Please Scroll Down to See Forums Below NO frisky i have never dropped a relationship...but i seriously messed one up that could have been a lot better than it was because of my fear...i was scared of "love" and instinct took over and i swore to myself that i would hurt him and screw him over before he got the chance to do it to me...i put up a wall and did not want to let him in because i did not want to get hurt again....i had failed a few times before that and gotten hurt so i decided enough was enough...my turn to hurt some one....and yes it screwed it all up and i basically ended up screwing myself over......
Have you ever dropped a relationship
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Erzulie said:I've been in 4, what i'd consider LT relationships my entire life, two don't count because they were high school sweet heart thingy's. The others were in my adult life. I know the problem I have just don't know the solution to the problem. I like a stable life, no guess work, nice and tidy... organized and no ups and downs.
I've had a few men enter my life that were postive influences but just didn't quite 'click' with them. Made for good friends, but not partners.
I have to learn to accept the bad to get to the good... I am working on it
sometimes though, i think we 'click' with the people that are bad for us. i think western societies like our's place too much emphasis on the notion of 'romantic' love instead of starting with friendship and building from there.
i have always taken the approach that unless i was blown off my feet instantly, i couldn't click.........that appraoch hasn't worked, so i'm gonna try and look for someone that does make a good friend and see if the spark can develop from there. at least that way i know that if something does develop, it will develop on a solid foundation.
vinylgroover said:
I've never been good at starting friendship and going from there... once a friend, he stays a friend. I've had plenty of guy friends in my life that would have made excellent mates, but after becoming so close to them as friends i felt uncomfortable going any further.
However, I know that three of the four lt relationships i have had we ended up being best friends. Didn't start there but eneded up in that state. I have to have that mixture of romance and friendship to consider a lasting relationship.
biteme said:
ewww
I dropped one relationship my Sr. year because after 2 months of just dating (no sex either) I bring him over to my grandmothers house to introduce him.. (we are very close) and he starts telling her he's gonna marry me and he had all these plans for my sr. trip, wanted to take me scubs diving and on this cruise.. blah blah.
Scared the living bejesus out of me. He was gone the next day. I was SO not ready for something serious at the pt in my life. Sometimes I could slap myself upside my head because he is a great man, and would have made an excellent husband. Still see him from time to time, he's friends with my sisters husbands family. But I was way to young to be thinking about marriage.
