Judge: Father is to have sole physical custody, Mother is granted supervised visitation. **************

[jh1]

congrats bro, we're all cheering you on over here in michigan
a victory all men can saviour, you never hear about men winning in situations like these
so in your overall opinion, is the system unfair towards men?
and i'm confused about the $$...you continue to pay child support even with custody?

Yeah, there is still a bias - at least in my case. Before the drug tests came back, the judge said that I'd be required to pay the child care cost to the x simply so she can give the money to our provider - which was total bullshit. As if I wasn't capable of doing so - he said he always did it that way - meaning whoever received support would also receive all money for child care. He also was leaning toward making me pay a higher percentage due to the amount of money I make vs. her money... but that made no sense since the calculations already took that into account.

The drug tests changed everything, obviously.

I agreed to pay the money even though I have full custody because I want the precident to be there - that is what I have always paid and will continue to pay and she has had excess funds to pay for coke.

So, if she does get cleaned up we probably won't have to revist the issue of child support AMOUNTS and have the judge says she's clean now and go back to wanting me to pay these rediculous amounts of money.

It really was crazy how much money they wanted me to pay, I couldn't beleive it. THe amount I agreed to, is STILL unfair - she gets 66% of the 'pool' of money the state defines based on how much we both make. Each of of contribute to that pool based on our percentage of the combined income. But when the devide it - they assume the one how pays pays 100%, but then I get a 'DISCOUNT' of UP TO 33% for having custody for x number of nights. It's completely rediculous.

The system needs to be adjusted to accomodate 50/50 parenting plans, right now it assumes one parent always is the MAIN parent and that parent is the one that makes less money. It's fucked up.

 

[Gambino]

that's fucked up
not quite a resounding victory but at least you got the kid
and just think of the drama if you were an active juicer and she knew about it...you'd be fucked.
lesson here for all those juicers who think it's cool to let your wimmen know about it...they could and will turn it on you

 

[javaguru]

Re: Judge: Father is to have sole physical custody, Mother is granted supervised visi

that's fucked up
not quite a resounding victory but at least you got the kid
and just think of the drama if you were an active juicer and she knew about it...you'd be fucked.
lesson here for all those juicers who think it's cool to let your wimmen know about it...they could and will turn it on you

titcr

 

[jh1]

that's fucked up
not quite a resounding victory but at least you got the kid
and just think of the drama if you were an active juicer and she knew about it...you'd be fucked.
lesson here for all those juicers who think it's cool to let your wimmen know about it...they could and will turn it on you

It was as much of a victory as I wanted it to be, I could have simply went with the judge - she would have had supervised visits every other weekend with a government supervisor.

She would have paid me about $850 a month in support.

But that would have necissarily meant, if she passed her drug tests for 9 months, we would have been back to trying to establish child support amounts again. I just wanted to set them, and move forward... I don't want to be fighting about it again in 9 months, I just want it over with.

But that was my choice, I could have simply slaughtered her - taken the support, given her limited visitation, etc... but fuck.. how bad would that suck for my daughter to not be able to see her mother for 9 fucking months but once every other week - then if she gets clean go right back to seeing her every other day.

That's fucked up, no matter what you do - the situation completely sucks.

If she fails a test in the next 9 months, my assumption will be she really just wants me to take over. Which is sad, I'll feel really guilty to... I'll feel like it's all my fault for having a child with a youngster.

 

[chewyxrage]

Re: Judge: Father is to have sole physical custody, Mother is granted supervised visi

That's awesome bro, I'm truly glad that worked out for you especially after hearing the stories...

 

[bigmann245]

It was as much of a victory as I wanted it to be, I could have simply went with the judge - she would have had supervised visits every other weekend with a government supervisor.

She would have paid me about $850 a month in support.

But that would have necissarily meant, if she passed her drug tests for 9 months, we would have been back to trying to establish child support amounts again. I just wanted to set them, and move forward... I don't want to be fighting about it again in 9 months, I just want it over with.

But that was my choice, I could have simply slaughtered her - taken the support, given her limited visitation, etc... but fuck.. how bad would that suck for my daughter to not be able to see her mother for 9 fucking months but once every other week - then if she gets clean go right back to seeing her every other day.

That's fucked up, no matter what you do - the situation completely sucks.

If she fails a test in the next 9 months, my assumption will be she really just wants me to take over. Which is sad, I'll feel really guilty to... I'll feel like it's all my fault for having a child with a youngster.

your a good man. i hope it doesnt bite you in the rear later. i knew a woman that turned down support and is kicking herself in the rear now. times change and so do peoples situations.

but congrats man, from what i hear you deserve it.

 

[feisty11975]

Congrats hun!! JH2 will be WAYYYYYY better off now

 

[AAP]

So do I still have to go over and kick her ass?

 

[fistfullofsteel]

fucking crazy bitches. i have 3 nutty sisters and my friend's sisters are nutty too so nobody can tell me otherwise. i'm glad you got what you wanted. yay for american women.

 

[Mr. dB]

So would tonight be a good time to celebrate with a huge coke 'n booze bender?