I'm in the doghouse with the wife

[Lestat]

She is taking it a bit far, but you should be respectful and not throw it in her face. I don't think your behavior is really outta line though. That is the type of thing that could REALLY offend her one time depending on her mood, or if she woulda found it a different time in a different frame of mind she woulda just laughed.

 

[Carmen]

stand your ground- looking at other women is NOT cheating.

This is ridiculous but here it goes....

We recently moved offices to a great location right in the heart of Fashion Island in Newport Beach, CA. The building is directly across from 24hr Fitness. The talent that goes to that particular gym is incredible. Southern California has already been known for its hot chics but Newport Beach probably has the hottest chics per capita in the entire US. Those that live in S. Cal can attest to that.

Back to the story...my particular office is facing the door of the gym so I get to see the talent coming and going all day long. It's quite nice but very distracting. I bought a telescope so I can zoom in. I'm married but I'm also a guy with elevated testosterone levels and I like to admire a woman with a nice figure. I see nothing wrong with that. We're on the 5th floor and Fashion Island is above sea level so we also have an ocean view as well.

The wife stopped by unexpectedly to say hello last week and she saw the telescope in my office. She asked me what the telescope was for and I told her it was look at ocean and Catalina on a clear day. She went over to the telescope and asked me why it was pointed at the gym and not the ocean. I played dumb and blamed in on someone else in the office. She didn't buy it at all. She's been pissed at me since last week and I've been sleeping on the couch since. I honestly don't understand what the big deal is. I think she's taking this a little too far. I've tried to explain to her several times that men are more visually stimulated than women and that it's a natural physical response to check out a women. I don't cheat on my wife. I never have. She claims that staring at woman or checking her out is a form of cheating. I was like,"WTF"? Do all women think like this? What should I do?

 

[Debaser]

Um.

You bought a telescope.

So you could spy on other women.

Then you lied about it.

You're right, why should she be upset?

 

[Pamela]

Your wife is so pretty.
She just doesn't want to loose you.

You probably will have to reassure her over and over for awhile though!
Maybe after say; 20 years of marriage. She may be OK with it.

That's a Beautiful area where your office is. How could you not look at pretty women?

 

[MrMuscle]

take the telescope home, put it in your bedroom, and point it at where she sleeps.

 

[Forge]

take the telescope home, put it in your bedroom, and point it at where she sleeps.

Nice answer, very clever. So clever that it may just work.

 

[SoKlueles]

Your wife is so pretty.
She just doesn't want to loose you.

You probably will have to reassure her over and over for awhile though!
Maybe after say; 20 years of marriage. She may be OK with it.

That's a Beautiful area where your office is. How could you not look a pretty women?

Pamela is so sweet, if i i was a guy id love her


wait, i already do

 

[Werd]

I don't cheat on my wife. I never have. She claims that staring at woman or checking her out is a form of cheating. I was like,"WTF"? Do all women think like this? What should I do?

I would have been admiring the view myself LOL. If my man's eyes wander he had better be staring at ass that puts mine to shame! I am very uncommon though, admittedly. I give my man plenty of love and attention so I am not worried about him wandering. I never have and never will be with someone that I would stress over whether or he will be faithful and yes, I have been with someone (at least one that I know of, one that I think did) that cheated on me. As far as I am concerned, if I am gonna sweat shit like that, then I would rather not be with him, pure and simple.

Honestly I can offer no advice because I can not comprehend this common line of female thinking.

 

[ChefWide]

On the couch?

Ok, you bought the tele to scope ass. You lied. You got busted.

You are on the couch for lieing, not for the ass.

 

[Werd]

On the couch?

Ok, you bought the tele to scope ass. You lied. You got busted.

You are on the couch for lieing, not for the ass.

I can see your point Chef....

I guess in this regard your wife's hurt feelings are legit.