I met a girl, but she kissed another man, and I'm heartbroken

[Forge]

UPDATE:

I hungout with her Wednesday night with a couple friends and went to a restaurant,

and then I hungout on Friday night and watched tv and talked at her place.
We mostly just talked about men and women though, which seemed weird.

Anyway, I think I chatted too much with her online in between and sounded too needy though. I showed way too much interest in asking about the guy who kissed her. Also I showed too much interest in asking about why she's single.

Apparently she is single because there is an issue in her life, a personal one, that she needs to resolve, and she wont tell anyone about it. but she has admitted that she also might not wait until its resolved before dating again.

She also likes being single so that she can be uncommitted and have fun (might explain why she kissed 7 guys in the last 2 months) but she also has talked about guys she was interested in but had a certain flaw or something.

Anyway, I think i badgered her too much. I also made the mistake of asking her if she initiates conversation much with other men, and that i didnt think she did it much around me. She explained that she has daddy issues, since her dad was a jerk and now it takes a long time for her to warmup and trust men. Also she said that she is a submissive person by nature and doesnt like to come up with ideas or initiate much of anything.
I said that thats fine, but sometimes its hard to tell if a submissive person really is interested cuz they dont seem to put in much effort. then she said 'so you dont think i put in much effort?' and i basically said yes, and she said "well i cant help the way i am, people are just going to have to deal with that." and then signed off.
this was at 6pm on saturday

I called her later that night at 9:30pm and left a message saying 'hey its Steve, just seeing what u are up to, call me back, later"
and she never called back.

She hasnt signed onto MSN since, but this morning she made a post on her myspace page (she doesnt know that i found her myspace page) that said that she really doesnt like people who lack respect and is sick of peopel who badger her, pry and ask too much about personal stuff, or people who expect her to change for them.

Today she wasnt on MSN at all, which is pretty unusual, meaning that i think she blocked me.

I'm not sure what to do, I need a game plan to be able to make up for the mistakes I made and to win her back. I am thinking about waiting a few days and then calling if i dont see her on MSN, I dont know. I guess I'm not sure what kind of voice message to leave.
Or maybe I could write her an email saying im sorry if i pissed her off, but i dont know if she checks her email, and i dont wanna look desperate.

Apparently one time a guy left her a minute long voice message out of desperation and she thought it was pathetic and never talked to him agian. So yeah, I'm extremely wary about what to say to her now, and how to say it.

And then there is the whole issue of telling her that i like her. im hesitant to do that because she laughs at guys that tell her that too soon. we've only been on 3 dates so i dunno. she has told other men she wants to be single and uncommitted for awhile.

I need some input. I wanna do the best job i possibly can at winning her over.

if it doesnt work out, i will survive, and immediately search the earth for another 27 year old beautiful virgin as cool as her or cooler.

Well it's over before it's begun, sorry but you ruined it already. You missed your chance, you showed desperation and lack of courage, you showed that you don't have the balls to simply ask her out because you dig her. No you sat there and asked her about other men she's kissing and such. She thinks you are a freak now, a pussy wimp freak who is too afraid to simply step up to the plate.

Women don't like desperation and cowardness. Women like honesty and men who aren't afraid to go for what they want. It's why bad boys get the girls, and it's why the nice guys need to be fearless and completely uninhibited to get anywhere.

You blew it, pick a new girl and start over again, better luck next time.




P.S. if you are an alter, kudos for a job well done!

 

[samoth]

samoth, why are you deviating from your KILL SELF advice?

It's no fun if I don't get a response from him, dammit.

*kills self*

 

[Smurfy]

healother,
you've lost your chances with this one. you weirded her out. Im convinced that you're just plain weird and creepy in person which is why these less than stellar chicks end up rejecting you after only a short time. so, i supposed on the surface, you're decent enough to spark an initial interest, but then you open your mouth and start being strange which totally turns them off.

 

[calveless wonder]

once you blow it, there's no turning back.

the switch doesn't turn back on and off.

she's either attracted to you very quickly, or not.

and having talks about the male/female perspective aka playing the "therapist" is always going to put you in the friend zone.

if this was the caveman days, natural selection would kill you off. be strong, stop being a pussy...adapt or die

and lol @ jack...5'3 130lbs.

 

[nefertiti]

healother,
you've lost your chances with this one. you weirded her out. Im convinced that you're just plain weird and creepy in person which is why these less than stellar chicks end up rejecting you after only a short time. so, i supposed on the surface, you're decent enough to spark an initial interest, but then you open your mouth and start being strange which totally turns them off.

+100000000000

Seriously, Steve, you creep ME out just from reeding your leechy, needy little posts.


Less is more.

 

[Nathan]

I'm making that long whistle sound which then trails off into a KABLAMMO. (aka a bomb).

 

[Tweakle]

Apparently she is single because there is an issue in her life, a personal one, that she needs to resolve, and she wont tell anyone about it. but she has admitted that she also might not wait until its resolved before dating again.

herpie

She also likes being single so that she can be uncommitted and have fun (might explain why she kissed 7 guys in the last 2 months)

she no virgin

do NOT stop posting about this stuff though, it's the only entertaiment to be had on EF

 

[HiDnGoD]

yOU CAN'T WIN HER BACK. YOU NEVER HAD HER IN THE FIRST PLACE. fUCKING CAPS LOCK!!!

You NEED to get out there & try getting somehwre with these women. Because when the time comes & you miraculously find someone compatable, you'll fuck it up with your inability to deal with normal everyday man/woman issues.

 

[-SD-]

Move on to next chick, weird her out. Keep doing that until you hit bottom and realize you have to make deep seated changes to get what you want. Other than that I got nothing.

 

[nefertiti]

By the way, Steve, every single girl I know who is in her 20's and is a virgin is an "Everything but sex" type who hooks up a LOT but somehow convinces herself that she remains chaste by not giving up the poonani.

You're perfect chaste princess doesn't exist in the places you are looking for her. She either got married at 20 or she lives at the church and would never dream of going to clubs or meeting guys off of myspace. Even then, she's probably a closet porn addict from years of sexual repression.