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Razorguns
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I, nor anyone I know, does dates, i mean job interviews, i mean dates.
Sitting around a restaurant table, asking each other 20 q's, seeing if they qualify for you, judging each other. Fuck that shit.
No one judges me. I answer to no one.
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Ummmm so then how do you know IF you are truly interested in getting to know somebody past *their perceived hotness*?
If you don't talk to someone, then how do you know WHO they are?
shogun7
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her name is jess...
not bad huh?
Noice!
Dude, I appreciate your take, and yeah get the overall gist of what u are saying, and yeah, the shit i am learning right now and reading about priming and subconscious judgements bout people... kinda support your argument, however, I'm doing the speed dating thing cause, first I'm curious about the whole experience, I mean is is true that within 6 minutes you can already tell if you really like a person, second, what is being communicated non verbally participants, like leaning in, smiling more, laughing more, receptive posture, how does this effect the other participant, third, I say I'm attracted to intelligence, humor, open mind, but is that really what I'm attracted too... are there subconscious cues, such as seductiveness, or assertiveness, or just an upbeat demeanor that wins me and other people over... again this is for the experience and a project... that I have not even run by my professor, I just had a moment of -satori- or quick intuitive thought while on the elliptical... where I do my best thinking, that this would be an awesome project that fit the requirements for my class of grad social psych... it has an emphasis more on social systems, and this may be more interpersonal, but i"m trying to tweek my hypothesis that there are underlying qualities that generally win most people over through subconscious priming...
As far as your take on not dating... yeah, I understand where you are coming from, no one wants to be judged, or evaluated, or rejected for that matter... that blows... shit I haven't dated for 5 years, and last 2 chics I was in a relationship I met were through grad program and so I didn't have to go through this -walk on the wire- circus act of trying to connect, that said, I'm 30 years old right now, in a somewhat stable place and still have the curiousity to learn more about peeps and myself... so why not?
I'm not imparting wisdom that I don't have but, I do know this for certain, we all answer to someone... trust me, all of us do.
Razorguns
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by getting to know them the same place you meet them. then phone, hanging out, concert. You know "normal stuff".
Hi I'm Jane I'm a nurse. I like pets.
Hi I'm Steve. I'm an accountant. I have 3 cars. I love kids.
Real natural there.
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OK so, a dude approaches me in the grocery store (has happened believe it or not) and he captures my attention long enough to entice me to meet him for a cup of coffee or a meal at a time and place when we are not rushed and we are wanting to get to know one another to see if there is something there worth pursuing past the initial "yea, I'd like to fuck him/her" part that brought us together in the first place.
What would YOU call that?
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As a PS to those who have an issue with someone judging whether or not YOU are someone that that other person would want to get to know past the initial, "Yea, I'd like a piece of that.".... why would you be upset about that fact that this other person isn't interested in you past that initial attraction? I mean, are you not secure enough that just because you don't float that other person's boat this is not a poor reflection on you, but rather that you are just not well suited to one another for the long haul?
I mean, what is the big deal?
I mean, what is the big deal?
