?

It's far worse than that... In the last three years he has taken custody of them from me with false allegations 4 times. Each time they are kept from me just *that much* longer, ALL CHARGES FOUND TO BE WITHOUT MERIT, I get them back, cycle repeats with NEW allegations to the point where we are today. It has been a slow torturous death for all of us. My family and I are overwrought and my husband WILLINGLY took all of this on.

As it stands I have ZERO rights to my children based on false allegations and NO WAY to even try to get them back as this judge has openly refused to listen to my testimony or even LOOK at my evidence. This judge took them from me "pending a DYFUS investigation" but granted me very supervised visitation (so stringent that it is IMPOSSIBLE for me to accomodate) naming my sister be my supervisor. THE SAME COMPLAINT WHICH CAUSED THE JUDGE TO TAKE MY KIDS THIS GO ROUND IS THE SAME COMPLAINT THAT ALSO ALLEGED THAT MY SISTER AND BROTHER-IN-LAW ABUSED MY CHILDREN TOO! DYFUS wants nothing to do with this as "they did not take them from me so they are not parties to this litigation" - only I CANT get them back until DYFUS prepares a report.... WHICH THEY HAVE BEEN REFUSING TO DO FOR MONTHS... DYFUS is stunned that a judge would do what he has done, yet they wont do anything to help because "legally" they were not involved.

So now... I am fucked... as are my children.

All the time and money pales in comparison to how this has (I fear) irrepairably damaged my children.

The stigma that goes along with this nightmare only adds insult to injury. I have gotten over it but can you imagine how fucked up it is for my kids to have to explain to people WHY they dont live with or are even allowed TO SEE their mother? My kids have told me that the therapists actually cry when my children tell them about their lives. Yea, they cry but wont do a FUCKING THING to help though.

It is daily hell that all of us are trapped in. My husband is my saving grace. I just pray to God that he doesnt also one day grow weary and walk away. If he did, I wouldnt blame him though.

 

[bigmann245]

When I was a stay-at-home mom the job was 25 hours 8 days per week. When I became a single mom by choice my life became exponentially easier as I had ZERO bullshit to contend with from a man, I paid my own bills and still took care of my household and my kids. I only needed to work outside the home which was actually RELAXING compared to what I did before. Since I have no children to take care of my mind is numb... I have so much free time I am depressed and feel that I have no value as a human being.

Even WITH working on projects and the gym/socializing... I STILL have so much free time that I am bored out of my mind.

i know how to "fill up" that time























































play solitaire .........get your mind out of the gutter i know what you thought meant....lol

 

[Bikini Mod]

i know how to "fill up" that time























































play solitaire .........get your mind out of the gutter i know what you thought meant....lol

LOL That is what EF is for!

 

[Arabian]

Yes I do, Its very difficult to watch children and wash and keep up with all of the chores. I am in favor of the government offering a hugh tax incentive for mothers that stay home....