trying to date a woman from work,

[-Ariel-]

yea, i didn't take the weather comment too seriously. she coulda been doing something and just offered an alternative. it wasn't a flat out no the weather is bad, maybe next time sort of thing.

i'm just not sure if i can see her saying hey, what's up with this weekend?[/QUOTE


Your intuition is stronger than u think...
Do you really like her, or are u just bored,
or is life kinda got that stale feelin, this i know well, we all do, and if u don't u are a liar. if u dig on her and feel a spark, then take your time....

Does not sound like a ton of chem though...

If you are just bored, then take the risk..

How much do you like her based on past relationsihps?

What kind of persona does she have?

 

[MaGilicuti]

i was really into her at first but yea she kinda fell off in my eyes. i can't even say what it is but she just did. she's very attractive, smart and all that but perhaps i just had her so high in my eyes that she just fell short. i wouldn't mind hanging out with her a bit more just to see what's up.

i think waiting for her to say hi could come off as disrespectful. just not sure how to play my cards at this point.

 

[-SD-]

dont so shit for a month, because nether one of you guys are going anywehere since you work together. you got nothing but time bro.

 

[MaGilicuti]

i appreciate the advice but why wait for a month? how does that get me in her pants.

 

[-SD-]

i appreciate the advice but why wait for a month? how does that get me in her pants.

if you pull back and act like she is no big deal (because she really isnt) then she will wonder why you havent done anything for a while, in which case you will then make a move and things will get going again. you have to think on different timelines since you work together, it isnt like shes some random c hick at a bar you met and got her number and now you are on a time crucnh to make things happen or else.

 

[MaGilicuti]

fair enough superdave. that makes sense.

so you think me not inquiring about hanging out after we kinda said we would isn't disrespectful?

 

[-Ariel-]

SD, has no job, but he's got game.
Mag, I'm leaving the airport, just dropped the mom off, but when I get to the car...
lemme hit ya up with a lil knowledge, based off of me getting shot down... alot.

 

[-SD-]

fair enough superdave. that makes sense.

so you think me not inquiring about hanging out after we kinda said we would isn't disrespectful?

no, you are both still in your 20's, and he who holds the restraint and the "i dont give a fuck attitude" wins.
trust me, my personal policy has been to never dip my wick in the company ink, and it has served me well. you have to change your ttimeline expectations since you work together. there is no sense of urgency taht randon dingbats at bars have. she works with you and isnt going anywahere so dont sweat it bor. bleed it out

 

[UA_Iron]

You have to demonstrate value. I don't know if you've done that.

Once you do hang out - put a time constraint on it. like "I only have 2 hours, then I gotta do ____" That'll heighten the tension.

Give lots of backhanded compliments and neg's, like "do you always get that chimpmunk look when you laugh?"

Humor her, if you get her to laugh in her subconscious you are adding value by achieving making her laugh.

 

[-Ariel-]

See, superdave is right on the money. Thing is I don't like Evolutionary Psychology, however there are some partial truths to it. For example, women have a subconcious mechanism when it comes to flirtation... it's an evaluation technique, that is why they give you the mixed signal routine. You move a little forward, then a little back, a little forward... now if you can hold the course, and move in the a harmonious 'in step' rhythm... You are solid.

Too metaphysical SuperDave? LOL nice Karmic Message Bastage..

Okay, I'll get more specific. Here is the thing. If you are overeager, the thing is this says that you are a sensation bound, fickle mother fucker. -Not really, I'm exaggerating- What it tips the girl off, is that you do not understand the step by step process that success in life requires. It signals that you are not a winner. All is process, nothing, nobody is above the process of building. The magic is understanding this and abiding by it.

So here is what you do, become a daily part of her life. However, do not smother her. You have to see her a couple of minutes daily, The intervals I"m not sure, I dunno 10 minutes to 15 tops. Make her Laugh... I know easier said than done, but bear with me, it''s the principle that's important. So, you build this idea and habit that you are a part of her daily life, for 2 weeks. I would not try and sneak a coffee or lunch again for another week... Anyway after 2 weeks, make the move.

Again, I'm not C-Dub-, Lartinos, or PDaddy, Golden Delicious, but I've done allright.
It sounds like you genuinely like her, so if you wanna have a shot at life or anything for that matter, don't skip steps, get in the habit of following and abiding by process.

There is your Tony Robbins get in her pants advice.

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