Have you ever dropped a relationship

[Forge]

it's something i am trying to do. i have always taken the approach that unless i got that instant feeling of lust and fire in the belly, it wasn't for me. That approach has got me nowhere, so now i want to try a different tack and try to cultivate something from a friendship first.

IMHO, that instant first impression feeling of fire in the groins in lust, the feeling that develops out of friendship is love. Sometimes lust leads to love, sometimes it doesn't, but you really can't love someone without knowing them first, and that takes time.

I've met women who I was instantly attracted to, until I got to know them and realized just how wack and immature they were. And I've met women who I felt kinda blah about at first, but after awhile fell head over heels in love with them. The latter scenario has ALWAYS turned out better for me.

 

[Frisky]

erz

you're a Cajun girl. You can't help being who you are.

What's that supposed to mean Matt?

I was in an 11yr relationship/marriage. Its not that i can't commit.. but more of that I am not ready to commit right now. I was with my x at the young age of 19 and had no problem. Not sure what you are getting at here.

I've realized that I don't need a man in my life to make it whole, kudo's for me. I have alot of things going on otherwise, carreer, kids, home, training.. etc. Not saying a man couldn't compliment me in some way or another..but I won't rely on a man to make me happy. That is something I have to do on my own.

I am woman enough to admit that right now something long term and commited isn't for me. I could never devote enough time to make any relationship work. When the time is right, and im settled.. I want to be an amazing wife/girlfriend that is attenative, caring and giving. I just can't be that right now.. so the end result would be him thinking im selfish and self serving. So I just bail out before it gets to that point.

I make it loud and clear before that I have alot going on in my life, and that I can't be at his beckon call. If I can't give 100% to a relationship then I'd rather not get serious with someone. I don't think thats such a bad thing. If hes willing to stick around, and understand how hectic my life is.. then maybe just maybe, in the end things will work out. But in my experience men are just as selfish as women and they don't want to be put in the middle of the list of things to do.

 

[bigmann245]

What's that supposed to mean Matt?

I was in an 11yr relationship/marriage. Its not that i can't commit.. but more of that I am not ready to commit right now. I was with my x at the young age of 19 and had no problem. Not sure what you are getting at here.

I've realized that I don't need a man in my life to make it whole, kudo's for me. I have alot of things going on otherwise, carreer, kids, home, training.. etc. Not saying a man couldn't compliment me in some way or another..but I won't rely on a man to make me happy. That is something I have to do on my own.

I am woman enough to admit that right now something long term and commited isn't for me. I could never devote enough time to make any relationship work. When the time is right, and im settled.. I want to be an amazing wife/girlfriend that is attenative, caring and giving. I just can't be that right now.. so the end result would be him thinking im selfish and self serving. So I just bail out before it gets to that point.

I make it loud and clear before that I have alot going on in my life, and that I can't be at his beckon call. If I can't give 100% to a relationship then I'd rather not get serious with someone. I don't think thats such a bad thing. If hes willing to stick around, and understand how hectic my life is.. then maybe just maybe, in the end things will work out. But in my experience men are just as selfish as women and they don't want to be put in the middle of the list of things to do.

so what your really trying to say is your horny.....

 

[EnderJE]

so what your really trying to say is your horny.....

And that she'll be the talk of the town when she reaches the old folk's home.

 

[Frisky]

so what your really trying to say is your horny.....

nah

 

[MattTheSkywalker]

What's that supposed to mean Matt?

I was in an 11yr relationship/marriage. Its not that i can't commit.. but more of that I am not ready to commit right now. I was with my x at the young age of 19 and had no problem. Not sure what you are getting at here.

I've realized that I don't need a man in my life to make it whole, kudo's for me. I have alot of things going on otherwise, carreer, kids, home, training.. etc. Not saying a man couldn't compliment me in some way or another..but I won't rely on a man to make me happy. That is something I have to do on my own.

I am woman enough to admit that right now something long term and commited isn't for me. I could never devote enough time to make any relationship work. When the time is right, and im settled.. I want to be an amazing wife/girlfriend that is attenative, caring and giving. I just can't be that right now.. so the end result would be him thinking im selfish and self serving. So I just bail out before it gets to that point.

I make it loud and clear before that I have alot going on in my life, and that I can't be at his beckon call. If I can't give 100% to a relationship then I'd rather not get serious with someone. I don't think thats such a bad thing. If hes willing to stick around, and understand how hectic my life is.. then maybe just maybe, in the end things will work out. But in my experience men are just as selfish as women and they don't want to be put in the middle of the list of things to do.

Don't get me wrong erz. I love Cajun women and almost married one. Sometimes I wish I did.