Well just for the record, tricep kickbacks are NOT a mass building exercises in females or males. They are simply not a compound movement like lets say "skull crushers, close grip bench, etc). They are more of an isolation movement and are great for bringing out muscle definition, striations, etc. Bottom line is that you are not going to gain a lot of mass on your tris by doing them.
That does not mean however, that you should NOT do them. I do not think that is what was being said here. Some of you got hung up on the semantics of the situation. Kickbacks are great, I usually will end my tri days with cable kickbacks, real slow etc, to fill my tris with blood. But they are certainly not a mass building exercises.
As for the squats, deads and all of that for females, that is a totally different point. Some females do very well with heavy squats and deads, and many others do not. I have witnessed several females that have stopped doing squats as it indeed "widened" their hips and or glutes to beyond what they wanted. Thats not to say that power-lifters and hardcore female athletes don't do them, cause they do, and they love them. I think the point here is that the average female client may not want to be a person like that if that makes sense.
I think there is way to much taken personal on this thread and everyone should just chill. I love training women and I do everyday, I also train my wife lil k, (or she trains me, LOL) and she max squats 250lbs at 120 4'11, however she has stopped squatting as well (for back reasons as well as physical appearance), she now concentrates on leg presses, quad curls, ham curls, frogs (cheese toasters) etc. She will do light weight front squats though, as she cant break the habit.
Bottom line is that everyones body and goals are different. Every trainer and every person on this board is going to tell you a different story, and give you different advice. Best advice is do what works for you, lil k and I do and we are happy as hell.