I met a girl, but she kissed another man, and I'm heartbroken

[cindylou]

Thats what I've said too.

Its like looking for chicken in the bread isle at the grocery store.

You are not going to find the kind of girl you are looking for in the places you are looking.

 

[-SD-]

By the way, Steve, every single girl I know who is in her 20's and is a virgin is an "Everything but sex" type who hooks up a LOT but somehow convinces herself that she remains chaste by not giving up the poonani.

You're perfect chaste princess doesn't exist in the places you are looking for her. She either got married at 20 or she lives at the church and would never dream of going to clubs or meeting guys off of myspace. Even then, she's probably a closet porn addict from years of sexual repression.

I see you are relatively new to dishing out solid and well intentioned advice to ol' steve. There are people on this site who've been doing this for over 5 years (me included) and steve always says he will listen but never does anything about it. And he will always recycle the same lame problems as new threads with zero improvement. You are correct in what you are telling him but just letting you know ultimately what will come of your time and advise.

 

[nefertiti]

I see you are relatively new to dishing out solid and well intentioned advice to ol' steve. There are people on this site who've been doing this for over 5 years (me included) and steve always says he will listen but never does anything about it. And he will always recycle the same lame problems as new threads with zero improvement. You are correct in what you are telling him but just letting you know ultimately what will come of your time and advise.

Aaargh, five years??? [samoth]*kills self*[/samoth]

 

[calveless wonder]

I see you are relatively new to dishing out solid and well intentioned advice to ol' steve. There are people on this site who've been doing this for over 5 years (me included) and steve always says he will listen but never does anything about it. And he will always recycle the same lame problems as new threads with zero improvement. You are correct in what you are telling him but just letting you know ultimately what will come of your time and advise.

dude's been trying to get laid for 5 years? Holy fuck.

i'd just turn gay at that point

 

[Nathan]

This thread makes me so sad. Think about the side of life this guy may never experience. He may never get that connection with another human being. And for what? Fear? Religion (aka fear of death)? Principle (aka fear of fucking up)? Stupidity? Homosexuality? I just don't know. Please be stupid or a homo though, at least then it isn't your fault.

 

[calveless wonder]

This thread makes me so sad. Think about the side of life this guy may never experience. He may never get that connection with another human being. And for what? Fear? Religion (aka fear of death)? Principle (aka fear of fucking up)? Stupidity? Homosexuality? I just don't know. Please be stupid or a homo though, at least then it isn't your fault.

bad programming bro........and him not willing to unlearn all that bad programming. in this case, definetely stems from religion

unless he changes his core beliefs it's the same old story. at this point, not sure he ever will

 

[cindylou]

It has nothing to do with religion.

If that were the case; then he'd be finding the girls he is looking for at church.

He would have found her already; but since he is an idiot ; he will continue to be one of the many idiots who give religion a bad name.

 

[Nathan]

It has nothing to do with religion.

If that were the case; then he'd be finding the girls he is looking for at church.

He would have found her already; but since he is an idiot ; he will continue to be one of the many idiots who give religion a bad name.

Fair enough. And when I focussed on religion I didn't mean ALL religious people, I meant he extreme ones. There are normal people who buy into religion but don't take it to ludicrous lengths.

 

[-SD-]

Combination of bad programming, fear of rejection/plain fear, and hes way behind on his learning curve (perspective of teen, but he's twenties). Problems of this magnitude are never due to a single factor.

 

[healother]

bro no offense but u will never get anywhere with women if u are a meek pussy.....

you have to take what u fucking want or someone else will

ive been trying that. and they all back away

Well it's over before it's begun, sorry but you ruined it already. You missed your chance, you showed desperation and lack of courage, you showed that you don't have the balls to simply ask her out because you dig her. No you sat there and asked her about other men she's kissing and such. She thinks you are a freak now, a pussy wimp freak who is too afraid to simply step up to the plate.

Women don't like desperation and cowardness. Women like honesty and men who aren't afraid to go for what they want. It's why bad boys get the girls, and it's why the nice guys need to be fearless and completely uninhibited to get anywhere.

You blew it, pick a new girl and start over again, better luck next time.

she said she likes to play games and likes to have a man make her wait before asking her out to drive her crazy with curiosity
thats why i didnt ask her out.

healother,
you've lost your chances with this one. you weirded her out. Im convinced that you're just plain weird and creepy in person which is why these less than stellar chicks end up rejecting you after only a short time. so, i supposed on the surface, you're decent enough to spark an initial interest, but then you open your mouth and start being strange which totally turns them off.

at this point i already know my problems and im working to improve them.
ive already heard the answer "see a therapist".
if you have anything else to offer, feel free to contribute to my threads, but if all it is is those 2 things then just forget it.

once you blow it, there's no turning back.

the switch doesn't turn back on and off.

she's either attracted to you very quickly, or not.

and having talks about the male/female perspective aka playing the "therapist" is always going to put you in the friend zone.

if this was the caveman days, natural selection would kill you off. be strong, stop being a pussy...adapt or die

and lol @ jack...5'3 130lbs.

i should be mean and do this to women, and cut them off for good when they make 1 mistake, forget to put on their makeup someday, etc, im sure theyd like that.

+100000000000

Seriously, Steve, you creep ME out just from reeding your leechy, needy little posts.


Less is more.

i am the king of giving out less. ive been doing that for all my life and got nothing, so i tried to change.

i dont care what i have to do, (but i wont do therapy, or have intercourse) i just want the best result.

yOU CAN'T WIN HER BACK. YOU NEVER HAD HER IN THE FIRST PLACE. fUCKING CAPS LOCK!!!

You NEED to get out there & try getting somehwre with these women. Because when the time comes & you miraculously find someone compatable, you'll fuck it up with your inability to deal with normal everyday man/woman issues.

what makes you think im not trying?

Move on to next chick, weird her out. Keep doing that until you hit bottom and realize you have to make deep seated changes to get what you want. Other than that I got nothing.

i dont think there is any quicker way to learn actually, just TONS of experience.

im working on it, im just not sure if ill get there before i die

By the way, Steve, every single girl I know who is in her 20's and is a virgin is an "Everything but sex" type who hooks up a LOT but somehow convinces herself that she remains chaste by not giving up the poonani.

You're perfect chaste princess doesn't exist in the places you are looking for her. She either got married at 20 or she lives at the church and would never dream of going to clubs or meeting guys off of myspace. Even then, she's probably a closet porn addict from years of sexual repression.

so your saying good girls dont exist on the internet?

Thats what I've said too.

Its like looking for chicken in the bread isle at the grocery store.

You are not going to find the kind of girl you are looking for in the places you are looking.

so the internet is a bad place to meet people?