Is it normal for me not to be attracted sexually when my wife is pregnant???

[muscleaddiction]

here's a link that explains some of the science:

What If She Were Always in the Mood? | Psychology Today

a few highlights...

as the duration of partnership increases, sexual desire generally declines in women—while desire for tenderness generally declines in men. Usually the more frustrated partner (of either gender) quite logically assumes he would be perfectly happy if only he could have as much sex as he wants.

when male monkeys were paired repeatedly with the same females (who were always in the mood, thanks to daily hormone injections). Monkey heaven, right? Nope. The males copulated less and less frequently, and with declining enthusiasm, over a three-and-a-half-year period. Not only that, when novel females showed up, these slackers hurriedly rolled into action with their original zest.

So what would happen if your mate were always in the mood? Chances are good that you soon wouldn't be...at least with her/him. The sad truth is that if your spouse isn't having orgasmic sex with you as often as you'd like, he or she could be preserving your union by preventing you from satiating yourself sexually too frequently. This is not an ideal situation, however, because without frequent affectionate contact, the emotional bonds between couples weaken, and, unfortunately, many couples drift into engaging in conscious affection only when pursuing orgasm.

dopamine (the "I gotta have it!" substance) was behind the phenomenon of mate fatigue. As a rat copulates repeatedly with the same partner, less and less dopamine is released in the reward circuitry of its brain.

when a novel potential mate shows up, dopamine surges again. It's the same mechanism that causes you to say "yes" to a sugary, fat-laden dessert even when you're full of turkey and mashed potatoes.

dopamine also naturally drops after orgasm, which plays right into this phenomenon. Our genes can be heartless puppeteers.

Scientists call the tendency to tire of a mate with whom one sexually satiates oneself, while mechanically perking up for a new one, the Coolidge Effect. They have observed this phenomenon widely among mammals, including females. Some female rodents, for example, flirt a lot more—arching in inviting displays—with unfamiliar partners than with those with which they've already copulated. In keeping with this phenomenon, when couples divorce because their sex lives have gone out of sync, the formerly uninterested spouse is often startled by a raging libido when a new lover enters the picture.

Our genes want us primed to pursue promising genetic opportunities even if we risk not "living happily ever after." Even if mates manage to stay faithful, this neurochemically induced dissatisfaction can make them see each other somewhat like another serving of "Hamburger Helper." Sure enough, research shows that spouses tend to find each other more irritating the longer they are married

Well this is depressing

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[muscleaddiction]

I would like smurf and nan to give their feedback as the female side of the spectrum...are women really less sexually attracted to their mates/husbands over the course of their relationship/marriage?

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[bigbassturd]

Pure crap. Both sets of my grandparents were married for 60 or more years, happy as piss.

fuck science.

 

[tryin2tone]

Pure crap. Both sets of my grandparents were married for 60 or more years, happy as piss.

fuck science.

My grandparents have been married for 55 years. My aunt married for over 40. I agree with bigbass, here, science has nothing to do with it.

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[wootoom]

Shit man I'm not even married

 

[wootoom]

It's too easy to get laid anymore. Technology is making it way easier to communicate which makes it easier to get pussy...ya people 30 years together are also together because they didn't even have fucking Internet. All you have to do now is go on FB or one of the 1 million dating sites

 

[tryin2tone]

Shit man I'm not even married

Give it time!!

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[wootoom]

Texting is the ice breaker..you can send pics of your cawk now and you're in...not even a chase anymore...fucking pathetic

 

[tryin2tone]

It's too easy to get laid anymore. Technology is making it way easier to communicate which makes it easier to get pussy...ya people 30 years together are also together because they didn't even have fucking Internet. All you have to do now is go on FB or one of the 1 million dating sites

Yea, but that doesn't mean you can't find someone and stay with them.

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[wootoom]

Yea, but that doesn't mean you can't find someone and stay with them.

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I'm not saying that though..I would never cheat. I know how it feels but all this communication nowadays opens the thought of cheating up more..