got dumped..BUT I'M GONNA GET PUMPED, HUMPED, JUMPED AND BUMPED!

[bran987]

Re: got dumped..

thanks a lot man.. I will try to take this to heart.

and no, we broke up in person.. not email.. I've since been talking to her a lot.. she came over yesterday.. and I basically sent her a journal of all my thoughts and emotions since the breakup... I know most people say don't do that shit.. but I couldn't help it.

We spent all day together last Saturday.. then that night at like 10pm when I was dropping her off she says "can you come in, I want to talk to you about something.."

I go in.. and she says "there is no easy way to say this, but I think we should break up.."

she goes on to say that she feels like she needs to be on her own.. to have some space.. to know what its like to date other people.. that she is young and feels like there is still stuff she needs to do...

I was pissed.. didn't want to get emtional then.. so I left... that left a lot unsaid so we've talked on the phone.. in person.. over email.. a lot since.. and I know what you'll say.. i need to stop... the constant reminders of her are not going to do me any good.

this is usually the age when the really smart girls want to start "finding themselves and being independent" and the dumber girls start feeling like they are too old and need to be married.. she sounds like she was great.. maybe it was just the timing I bet if she was 27 things would have been different.

 

[Becoming]

Re: got dumped..

Im 27.. she is 23...

BAM! there is your problem bro - she is like 1-2 years too young... she is prolly looking for her last hurrah before the clock starts ticking...


If you found one you can find another - and believe it or not the next one will be better... that has never failed me... they always got better... I would have never thought so, but they always did... no matter how perfect the next was always better...

 

[WODIN]

Re: got dumped..

Them is some killer gmat scores.

Good luck my man and go get laid as soon as possible.

 

[Lestat]

Re: got dumped..

I didn't read the responses so I don't know if anyone else pointed this out already, but this last line smells of fake.

If it is not fake, then I feel for you bro. Nothing feels worst than a broken heart.

If it is fake, then suck a dick for getting people to express their emotions with your fake shit!

I can say with 100% certainty that this is not fake... I love to throw a joke thread out there from time to time... and I wish with all my heart that this was one of them.

 

[SoreArms]

Re: got dumped..

I can say with 100% certainty that this is not fake... I love to throw a joke thread out there from time to time... and I wish with all my heart that this was one of them.

then I feel for you bro. Nothing feels worst than a broken heart

 

[Lao Tzu]

Re: got dumped..

I've tried to work myself into this mentallity.. really... but let me tell you why I think this is hard...

1) this was the first chick I ever dated that worked out regularly
2) this was the first chick I dated that watched what we ate more closely then I did!
3) this is the first chick I ever dated that i felt was actually even smarter then me (for example she got a 760 out of 800 on the GMAT.. she went to Duke)
4) this is the first chick that really accepted me and all my little fucked up problems... I'm a pretty normal guy, but there are a couple things that just really irk me and she completely understood (e.g I hate strawberries... I hate gum..)
5) sex with this girl was killer.... she knew exactly what I loved and would often go a whole session just pleasing me.... plus, this was a first.. this girl would cum pretty much EVERY time we had sex.. at least once.. many times more... I've had girls that its fucking once in a blue moon that they cum and thats with a lot of extra help.. or they only cum from oral... etc.
6) her family was awesome.. he parents and siblings loved me.. her little brother looked to me like a big brother.. her dad invited me on trips and shit with him... her mom would have had me over for every meal of the week if I wanted and when she did have me over she'd feed me like 5 turkey burgers.. or a pound of fish.. you couldn't have asked for more.
7) she got along with all my friends.. Im 27.. she is 23... I have a lot of friends.. mostly couples and she went on trips with me and them and fit right in and my friend and their significant others loved her.
8) most importantly.. she just made me feel fucking happy every day.. i felt loved every second that we were "together" meaning even if we were not together in person I just knew.. i had the ultimate sense of security.
9) normally when i date chicks.. there is always something missing.. I get that feeling that this is all so cool.. EXCEPT.... or I WISH this one thing was just different.. or I WISH i felt this certain way.. with this girl there was none of that... I never once seriously questioned things.. I knew from day 1 that this girl was a 100% keeper
10) she wasn't drama filled at all.. I can't stand that.. having to constantly deal with some stupid drama.. that burns me out fast... there was none of that.. we had a couple times where we talked about "us" that was emotional.. but that is to be expected and we were always stronger each time after.. but no petty bullshit here.

there is so much more too.. the thought of finding that in someone else seems so impossible to me now.

Jesus thats sad. This is the 2nd most depressing post i've ever seen on EF. How long were you together.

 

[bran987]

Re: got dumped..

Jesus thats sad. This is the 2nd most depressing post i've ever seen on EF.

except for that HIV post?

 

[Lestat]

Re: got dumped..

BAM! there is your problem bro - she is like 1-2 years too young... she is prolly looking for her last hurrah before the clock starts ticking...


If you found one you can find another - and believe it or not the next one will be better... that has never failed me... they always got better... I would have never thought so, but they always did... no matter how perfect the next was always better...

I hope this is the case for me....

I have no problem dating chicks.. its just finding the quality that is tough...

I'm not trying to be a dick, but I'm done dating chicks that are waitresses... didn't go to college... work bullshit admin jobs... that was cool a few years ago, but now when I look for someone to date i look for someone who is on the same level as me in many different ways... not just a hot piece of ass that is fun to bang.. THAT gets old real quick (and expensive many times).

I also have found I need a type a personality.. because I am one as well.. and type B's are just TOO passive... this girl was a definite type A.. but we worked together most of the time so it was awesome.. every once in a while we'd clash, but all it took was a second of taking a step back and remembering what was really important here and things were ALL good.

 

[Lestat]

Re: got dumped..

Jesus thats sad. This is the 2nd most depressing post i've ever seen on EF. How long were you together.

what was the first most depressing post?

we were together for something a year and 9 months... a little off and on in there... a rocky start.. then she was away at school for a semester.. but the last year has been solid.

 

[Lao Tzu]

Re: got dumped..

except for that HIV post?

Nah, the worst was several years ago some guy made a post asking about how he wanted to start taking heroin. After some prodding by other posters he said that he was in his 30s, with a good job and a relatively good life but he wasn't married and didn't have kids and he figured it was too late to have a family so he wanted to either kill himself or shut his mind off with drugs.