How can you ask for a prenob from someone you marry?

[lucidblue]

Ugh, you guys aren't getting it.

See the problem is that you are talking about divorce before even getting married.

When I get married, I better god damn well know I am not gonna get divorced.

It's about trust, and one of the biggest reasons that the divorce rate is so high in the US is cause the trust has died. People are thinking about how to protect themselves from the person they supposedly love.

-sk

I agree with you. When I marry I have no plan of getting divorced. If I marry someone it means I love and trust them. The problem today is that so many guys are terrified of women taking them for everything, that they don't want to get married. For some, I think it is just an excuse because they are scared of commitment... others are really scared of what could happen in a divorce. Divorce laws are a bit out of whack today and I wish they weren't... the actions of some women have given all women a bad rep. It sucks.

 

[sk*]

I agree with you. When I marry I have no plan of getting divorced. If I marry someone it means I love and trust them. The problem today is that so many guys are terrified of women taking them for everything, that they don't want to get married. For some, I think it is just an excuse because they are scared of commitment... others are really scared of what could happen in a divorce. Divorce laws are a bit out of whack today and I wish they weren't... the actions of some women have given all women a bad rep. It sucks.

Then why even get married? The whole "ritual" becomes pointless.

Now if both, husband and wife, agree that they are just getting married for the financial benefits than I will understand the point of a prenup. Don't kid yourselves though, there is no trust in the relationship if such a contract is signed.

-sk

 

[Stangfriik]

Ugh, you guys aren't getting it.

See the problem is that you are talking about divorce before even getting married.

When I get married, I better god damn well know I am not gonna get divorced.

It's about trust, and one of the biggest reasons that the divorce rate is so high in the US is cause the trust has died. People are thinking about how to protect themselves from the person they supposedly love.

-sk

You have either never been hurt before or are very naive if you still think this way. It's basically a "shit happens" scenerio. You have no idea what could happen in the future so why risk it? It's not about trust. It's about covering your ass just in case the shit hits the fan. Once you start trusting someone that much, is about the time they stab you in the back. The more you believe that nothing will ever happen, the more it will crush and disappoint you.

 

[sk*]

You have either never been hurt before or are very naive if you still think this way. It's basically a "shit happens" scenerio. You have no idea what could happen in the future so why risk it? It's not about trust. It's about covering your ass just in case the shit hits the fan. Once you start trusting someone that much, is about the time they stab you in the back. The more you believe that nothing will ever happen, the more it will crush and disappoint you.

Look at my post above yours. Why get married if you think such a thing can happen?

Shit doesn't just happen, people make it happen.

This is one of the biggest contributers to the incredibly high divorce rate in the US.

-sk

 

[Stangfriik]

Hey man. Think what you want then. I don't plan on getting a divorce once my fiance and I marry either. In fact she has already said she wouldn't sign one b/c once she marries, it's for life. BUT I cannot and will not fully trust anybody and I mean anybody. You're just setting yourself up for disappointment

 

[sk*]

BUT I cannot and will not fully trust anybody and I mean anybody.

My original comment in the thread was that they made such an agreement cause people lost trust in each other. Sad really, if you can't even trust your own wife ...

-sk

 

[lucidblue]

Then why even get married? The whole "ritual" becomes pointless.

Now if both, husband and wife, agree that they are just getting married for the financial benefits than I will understand the point of a prenup. Don't kid yourselves though, there is no trust in the relationship if such a contract is signed.

-sk

Signing a prenup is saying you're NOT getting married for the financial benefits.

I wish things were different, but lawyers and feminists have made the laws what they are, which is highly in favor of women. Some things were just taken too far.

Like I said, when I marry it will be with love and trust and the expectation that it is forever.

 

[sk*]

Signing a prenup is saying you're NOT getting married for the financial benefits.

I ment that if their purpose for marriage was just to recieve taxcuts and other benefits from the government than I will understand why they get married and sign a prenup.

Otherwise, it just means that the person who asks for a prenup doesn't trust the other person in the relationship.

-sk

 

[Stangfriik]

My original comment in the thread was that they made such an agreement cause people lost trust in each other. Sad really, if you can't even trust your own wife ...

-sk

Nope not sad.....Reality. Have you ever been fucked over by a girl yet?

 

[sk*]

Nope not sad.....Reality. Have you ever been fucked over by a girl yet?

Yes, but I didn't marry her did I?

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Do you fully trust your parents? Would you trust your own child?

Saying you will never have full trust sounds juvenile to me. What if you were married for 20years and absolutely in love with the person, you still wouldn't have full trust in her?

All I am saying is, why not wait for however long you need until you can get such a trust? ... Then decide to get married.

-sk