do you guys think that stay-at-home mom is a full time job?

[foreigngirl]

So we stay at home moms could use a lesson from all you smart time management no children individuals? Ok.

As the single mother of two, who has a career, just coming off maternity leave, I can surely tell you that devoting your time to the caring and raising of children is, without doubt, the hardest job, the biggest responsilbity, and yes the most rewarding. It's the most fatiguing, the most bittersweet, most especially when one has to fill the role of two parents.

What I considered to be a cakewalk was when I had a job and no children. Even when I worked 12 hour days standing on my feet all day, I could still come home and fall asleep in my clothes if I wanted. I didn't have little ones depending on me for every meal, every snack, every diaper change, every clean article of clothing, every activity to attend, every page of homework to complete, every bath to get through, every tear to dry, every medical appointment to attend, every visit to emerg, every sickness to nurse, every game to play, every toy to wash, every bottle to sterilize, every baby food to prepare.

The fact that I do/did this and more, in addition to working and making very nice bank, and keeping a home is quite the accomplishment as far as I'm concerned. The level of tidiness in my home is far from what it was before I had my second, and again before I had my first, and that fact is not due to my time management skills, nor due to my lack of motivation or laziness. It's simply due to the fact that there aren't enough hours in the day, which doesn't include the five minutes here and there and we moms choose to take to get the fuck off our feet to either feed the baby or perhaps allow ourselves a bite of food, for I'm sure all the working world no children time management experts are taking the full benefit of their lunch hour.

Yes, childrearing is neverending, because as my experience as a Mother, I have found there is an emotional bank where the withdrawals never stop, and that can be pretty taxing in itself.

Those of you who do not have children are not in a position to comment, because you are not in a position to know. Those of you who state that you've done it and it's a piece of cake, calling other housewives or stay-at-home moms "lazy and disgusting" need a reality check. Most devoted parents who have been through the child-rearing cycle on planet Earth are nothing of the kind, and know the reverse is true.

OMG, swetie, wonderfull job with this post. Add to that taking care of a husband, having his meals for work and his meals while he is at home done too, put on top of that putting everything in front of him.....doing this all while you are trying to feed that baby in the high chair that is screaming bloody Mary and running after that 4 yo toddler that is being stubborn and dont want to eat, begging her to put something in her stomack....

All this is that me and you talk about is ONLY for those mothers that actually care. I've seen the opposite

 

[needtogetaas]

it all deepands on what she dos well she is at home.

 

[jnuts]

I think the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence. Your viewpoint depends on what side of the fence you've been sitting.

 

[Spartacus]

nope,not even close
I was washing me bronco out behind work the other day
when a gal I dated pulled up in her SUV withher 2 kids
blah,blah
she was bored and had way too much time

 

[foreigngirl]

I found being a stay at home more mentally demanding than any outside job. It's mentally exhausting and, frankly, for the most part, unappreciated and almost certainly unrewarded. To do both outside work and be a mother to young children uh uh.

You go to work you get paid ... some companies you do an exceptional job, you get a bonus, you get recognition. What do you get as a stay at home mom? The reward is intangible and frequently overlooked.

You potty train your kid, hey you're happy, the rest of the world is like, WELL, OF COURSE, that's what you're SUPPOSED to do!

its very stresfull. At least when I was childless and working long hours, I knew that when I come home I will get a real rest. The days off that I had - real rest. Now, there is no sleeping, no resting, you sit down to eat and you get up like 10 times because there is always something that the kids need. You lose your appetite like that too.

And then, someone is gonna tell you - well, thats your job!!! I feel like killing that person. I, even as a woman, always had that competitevness going on and wanted to do more with my life - not just sitting at home watching kids and taking care of a husband. But, oh, well, thats how life is and what it served me

 

[Spartacus]

or he didn't

 

[foreigngirl]

nope,not even close
I was washing me bronco out behind work the other day
when a gal I dated pulled up in her SUV withher 2 kids
blah,blah
she was bored and had way too much time

thats one of the mothers that I was talking about - the ones that dont pay that much attention to teh needs of their kids and put themselfs as #1. THose are not women that have it hard while being stay-at-home moms

 

[Dry Muscle]

Yes, there are parents who don't care, but when FG started this thread, I'm sure she was referring to the devoted moms, otherwise I think the title of this thread would have been "Do you guys think that stay-at-home moms who don't give a rat's ass have a full-time job?"

 

[victoria978]

ABSOLUTELY NOT.

I was a stay at home dad for a while, was easy and I loved it.

When your efficient about cleaning and errands it doesnt take you eight fucking hours to get three things done and then use it as an excuse why your too fucking tired to still be a spouse.

Housewives genereally disgust me and for the most part are really fucking lazy.

Wow!! You're angry. Maybe you talk to some one about that....like a shrink. You need to be hugged more. here ya go! Now LIGHTEN UP!! ya big doody-head!

 

[Spartacus]

Ummmm how many of the children did you carry to term, give birth to and nurse? My last pregnancy was also the most difficult. I was projectile vomitting daily till 21 weeks and by the beginning of the last trimester (when proper nutrition is most important) I was literally starving because my GI troubles kicked in again. My exhusband NEVER left for work late or came home early to help me with the kids even though I only asked him this favor - TWICE. Both times his answer was, "Love to stay and help you hun, but the customers need me. Gotta go."

Sort of fucking zaps your strength doing it that way..... dontcha think?

Hmmmmmmmm I had 4 kids in 5 years, nursed all of them as long as could and only had 2 in diapers for short periods. All of them were out of the crib and off the bottle by age 1 and all were out of diapers by 20 months. I ran the office for our electrical contracting company. Cooked, sewed, made halloween costumes and cookies from scratch. Only had a cleaning lady every other week when I was 7 months pregnant with my fourth and DEMANDED it. Took care of all the social obligations, busted my ass to get back to prepregnancy size before I got pregnant again and still fucked my exhusband silly 6 out of 7 nights per week (that is, when HE wasn't "too tired").

NONE of my children ever attended any sort of preschool and my oldest was 5 1/2 years old when I first left her and her sisters with a paid sitter.

Yea... it was a fucking cakewalk. LOL

and you have quite publically mentioned that at least one of them is failing all of her courses
of course you attach blame to another besides yourself
if you are to be believed though,I fail to see any success
regardless