Question for the ladies, it's seckshual in nature....

[nydj66]

admonishment noted. Your correct. we were very active, then the dreaded Zoloft was almost a relationship killer. She now is on something that doesn't affect her nearly as much. So, it was later...

Wellbutrin has the least incidence of sexual dysfunction; in some people it actually increases libido.

But it's effective in some people and not in others. In some cases it makes anxiety worse or leads to aggression.

 

[b0und]

Women have all the power because they have the vagina.

Why do you think man invented the fleshlight?

Don't give me this feminist, men run the world, patriarchy crap.

Pussy = Ultimate control - they have it, we want it.








b0und (and that's the ultimate truth)

 

[blueta2]

admonishment noted. Your correct. we were very active, then the dreaded Zoloft was almost a relationship killer. She now is on something that doesn't affect her nearly as much. So, it was later...

There you go. AD's have many side effects, low sex drive being one.
Doing this whole negotiating thing may just turn her off to sex. I had an ex many years ago who did that with the "I'll give you a back rub if we have sex" For me, that wasn't sexy or hot!

And now that's she's nearing peri (pre) menopause, it could get trickier.

 

[blueta2]

But he speaks the truth.

Not my truth. I know what I want

 

[AAP]

I just had a frank discussion with her where I said look, you want me to compliment you, and listen to you, and be a devoted father, and buy you little gifts, and rub your feet when they're sore, etc. because those are the things that YOU value in our relationship. Well, I'm much more simple to figure out than that. I like sex several times a week; it relaxes me, and makes me feel close to you, and reassures me that our relationship is solid.

So that became our deal.

No, that became YOUR deal.



























with the Devil. Sucker.

 

[billfred]

I'll give the advice from a 44 yr olds perspective, First, I think it sucks you're calling your wife names. I get your hurt by her actions, but name calling is not cool

Women lose interest in sex for many reasons. There are too many to even mention. Most of the time, it's a physical reason. At her age, it could be peri menopause or if you say she's been like this for a while, maybe just has a low sex drive. And yes the dreaded, could be she's just not into sex with you.
Were you two wild and crazy when dating? Or she got like this later on in the relationship?

Here is the problem - men at this point still need to nut about once a week and really don't have time to figure out what are all the reasons the wife does not want to do it. He is only mildy interested in specifically doing it with her anyway.

She has a couple of choices, grin and bear it for 10 minutes once a week or risk him going out to get some strange.

Women who remain married at this point figure that out, the ones who don't are most likely divorced and looking.

 

[AAP]

The secret(s) to great sex all the time with ladies

also works just as well on men too.

 

[blueta2]

Wellbutrin has the least incidence of sexual dysfunction; in some people it actually increases libido.

But it's effective in some people and not in others. In some cases it makes anxiety worse or leads to aggression.

Well Wellbutrin is funny like that. It either decreases or increases libido.
AD's are messy meds

 

[nefertiti]

This is a question that I have had on my mind for a while. I would really like yalls input. It's gonna end up one of those Venus/Mars type deals I'm guessing, but tell me what you think.

I'm happily married, 51, wife is 45, both busy professionals, one kid, 13. We don't have any problems in the marriage, everything is good on most days. We hug, we kiss, we have all the "I love you" stuff happening. I'm trying to give yall some idea as to what type of marriage relationship I have, because the answers you give will ask these questions.

Question: My wife doesn't need sex as much as I do, never has. We do have excellent sex when we have it, I try and be a "giver" more than taker. I get really excited by being able to excite her, it's fulfilling for me to get her orgasm. So..... the problem is when she isn't wanting sex, there will be no sex. No oral, no using hands, nada. She controls the sex in our house 100%. Why is it that she feels no obligation to have sex of SOME kind if it's been a week or more. I understand tired. I understand having alot on your mind. I understand wanting to just watch TV and relax. But I'm not asking her to go outside and dig a 6' deep ditch in the backyard! It's just to take 15-20 minutes and have some kind of sex. It's OK if she isn't wanting the full blown all-out marathon sex, unless it's the weekend I prolly don't either. But what's the matter with 10-15 minutes, I'll certainly bring her to orgasm if that's what she wants. I just don't get it. If the shoe was on the other foot, I wouldn't do that to her. This is a real mental problem for me. I'd really like to hear some of the wimmens thoughts on this.
Is the answer: She's a selfish bitch. Is there more to it. idk

discuss.....

(kids, take your toys and go to your rooms, this is an adult discussion)

I may have an unfeminist view of this but I honestly believe a woman who is married should make an effort to take care of her husband's physical needs even when she's not in the mood. Sometimes once you start the process you GET in the mood, but you can't get there if you don't push yourself a little first. Physical intimacy is important to the health of a relationship beyond meeting physical needs, especially for women, considering that when we have an orgasm our bodies release the "bonding" hormone. On the flip side, the man should continue to meet his wife's emotional needs with affection, quality time spent together, or whatever they may be.

 

[williamske]

Being a female, I can say our brains are just wired differently than a mans. There are times when I act like a dude and want to throw it down where ever I am at that moment! And then there are times where I can't think of sex because there is just too much shyt going on in my head. This is coming from someone with no kids and just a demanding job. I have been with my man now for almost 8 years, and recently he learned a new trick in bed (2 years ago) and it drives me wild - so now I enjoy sex even more then I used to. He is very much a giver though, maybe men lose that when they get older? Idk.

Is your wife on birth control? If she is - chances are it is killing her sex drive. Birth control is like a constant cycle of steroids - just not good for you in my opinion. My opinion comes from being on it for 7 years and finally deciding to go off it. It's risky, but most times it will bring back her sex drive.....

9 times out of 10 if the 'lovey' sides exist in your relationship, like you expressed that she kisses you and all that, then it is not something that you are doing. It is her. If it were something you were doing, I am sure you would know it - she wouldn't be acting lovey like that.