Question for the ladies, it's seckshual in nature....

[iggy]

AD's usually kill sex drives over time. how long has she been on one bro?
that with the combination of pre-menapause could definitely attribute to it.

 

[billfred]

I may have an unfeminist view of this but I honestly believe a woman who is married should make an effort to take care of her husband's physical needs even when she's not in the mood. Sometimes once you start the process you GET in the mood, but you can't get there if you don't push yourself a little first. Physical intimacy is important to the health of a relationship beyond meeting physical needs, especially for women, considering that when we have an orgasm our bodies release the "bonding" hormone. On the flip side, the man should continue to meet his wife's emotional needs with affection, quality time spent together, or whatever they may be.

See - Nef just did a better job saying what I was trying to point out. I think she has lady balls.

 

[blueta2]

AD's usually kill sex drives over time. how long has she been on one bro?
that with the combination of pre-menapause could definitely attribute to it.

yes that combo is a sex killer

 

[IrightI]

There you go. AD's have many side effects, low sex drive being one.
Doing this whole negotiating thing may just turn her off to sex. I had an ex many years ago who did that with the "I'll give you a back rub if we have sex" For me, that wasn't sexy or hot!

And now that's she's nearing peri (pre) menopause, it could get trickier.

first. let me say... Hello Blueta. It's always nice to see you. I hope all has been well.

Yes, the antiD's suck the big one, Zoloft being the worst by far imo. She wasn't able to do well on some others, but now is taking a milder one, starts w/ a C. (help me Nef) It isn't nearly as bad on her libido. Just before, during, and after a period we seem to have alot more "sexy time" as Digi says. If I could figure out how to keep that hormone high and supply it on the 2 "off" weeks, that would be cool. lol

My original question was geard towards what Nef was saying. What do you personally do. What my wife does and just asy no, just give in and try to enjoy it, offer to "help" him take care of it himself? What is the general consensus. I'd like to know. And Nef, bless your heart, if my wife would take just a tad bit of that mindset, life would be good. Nice to see you too btw.

Oh yes, not on BC. We use non-hormonal methods. Both sides of her family are prone to blood clots, heart problems, etc., she hasn't been on them in years.

Where the F is NannyG, she's underfoot everyother time I'm here! Now that I was hoping that she would expound, she's left. sheeshhh

MM, if your here at some point, I always value your thoughts as well.

TxB


AAP, your a demented man, I actually looked at all those pics like a fool, and you have further cemented my oppinions that you are a VERY angry straight man who takes his anger out on unsuspecting gay men. I don't know what guy pissed you off, but he did a damn good job. huggs <<< no mo

 

[blueta2]

I'm a Natural Health Practitioner working with an ND (Natural doctor) in her private clinic and on my way to being a naturopath. We deal with these sort of things frequently. Hormones are a tricky, especially when taking AD's.
Most of the bodies hormones are produced by the adrenal glands and AD's stress out the glands causing hormones to go out of balance.
If she feels she really needs AD"s, maybe she can see an ND to work on her hormones to see if she can get back into balance

 

[OUFINNY]

There are a lot of safer, natural things (vitamins/Supps) she can take to help with depression and hopefully they will get her PFC of the AD. SAMe and colic acid dosed right can be just as effective as low dose AD meds, worked on my ex until she totally went off the deep end...

 

[nefertiti]

first. let me say... Hello Blueta. It's always nice to see you. I hope all has been well.

Yes, the antiD's suck the big one, Zoloft being the worst by far imo. She wasn't able to do well on some others, but now is taking a milder one, starts w/ a C. (help me Nef) It isn't nearly as bad on her libido. Just before, during, and after a period we seem to have alot more "sexy time" as Digi says. If I could figure out how to keep that hormone high and supply it on the 2 "off" weeks, that would be cool. lol

My original question was geard towards what Nef was saying. What do you personally do. What my wife does and just asy no, just give in and try to enjoy it, offer to "help" him take care of it himself? What is the general consensus. I'd like to know. And Nef, bless your heart, if my wife would take just a tad bit of that mindset, life would be good. Nice to see you too btw.

Oh yes, not on BC. We use non-hormonal methods. Both sides of her family are prone to blood clots, heart problems, etc., she hasn't been on them in years.

Where the F is NannyG, she's underfoot everyother time I'm here! Now that I was hoping that she would expound, she's left. sheeshhh

MM, if your here at some point, I always value your thoughts as well.

TxB


AAP, your a demented man, I actually looked at all those pics like a fool, and you have further cemented my oppinions that you are a VERY angry straight man who takes his anger out on unsuspecting gay men. I don't know what guy pissed you off, but he did a damn good job. huggs <<< no mo

Cymbalta? It's by no means mild, but it's supposed to have very little effect on the sex drive long term compared to other antidepresants on the market. I had issues with it during the first three-four weeks of taking it in terms of reaching orgasm being nearly impossible (along with a zillion other horrific side effects), but past the adjustment there was never any issues.

I think the issue some have here in terms of the start of the disconnect is some women seeing sex as a purely hormonal thing. I have been in places where i did not want it physically, or from a place of lust. But I craved the closeness from an emotional place, I needed the passion, the intense connection, because I'd had a terrible day/week and the only thing that could fix that was bonding on that level with the man I loved. I think a lot of women would find themselves more satisfied sexually later in life if they could attach that need that we don't outgrow with age or hormone imbalance to that sort of closeness with our partner. It doesn't have to be about hormonal libido. And even if you don't have that need at all...if you love your man you should take some joy out of purely taking care of him (so long as, again, he is extending himself to take care of you as well, in whatever ways you have need - it has to be a two way street of taking care of each other, even if it is in different ways).

 

[miplank]

wow, I had no idea EF had so many medical doctors.

 

[puddlemonkey]

wow, I had no idea EF had so many medical doctors.

shirlene held an on-line EF course


everyone's an expert now

 

[miplank]

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