I met a girl, but she kissed another man, and I'm heartbroken

[healother]

UPDATE: look a few posts down.

bro tell her how u feel

if she runs she runs

otherwise you will keep hangin around hoping something will come of it and it will drive u nuts she dates othe guys....so it will save u alot of pain in the long run to just tell her what u think and see what happens

when guys express their feelings too early for her she doesnt like it, she has told me this.

I think she already knows i like her though, ive expressed too much interest and have been too desperate around her.

you worry too much about everything..

like shit man.. do you even enjoy life?

I do, the challenge of it is what makes it enjoyable for me. The journey itself sometimes can be more enjoyable than the destination.

sometimes life can be real hard, but if u are working for something important that can make it all the more worthwhile.

 

[healother]

that is sad in itself, life is not all about sex.. and women and poon..

although it is a big happy part of it.

right now my #1 goal is to find a woman im compatible with. im willing to spend my whole life looking and not find it, if i have to.

i figure finding a relationship is the most challening and rewarding thing out there for me right now, so why waste my time seeking after things that dont please me if this is what does?

I didn't even read this shit...

but what hte god damn'd fuck.

How can you be hearbroken?

So you fell in love? WHY? You fucking idiot... don't fucking fall in love with some whore you don't know.

God damn.. hearbroken? Pleease nigger.. you don't know heart break. You're simply 'DISAPPOINTED'... you don't know what hearbreak even is...


Get over yourself.

its probably not real heartbreak, but it hurts and it sucks.

this is actually true, steve, listen to these guys.

no means yes, TO AN EXTENT.

you have to be careful, and learn to read the girlies, if she kissed him for a few minutes, that means she liked it and thought he was attractive enough.

girls will convince themselves of anything to not feel like "sluts".

cliffnotes: life sucks and we are doomed

i will never push a girl who says no

what exactly does "kissed him back" mean? i never understood that. When you're kissing somoene, both of you are kissing each other.

it means you are kissing each other. but it takes 2 to kiss, u cant just sit there with unmoving lips. this girl admits she partook in it.

Did this one have basic personal hygine, at least?

after seeing the troll your definition of 'gorgeous' is suspect until pics are posted, or myspace link

It's too late with this one now you're the little bitchboy she complains about other men to.

yes she does have personal hygene, and she is not a troll, she is gorgeous.
nice body, thin waist, butt and breasts, cute face. she's about 5'3" and i would guess around 130-140 lbs, and it looks good.

good point, the refrigerator you posted the other time was atrocious, i almost dislocated a shoulder from the shudders i was doing

See Healy, this is your biggest problem: FEAR. You've got to be willing to talk to her about what you want, how you feel, tell her you want to date her, you want to kiss her. You've got to be willing to put yourself out there and risk it all. The Eagles don't win football games by sitting on the bench and hoping the other team might forfeit, they've got to play the game. Same with you.

she has told me that she is the type that likes mystery, challenge, and games, and that its unattractive if a guy puts himself out there too soon for her.
she hates desperation.

im going to wait i think.

wow some things never change lol Carpe Diem man, if you don't sieze it its not gonna be handed to you. what do you have to lose? and what do you have to gain?

im working on her, the way that i think is going to win her. i cant show my interest too soon cuz she says she doesnt like it when guys do that.

new life plan for you steve.

save every penny, go see a shrink.

the end

im healthy

I bet this thread is not going as planned for poor ol' healother. Dude, seriously, have sex with someone. Even a guy if need be. It's important. You can thank us all later.

But do note one thing: The majority is never wrong, especially when it comes to things like life lessons.

her virginity is what attracts me to her. i wanna marry a beautiful virgin.
im not going to mess up and have sex.

 

[blueta2]

I'm so close to finding out this alter

 

[healother]

UPDATE:

I hungout with her Wednesday night with a couple friends and went to a restaurant,

and then I hungout on Friday night and watched tv and talked at her place.
We mostly just talked about men and women though, which seemed weird.

Anyway, I think I chatted too much with her online in between and sounded too needy though. I showed way too much interest in asking about the guy who kissed her. Also I showed too much interest in asking about why she's single.

Apparently she is single because there is an issue in her life, a personal one, that she needs to resolve, and she wont tell anyone about it. but she has admitted that she also might not wait until its resolved before dating again.

She also likes being single so that she can be uncommitted and have fun (might explain why she kissed 7 guys in the last 2 months) but she also has talked about guys she was interested in but had a certain flaw or something.

Anyway, I think i badgered her too much. I also made the mistake of asking her if she initiates conversation much with other men, and that i didnt think she did it much around me. She explained that she has daddy issues, since her dad was a jerk and now it takes a long time for her to warmup and trust men. Also she said that she is a submissive person by nature and doesnt like to come up with ideas or initiate much of anything.
I said that thats fine, but sometimes its hard to tell if a submissive person really is interested cuz they dont seem to put in much effort. then she said 'so you dont think i put in much effort?' and i basically said yes, and she said "well i cant help the way i am, people are just going to have to deal with that." and then signed off.
this was at 6pm on saturday

I called her later that night at 9:30pm and left a message saying 'hey its Steve, just seeing what u are up to, call me back, later"
and she never called back.

She hasnt signed onto MSN since, but this morning she made a post on her myspace page (she doesnt know that i found her myspace page) that said that she really doesnt like people who lack respect and is sick of peopel who badger her, pry and ask too much about personal stuff, or people who expect her to change for them.

Today she wasnt on MSN at all, which is pretty unusual, meaning that i think she blocked me.

