do you guys think that stay-at-home mom is a full time job?

[foreigngirl]

and if you think the "mother" needs to be there so often
than what premuim are you placing on the father's time involvement?
has he got to have a commensurate input with the mother in less time?

well, the real hard time (not too much physicly, but mentally) have the moms like me, that are stay-at-home not by choice - no babysitter, husband works long and odd hours, so we cant switch with the kids, if I get a job I will be paying 50% if not more of my paycheck for day-care. So, I have to stay at home, while my kids see their dad only 2 hours max of the day cause he has to leave for work.

So, in those hours that are from us getting up till me waking my husband up - I have to feed and change the kids (feeding can take even a whole hour), clean up, cook lunch (and I mean lunch, not sandwiches) for my husband for work, put the baby down for a nap, work with my older one with her writing in english, cook for my husband "breakfast" while probably feeding the baby that just woke up. I cant cook hos breakfast earlier, cause he wants it fresh.

There, all this in just 5 hours.

 

[Smurfy]

dont forget about time for posting on ef!!

 

[foreigngirl]

dont forget about time for posting on ef!!

lol..yeah, thats after they fall asleep. Dont forget that I am not really posting during day time. And to asnwer the other post you made - it is worst for the women that take care of everything + go to work. I've been there.

 

[foreigngirl]

No it isnt. I've seen that twice on a CV and in both cases, I didnt even care to read the rest. I dont hire that kind of people.

what is CV? And what kind of people you wouldnt hire? Moms?

 

[Smurfy]

Fuckin women's liberation. god damn bra-burning bitches ruined it for the rest of us June Cleaver wanna-bes.

 

[manny78]

what is CV? And what kind of people you wouldnt hire? Moms?

curriculum vitae = resume. I wouldnt hire people who stayed home and used their kids as an excuse. As far as I'm concerned, my parents worked both full time and we all grew happy at home.

 

[foreigngirl]

curriculum vitae = resume. I wouldnt hire people who stayed home and used their kids as an excuse. As far as I'm concerned, my parents worked both full time and we all grew happy at home.

Manny, I am talking about women that are stay-at-home not by choice. Trust me, I would do anything to be able to work again. I even tried to get an interview before my husband cleared my head that it is not possible for now, at least before both kids start school.

A lot of people are not using that as an excuse, but they had no other choice. On the other hand, there is lazy women that do and those are the ones fucking it all up

 

[manny78]

Manny, I am talking about women that are stay-at-home not by choice. Trust me, I would do anything to be able to work again. I even tried to get an interview before my husband cleared my head that it is not possible for now, at least before both kids start school.

A lot of people are not using that as an excuse, but they had no other choice. On the other hand, there is lazy women that do and those are the ones fucking it all up

No choice ? How ? Immigration laws ? because no one would hire you ? Because husband doesnt want you to ? Please explain. Sorry, i just had my 3rd drink...

 

[Bikini Mod]

and you have quite publically mentioned that at least one of them is failing all of her courses
of course you attach blame to another besides yourself
if you are to be believed though,I fail to see any success
regardless

When my children lived with me fulltime as their father was forced to give them back as he could not make them attend school - THEY ALL WERE STRAIGHT A - or A's and a few B's... even my baby who has a learning disability, that was diagnosed because of ME. Then a judge sua sponte gave them to him half-time, ALL the grades began slipping and discipline problems with my oldest began to escalate (forgive me for not posting all this up for your comments/approval ASSWIPE... ) then this same judge TOOK LEGAL AND PHYSICAL CUSTODY FROM ME IN OCT OF 05 BECAUSE A - their father made false allegations about my children being abused in the childcare of the gym where I would bust my ass working from 5AM till sometimes 9PM, though I hated taking clients after 3PM as my girls needed me to help w/homework etc - oh shit!!! A single mother busting her ass in an honorable profession of nationally certified personal trainer and even WITH the bullshit childsupport their father was forced to pay at the time - I WAS STILL ELIGIBLE FOR FOODSTAMPS - MOTHER FUCKER - YOU THINK THAT MAYBE THERE WAS SOMETHING WRONG WITH THIS JUDGE'S CALCULATIONS?!?!... Hhhhhhhmmmm I worked too many hours and bingobango said judge TOOK CUSTODY - then ALL the children's grades continued to drop - my second in danger of failing every single one of her academic classes - my oldest deciding she was going to go wherever/whenever with whomever and NOT tell a parent... so motherfucker, I found her and whooped her ass... yup I posted up about it remember? Hmmmmm since then - no more serious discipline problem with my oldest but she is now officially C average at best.... From honor roll every semester residing with me.

Read my lips asshole - my children are with me only one day per week and every other weekend.

Since the change in custody - ALL of my children are failing or C average at best, behave like spoiled ANIMALS in their father's presence (Oh, didnt I tell you? At his apartment he has been warned if there is ONE MORE COMPLAINT about the disturbances at his place - THE FUCKING POLICE WILL BE CALLED.

Hmmmmmmmmmmmm what else?

The very month that my children were taken from me, I was the top producer in THE COMPANY because I came to work above and beyond to keep from blowing my brains out in my apartment alone. I didnt drink or date or do drugs - I came to work and then stayed to work out myself.

Oh yea... I have since been stripped of the ability to viably support myself and my children because IF I work when I have my children, I stand to lose that time!

I can not function as a trainer because I can not work consistently enough to sign clients. So I can only take minimum wage jobs like waitressing/bartending. Am enrolled to begin nursing school in Sept but am TERRIFIED as in order to maintain my eligibility to receive financial aid I must attend school fulltime. I am hoping to increase my time to a true shared arrangement one week on/one week off... So now ASSHOLE when am I supposed to study/earn enough to support us (Oh, did I tell you? That I get ZERO childsupport even though I have my FOUR children nearly half the time? and I am unemployed?... I had to cut back my hours in order to regain custody of my kids - so my motherfucking company FIRED ME.) and go to school AND BE MOTHER...... WHEN?!?!!

FUCK YOU ASSHOLE

Dont you ever ever EVER fucking post up to me or about me again you MOTHER FUCKING ASSWIPE.

Go clusterfuck yourself cause baby - you aint NEVER gonna come within 10 feet of this.

Feel me motherfucker?

I am done with you asshole - hear me? fucking DONE. Go fuck yourself and the lameassed pisspoor excuses for females that would give you and your sorry ass the time of day.

I am going to bed now, my girls are waiting.

 

[foreigngirl]

No choice ? How ? Immigration laws ? because no one would hire you ? Because husband doesnt want you to ? Please explain. Sorry, i just had my 3rd drink...

no choice because my husband works from 7pm till 5:30 am. He drives 55 miles to work each day. He leaves at 4pm and comes home at 6:30-7 am. Wakes up at 3pm. Now, tell me, how am I gonan be able to go to work.

Before he started these hours, we were just fine with both of us working and taking care of our kids