speed dating...

[-Ariel-]

So I'm starting to date again... and for the last 2 weeks was dreading it, but now had some synchronous events that have kinda lifted my mood and changed my attitude bout the upcoming series of transitions... first, in my class of social systems, I get to do a project based on social interaction, and I got the idea on a study done by researchers Iyengar and Finsman on speed dating that what we actually think we are attracted to, we are actually aren't so much, specifically, what we say we we want is really inconsistent with what actually attracts us in the moment. Specifically women say they want intelligent, but are more moved by funny and charming during the actual date...

So for my project I gotta find a speed dating service and check it out... I already got one through a friend and is set up two weeks from today... doing this for the project and cause I think it would be fun... has anyone ever done anything like this before? Any stories?


I still gotta run the idea by the professor, but I think she will be down.

 

[velvett]

Wait.
What?

I thought you had a girlfriend?

 

[-Ariel-]

Wait.
What?

I thought you had a girlfriend?

I was gonna start where the hell is Velvett thread, but then scrolled down to see u were present...
missed ya, glad to see ya here...
got the axe, well cause of being stupid and wanted to see an X as a friend, bottom line if I flew out to see the X, then it was over... I already bought tickets before I told her, and I stuck with my guns that I was gonna go, and we should be able to see people that we are friends with... she didn't agree... that was 5 weeks ago...

I'm not gonna lie, shouldn't even really date yet, and I can't give you a logical reason to support pro dating move, but I'm gonna go ahead and test waters... the speed dating thing is mainly for the project as extroversion comes and goes for me and depends on what mood I"m in.
Plus, the whole situation I think is very weird, but think it makes for an excellent project, with the emphasis on -priming- or unconscious motivations moving us bout 80%, of our conscious desicions... moreover, we give logical reasons, but they are just bullshit...
U know me V, I'm already overeager bout the actual project more than the dating thing, which I really am not too excited bout getting romantically involved... just think it will be fun to do, record, and experience.
Glad U are back.

 

[Smurfy]

sure - doing it for the project. <wink>

 

[Smurfy]

is this speed dating like the 8-minute dating thing?

 

[javaguru]

My advice, find something you are passionate about and pick up women there, an organization. It's very natural and you have similar viewpoints which means you'll always have something to talk about.

 

[-Ariel-]

My advice, find something you are passionate about and pick up women there, an organization. It's very natural and you have similar viewpoints which means you'll always have something to talk about.

I totally agree, and my last two S O's were in same department I am, different fields, both expressive art therapy, but now can't really date on campus cause like we both know same peeps and well, all female friends think I'm an ass... which may be true, but irrelevant to this thread, anyway, you are on campus now, and can relate to the idea that it is so much easier to date than IRL, I never really had to date, just met some chics I had classses with and yeah.. it flourished...
but anywayz, got a date this thursday with an udergrad pre med at USF, and pretty stoked cause over the phone we hit it off... I don't have nearly as much game as I think I do... and yeah, the speed dating thing is more for fun, what gets me going and I get really dorked out on are ideas, specifically pscyhological ones and how we behave and also spiritual truths of the universe... but yeah not exactly speed dating convo... so if anything I'm getting off on the idea of the project, which will be my one of my last big fun things to do before I graduate in December.

I know u are gonna date again, U have time, on campus...
yup.

 

[lartinos]

I'd prefer speed fucking, that saounds like more fun.

 

[chris302001]

I'd prefer speed fucking, that saounds like more fun.

try to last longer than 3 minutes....

 

[lartinos]

try to last longer than 3 minutes....

viagra may be needed to fuck that many people though.