Sooner or later bro you just learn to ignore it all. Master the art of going mentally
def and mute when they get going about something. Prob is (and I know women will never admit it) yes they are looking for a fight. They need to get out frustration and you are the pillow. They also some times feel like if they can get a rise out of you then you must care.
What ever the reason I just tune it all out these days. I got to much to do as it is.