Life sucks........

[-Ariel-]

No we haven't had a fight yet, i think its too soon for that...but i've seen him get angry at somone else, i know how he gets-and i know myself as well. I am just thinking ahead.

You gotta be able to take emotional risks... that what living is all about, plus having a strong personality is never a detractor... having a huge ego unchecked is a different story... moreover you don' know if he will react with anger to a loved one on the same level... I've seen my father go ballistic insane on other people but even though he has a temper, would never ever pull that shit with my mother. I don't really have a temper, and have never exploded on an S O... so thats the only example I could think of.

 

[lartinos]

You gotta be able to take emotional risks... that what living is all about, plus having a strong personality is never a detractor... having a huge ego unchecked is a different story... moreover you don' know if he will react with anger to a loved one on the same level... I've seen my father go ballistic insane on other people but even though he has a temper, would never ever pull that shit with my mother. I don't really have a temper, and have never exploded on an S O... so thats the only example I could think of.

i call bullshit on that, you've never flipped out on a SO. You've never starting yelling real loud and shit like that?

 

[mustang_00]

How do you fight temptation??

It's one thirty in the morning and I can't stop thinking about someone I can't sleep, my head is starting to hurt from over analyzing the situation.
How do you stop thinking/wanting someone????

Fully understanding that is the wrong person...you keep telling yourself walk away before its too late but nope you keep diggin a hole for yourself ..lol it doesn't make sense right?!

I wish I could just pick up and leave right now, run away for a little while
maybe go to Thailand or Brasil--get lost --eh wishful thinking though

wow... someone is finally thinking about me on ef?????

 

[EnderJE]

Pricesa, good luck to you. We've all been there and have to find our own way out.

My own story starts with a girl that I dated off and on for about 3 years. She was the first real love of my life and I continued to see her as I dated other girls over the years.

We always knew that it wouldn't end up anywhere, but we still carried on. I finally decided to end it by doing something (ie walking out of her brother's party) one night and didn't see her again for about ten years. That was enough time for us to move on (I got married with kids and she got married). I still think about her from time to time, but the 'feeling' isn't there anymore. It's like I'm watching a movie and I'm trying to understand why the main character (me) took so long to do this.

I'm sure ten years from now you'll be looking back and wondering why you put yourself through so much drama with this person. The trick is "How do you get to the ten year mark from here"?

Good luck!

 

[-Ariel-]

i call bullshit on that, you've never flipped out on a SO. You've never starting yelling real loud and shit like that?

Okay your'e right... but I never unleashed like I really, really, really wanted too.... like I would kick it back to 7 when I just wanted to obliterate her... good call, dumb statement... I guess I specifically meant I've never said anything that would cut so deep as to leave scars or shit like that... wanted too and have the wit and capacity to do so... but thank god I haven't... yet.

 

[Johnny Cakes]

The heart is an incredibly powerful thing, follow it.

 

[-SD-]

The heart is an incredibly powerful thing, follow it.

She cant follow her heart when she wont let anyone in it.

 

[Johnny Cakes]

She cant follow her heart when she wont let anyone in it.

perhaps my friend, I think you may right.

 

[lartinos]

Okay your'e right... but I never unleashed like I really, really, really wanted too.... like I would kick it back to 7 when I just wanted to obliterate her... good call, dumb statement... I guess I specifically meant I've never said anything that would cut so deep as to leave scars or shit like that... wanted too and have the wit and capacity to do so... but thank god I haven't... yet.

I put it all out there and said hurtful shit when I broke with my EX. I was really mean, and that is probably why she refuses to talk to me at all.
I meant everything I said though so i have no regrets, i did what I had to do.

 

[-Ariel-]

I put it all out there and said hurtful shit when I broke with my EX. I was really mean, and that is probably why she refuses to talk to me at all.
I meant everything I said though so i have no regrets, i did what I had to do.

Yeah, but you gotta be kinda regretful that you cut into her that bad, I mean deep down nobody wants to cut into other people unless they've been really fucked with... but the more you love somebody the more you are gonna hate them... I'm sure you wanted to be direct with her and really clarify how much she hurt you or whatever and have her feel that pain, but shit I don't ever want that shit to last with someone... I want them to get a glimpse but not so that it impairs them or shit like that...
It all goes back to your world views... I don't believe anything is random, its not predetermined either, but the outward simply reflects the inner's patterns of awareness and so you are gonna be drawn to people for a certain reason... and in that relationship there is a lesson that must be learned... that is why I say go for it... you already are to the point princesa where you know you are going to, all this talk is a formality, you have already crossed threshold... so just be aware and go for it...