Question for the ladies, it's seckshual in nature....

[AFeedz]

P.S. Sounds like youve been Mr. Nice Guy long enough. Show her you still got a pair. Start by cutting out the massages in a diplomatic manner, because i have a feeling she knows she can keep on getting service from you without having to do anything in return.

Agree. Don't be too nice. She clearly thinks she can walk all over you in the sense she knows she can get what she wants from you without giving you what you want in return. And clearly a simple talking to is futile, so I'd just go "eye for an eye" and come up with a trade: she only gets what she wants if you get what you want. She obviously doesn't realize that your needs are as important as hers, and pretty much rewarding her even though she does nothing for you is only going to reinforce her behavior

Someone needs to be put in their place.

 

[IrightI]

Is this an expansion paragraph related to your post in my thread about seduction? if so, it seems as if your wife isnt making too much of an effort in this area, or too much effort to avoid them. I didn't read all the replies, but is she suffering form low self esteem? its def a powerful way to keep oneself caged and stay stay that way, when lacking a bit of confidence.

sure could be right off there, huhh. No, it's more an AntiD problem, coupled by a certain amount of, I don't know how else to say it but 'selfishness, not caring about others feelings", more like that. Nef has a really good post, ifshe had 1/4 of what Nef wrote, I'd be happy.

Me and BillyFred gave that post the "like" button...

 

[-SD-]

AmyFiedler-on-the-roof for the win

 

[blueta2]

Agree. Don't be too nice. She clearly thinks she can walk all over you in the sense she knows she can get what she wants from you without giving you what you want in return. And clearly a simple talking to is futile, so I'd just go "eye for an eye" and come up with a trade: she only gets what she wants if you get what you want. She obviously doesn't realize that your needs are as important as hers, and pretty much rewarding her even though she does nothing for you is only going to reinforce her behavior

Someone needs to be put in their place.

Yes, she's a dog and needs to be put in her place. Make sure you hit her with a newspaper when you get home and tell her she best obey! Who cares if her libido issues could be something physical, it doesn't matter, as long as you get your needs met!

great advice

 

[-SD-]

Yes, she's a dog and needs to be put in her place. Make sure you hit her with a newspaper when you get home and tell her she best obey! Who cares if her libido issues could be something physical, it doesn't matter, as long as you get your needs met!

great advice

But when the reverse happens shes just getting her "emotional needs met" by being driven to another man. She wouldnt have to do that if her husband were there for her needs right?
I know no ones cheated yet but thats exactly what needs to be prevented and shes not doing her part as a spouse.

 

[cindylou]

Lol

 

[IrightI]

Agree. Don't be too nice. She clearly thinks she can walk all over you in the sense she knows she can get what she wants from you without giving you what you want in return. And clearly a simple talking to is futile, so I'd just go "eye for an eye" and come up with a trade: she only gets what she wants if you get what you want. She obviously doesn't realize that your needs are as important as hers, and pretty much rewarding her even though she does nothing for you is only going to reinforce her behavior

Someone needs to be put in their place.

I'm thinking of something more like this. Just grab her and flip her over on her stomach and tell her that I'm tired of this shit! Grab the KY and show her what a real mans tool can do for her attitude. After I've savaged her and got my nutt, put her on her back and tell her to lick it off giving me time to recover to give it to her again. Wimmen like that kind of thing you know...

How's THAT!! I'll show HER who's boss.... and then call the best divorce lawyer I can find.

 

[AFeedz]

Yes, she's a dog and needs to be put in her place. Make sure you hit her with a newspaper when you get home and tell her she best obey! Who cares if her libido issues could be something physical, it doesn't matter, as long as you get your needs met!

great advice

She DOES need to be put in her place. I'm not telling him to go treat her like a dog, but yeah, I do think something needs to be done. I, personally, would never want to be in a relationship that was one sided. And I wouldn't want to be in a relationship where, when I confronted my partner about my needs being met, they ignored me but still expected their own needs to be met.

He pretty much made it clear he got no reaction from her when telling her nicely and truthfully what he needed from the relationship, so obviously words and Mr.Nice Guy didn't work. I don't think she's going to realize how much it sucks for him to not have his needs met until her needs are no longer met either.

Women like this drive me nuts and this is why men always complain. So many women are all "me me me, excuse excuse excuse". I'm sorry, but do you honestly think she deserves to have all of her needs met when she's meeting none of his? That's bullshit. Even if it is her libido, suck it the F up and just give him a little something. You think he wants to rub her ass every night? I'm sure he does sometimes, but I doubt every single night...but he does, because he cares.

Relationship is practically spelled s-a-c-r-i-f-i-c-e. It doesn't matter if she wants to or not or if her libido is up at that moment or not. He's not asking for it every day. She needs to deal with it and sacrifice a little for the happiness of the person she loves.

So yeah, I think I gave some pretty great advice.

 

[AFeedz]

I'm thinking of something more like this. Just grab her and flip her over on her stomach and tell her that I'm tired of this shit! Grab the KY and show her what a real mans tool can do for her attitude. After I've savaged her and got my nutt, put her on her back and tell her to lick it off giving me time to recover to give it to her again. Wimmen like that kind of thing you know...

How's THAT!! I'll show HER who's boss.... and then call the best divorce lawyer I can find.

I don't think you should treat her poorly. I just think showing her how much it sucks to not have her needs met would show her how important your needs are to you.

By continuing to meet all her needs when she isn't meeting yours, she has no reason to change. If I knew I didn't have to do shit for anybody else, but could still get whatever I wanted, what reason would I have to change my behavior? None. Your wife is clearly out for herself. I think she needs to be reminded that a relationship is a two-way street. That's all.

 

[twenty47]

i didnt read the whole thread but she sounds selfish and ive come to realize you cannot change people like that. when im in a relationship i always go out of my way to satisfy the girl be it sexually or just everyday stuff. i get off on seeing her happy. my ex that i dated for like 2 years would RARELY ever just do something for me just for me without something being in it for her. It always bothered me and i just learned to live with it.

next 2 girls i fooled around with after her were the complete op. made me wake up and smell the roses that i dont need to be with someone who doesnt do those things. this one girl was always scratching my head, giving me back rubs, would randomly suck me off on the coach, while in the car it didnt matter. and she asked nothing in return and would just be like i hope u liked that, all bc she wanted to please me. some people only do things for themselves and it just isnt inside of them to provide or do things for others. my best friend is like that. he doesnt do anything unless he see's something in it for him. Now that really never mattered to me bc he was just my friend but i can see he's just like my ex with his girlfriend and i feel bad for her.