Told my wife about my AS use - well sort of......

[THeMaCHinE]

Just tell her. She likes how your body looks and trusts your judgement.

Somebody above talked about the idea of trust and partnership in a marriage. They are 100 percent right. In fact, it was that very notion that made me tell my wife.

She was pissed at first that I had hidden it from her, but she wasn't mad about the roids themselves. When she understood the good they did for me mentally and physically, she advocated my use of them. Last cycle, she knew about everything the whole time. It felt great not to have to sneak around and lie to the person that you care most about.

 

[crimson coal]

Tell her bro...Would she really divorce you unless you turned into somekind of a total asshole on the stuff? If ya don't its gonna bug the shit out of ya till ya do. I told mine and promised her if there was ever a negative or I changed in anyways with my attitude towards her, that I would stop. She likes me better big and protective over her rather than fat lazy and wimpy around her.

 

[Auriflex]

I've been married over 10yrs, and I wouldn't tell my wife if she walked in on me with a pin sticking out of my thigh. Somehow, I would convince her she had been dreaming. Or something.

Mrs. Auriflex has told me if she ever caught me using 'roids - adios. So I make it real hard to catch me. Some have the luxury of an open-minded partner, and some do not. But if you've spent any amount of time with this woman - you already know which variety she is.

 

[hard]

Here is the way I look at it (and I am mostly in camp #1)...it should be like asking the chick to marry you, you should already know the answer, whether by hints, etc.

So, if you know how she is going to respond, base it on that. If you base it on some feminine notion of 'being faithful' or some other crock of shit, you are just flipping the coin. And also, does she use things against you that are not pertinent to the situation at hand? If so, that's another bad sign. Like if you are having an argument, and she is losing so she brings up that time you mugged down with her hotter, younger sister at the family reunion like she didn't know you were drunk. Because if she does stuff like that, if you ever get to a rocky stretch, be prepared to have it brought up. You can do searches on this where guys have been fired because the wife calls up, tells the boss, whammo, blood test, your're outta here. All kinds of stuff.

Not pretty. But some chicks are ok, and would never do that. At least in theory there are some chicks like that.

Hey Tx

Thanks for the reply - The paranoid (safe) side of me totally agrees with the logic of "don't give'm any extra ammo". But i am still wrestling with the "feminine notion of being faithfull" as you say. I guess if i'm struggling with it this much the best answer is probably to leave it as is and keep the injections to myself.


oh yeah - i liked the part about muggin down with the younger sister! I could just see myself having that argument!

 

[TxLonghorn]

The point I was trying to make is that chicks make up their own definitions that fit whatever it is they are 'feeling' at the time.

Are you lying to her when you don't tell her you would really like to have a 3some? Or how she is the third best blowjob-giver you have had, because there was this really hot chick who could just...

No, you don't tell her that shit, nor should you. And that is why I fail to see any logic in the assumption that if you take gear and don't tell her, you are branded unfaithful. Fuck that.

It comes down to what are you going to gain from this? Are you going to have a better, deeper relationship with your spouse/sig. other? No. Will she trust you more? Ha! Basically, the best case scenario is that she will say 'Ok'. Well jumpin' gee-whillickers, you were already doing it. What's the worst case scenario? Well, after calling the police on your junky-ass, busting you for possession or possibly intent to distribute, she then calls your employer, informs them they might want to do a blood test. Then, taking pictures of the evidence, mails them to all of your friends, her friends, and all the relatives including Grammy.

I just really fail to see much upside. That's my problem. And that's how I look at things. If I knew for certain there would be no problem, sure I would be tempted. And might actually tell her. But if I had one sliver of doubt, hell no.

 

[Hugh Gellatts]

tell her, but just don't mention that you brewed the tren in your kitchen out of cattle implants...that might freak her.

 

[vanillagorilla]

Wife doesn't know, I don't think she would have as big a fit over the tabs. Needles however I am sure would be a different story. She would have a shit fit over my homeaid fina.

 

[YellowD]

It's a good idea to test the water before you jump in. Drop little hints here and there. Mention something about illegal drugs... like, damn, that coke bust was pretty huge. Or wow, ecstasy sure must be awesome if everyone is using it. Use these to gauge her attitude towards illegal drugs in general.

Then, slowly dip into the steroid groove. Something along the lines of... "wow, I just found out Bobby is using steroids... I wonder if it could help me grow... what do you think honey?". This is where you'll get the million dollar answer. If she goes... holy fuck, are you out of your mind, keep the cat in the bag. If she seems enthusiastic about it, or at least open minded, consider being honest with her.

But don't be fooled. Many times, women may pretend to be open minded or into something when in reality, they are simply preparing a trap. For instance, a common reply might be... "Well dear, would using steroids make you happy?", or "Do what makes you happy". Then, as you're enthusiastically spilling the beans, and sharing all this wonderful information that you've always wanted to tell her, she drops the hammer right on your forehead and takes you out for the count. So, be sure she is being genuine with her, and make the steps towards sharing the truth with her gradual. Make it seem as if you are questioning the possibility of you using steroids along with her, as if you're discovering things for the first time as well. Voice some of her concerns as concerns of your own, "Well, I heard they can shrink your balls... but I read on the internet that is only temporary".

After time, you'll begin to understand your mates tolerance for the drugs that enhance your life.

 

[fhg43]

Man some of you guys have some fucked up notions about women. Here's my suggestion:

Instead of marrying or dating the really hot chick who gives supr BJs and has all kinds of trust issues and is generally psycho, try dating or marrying the girl who you are best friends with or super tight with. I'm engaged to my best friend. She knows how competetive I want to be and is comfortable with it. She worries about the stuff I take, but she says as long as I'm not harming myself she'll be supportive.

It's not a matter of hiding or not hiding-it's a matter of being with the right person.

IF YOU CAN'T TELL YOUR SIGNIFICANT OTHER EVERYTHING, YOU ARE IN A SHITTY RELATIONSHIP AND NOT DOING YOURSELF ANY FAVORS.

Nuff said.

FHG

 

[Golfer18--old]

Its a touchy subject. You just never can answer the question until you tell her. I think she will flip over the needle part. My sister thought i was taking just tabs, then found out i was injecting. She got pissed but she finally shut the fuck up after a week.