I'm not sure what to do, I need a game plan to be able to make up for the mistakes I made and to win her back. I am thinking about waiting a few days and then calling if i dont see her on MSN, I dont know. I guess I'm not sure what kind of voice message to leave.
Or maybe I could write her an email saying im sorry if i pissed her off, but i dont know if she checks her email, and i dont wanna look desperate.

Apparently one time a guy left her a minute long voice message out of desperation and she thought it was pathetic and never talked to him agian. So yeah, I'm extremely wary about what to say to her now, and how to say it.

And then there is the whole issue of telling her that i like her. im hesitant to do that because she laughs at guys that tell her that too soon. we've only been on 3 dates so i dunno. she has told other men she wants to be single and uncommitted for awhile.

I need some input. I wanna do the best job i possibly can at winning her over.

if it doesnt work out, i will survive, and immediately search the earth for another 27 year old beautiful virgin as cool as her or cooler.

 

[Smurfy]

UPDATE:

I hungout with her Wednesday night with a couple friends and went to a restaurant,

and then I hungout on Friday night and watched tv and talked at her place.
We mostly just talked about men and women though, which seemed weird.

Anyway, I think I chatted too much with her online in between and sounded too needy though. I showed way too much interest in asking about the guy who kissed her. Also I showed too much interest in asking about why she's single.

Apparently she is single because there is an issue in her life, a personal one, that she needs to resolve, and she wont tell anyone about it. but she has admitted that she also might not wait until its resolved before dating again.

She also likes being single so that she can be uncommitted and have fun (might explain why she kissed 7 guys in the last 2 months) but she also has talked about guys she was interested in but had a certain flaw or something.

Anyway, I think i badgered her too much. I also made the mistake of asking her if she initiates conversation much with other men, and that i didnt think she did it much around me. She explained that she has daddy issues, since her dad was a jerk and now it takes a long time for her to warmup and trust men. Also she said that she is a submissive person by nature and doesnt like to come up with ideas or initiate much of anything.
I said that thats fine, but sometimes its hard to tell if a submissive person really is interested cuz they dont seem to put in much effort. then she said 'so you dont think i put in much effort?' and i basically said yes, and she said "well i cant help the way i am, people are just going to have to deal with that." and then signed off.
this was at 6pm on saturday

I called her later that night at 9:30pm and left a message saying 'hey its Steve, just seeing what u are up to, call me back, later"
and she never called back.

She hasnt signed onto MSN since, but this morning she made a post on her myspace page (she doesnt know that i found her myspace page) that said that she really doesnt like people who lack respect and is sick of peopel who badger her, pry and ask too much about personal stuff, or people who expect her to change for them.

Today she wasnt on MSN at all, which is pretty unusual, meaning that i think she blocked me.

I'm not sure what to do, I need a game plan to be able to make up for the mistakes I made and to win her back. I am thinking about waiting a few days and then calling if i dont see her on MSN, I dont know. I guess I'm not sure what kind of voice message to leave.
Or maybe I could write her an email saying im sorry if i pissed her off, but i dont know if she checks her email, and i dont wanna look desperate.

Apparently one time a guy left her a minute long voice message out of desperation and she thought it was pathetic and never talked to him agian. So yeah, I'm extremely wary about what to say to her now, and how to say it.

And then there is the whole issue of telling her that i like her. im hesitant to do that because she laughs at guys that tell her that too soon. we've only been on 3 dates so i dunno. she has told other men she wants to be single and uncommitted for awhile.

I need some input. I wanna do the best job i possibly can at winning her over.

if it doesnt work out, i will survive, and immediately search the earth for another 27 year old beautiful virgin as cool as her or cooler.

give up. it's your only option

 

[samoth]

I need some input. I wanna do the best job i possibly can at winning her over.

Move on.

If it's this much trouble now, imagine actually dating one of these females.

You're trying too hard, d00der. Just find someone you can hang with sans excessive effort. Be yourself, and find someone else who values that. Go with the grain, not against it.

 

[jackangel]

a. ma. zing.

also, 5'3" and 130-140 lbs? yeah, she must have a good body. you can make up better shit than that, alter. or maybe not...that kind of retarded statement is just right for your persona.

samoth, why are you deviating from your KILL SELF advice?

 

[healother]

Move on.

If it's this much trouble now, imagine actually dating one of these females.

You're trying too hard, d00der. Just find someone you can hang with sans excessive effort. Be yourself, and find someone else who values that. Go with the grain, not against it.

so many women like playing games these days though, an im starting to think that i just have to start playing those games too, to win them.

and its always the more beautiful and more special the girl, the more of a game player it is. it doesnt surprise me that this girl is a virgin because probably few men have been able to earn her heart anyway.

a. ma. zing.

also, 5'3" and 130-140 lbs? yeah, she must have a good body. you can make up better shit than that, alter. or maybe not...that kind of retarded statement is just right for your persona.

samoth, why are you deviating from your KILL SELF advice?

i could provide a pic if i wanted to, but i dont trust you guys after the last time i provided a pic of someone.

 

[wootoom]

fuck off waste

 

[Jon79]

so many women like playing games these days though, an im starting to think that i just have to start playing those games too, to win them.

and its always the more beautiful and more special the girl, the more of a game player it is. it doesnt surprise me that this girl is a virgin because probably few men have been able to earn her heart anyway.




i could provide a pic if i wanted to, but i dont trust you guys after the last time i provided a pic of someone.

bro no offense but u will never get anywhere with women if u are a meek pussy.....

you have to take what u fucking want or someone else will