HumanTarget said:you know what i do to attract women? i act like a man. i stare at their asses, i tell them the crude thoughts i have about them, look at their boobs while they talk to me, burp, fart, eat what's on my plate and then whats left on theirs. quit trying to be their gaddam sister or best friend.
i dunno, i just went out tonight to a bar with a dance floor, and had a horrible time. right now im at the point where i feel like id do anything to get a woman or to attract them as long as i didnt lie or disrespect them. of course tomorrow ill wake up and feel lazy again

heatherrae said:There is a difference between doing stuff just to please someone and doing them because you enjoy them.
So, you are basically saying that you have absolutely no ambition to ever do anything in life except eat, sleep and live at home with your parents? You don't want anything for your life? You have nothing that interests you or that you hope for? ???
lots of ppl on these forums are telling me to do things just to please women. i think thats very unsatisfying in the long run.
I have very little ambition. I go to work, and then go home and go on the computer most nights. on the computer i try to talk to women i meet online, then i ponder why my life sucks with women and i post on various forums about it to try to find solutions. when i go out to try to meet women, i am really shy and depressed so i usually dont meet anyone. women are pretty much the only thing i want at the moment, and i still dont try hard enough to get one. women are currently what i hope for. and to move out and live in my own house someday. i also hope to one day get back in shape again to the way i was in highschool only better. also i hope to find more hobbies and make more friends.
the only way i would ever consider professional help would be if i could get it in multiple areas of my life, professional help towards mental health, professional help at becoming a better dancer, professional help at making friends, meeting women, etc.
there is no use living life unless i can live it and be happy.
but i have some major obstacles to get past, one of them is my religion which basically teaches that we arent supposed to have lives. Christ's sole purpose on earth was to serve others, and put others completely before himself. If I had to do that, and i had no time left for me, I'd rather not be alive.
also theres the whole sexual rules and guidelines regarding christianity.
i hope its not hopeless, i hope i can heal my brain and find answers and learn how to live and make myself happy, but right now it isnt working.