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Powerlifting57

Powerlifting57

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SO In a year i have......

graduated top of my class,got a good job, Got married, got arrested, lost good job, spent 3 mos fighting something i didnt do, WON my legal fight, Lost wife, went down hill, started doing drugs, got back in school for personal training, got out of drugs,Lost my grandpa, been through more woman than i can count, still not divorced yet, rode my first roller coaster, found a great girl, started having dreams about wife again, graduated from school top of my class, gained 43lbs of muscle, cant find a job as a personal trainer, girlfreind got pregnant, girfreind had a miscarriage........ WOW theres alot of shit!

Sad part is now, this entire time i still love my wife and i cannot get over her. The girl i am seeing is awsome and 1million times better than her....still for some reason i cant seem to get her out of my head. I get to a point to where im fine then BOOM she will call me out of the blue to "TALK". Shit is getting annoying i cannot wait for my divorce to be final so i can get my number changed and move on...

On a good note, i am making an appointment to fly to illinois and look at the national university of health and science.
 
Powerlifting57 said:
SO In a year i have......

graduated top of my class,got a good job, Got married, got arrested, lost good job, spent 3 mos fighting something i didnt do, WON my legal fight, Lost wife, went down hill, started doing drugs, got back in school for personal training, got out of drugs, been through more woman than i can count, still not divorced yet, rode my first roller coaster, found a great girl, started having dreams about wife again, graduated from school top of my class, gained 43lbs of muscle, cant find a job as a personal trainer, girlfreind got pregnant, girfreind had a miscarriage........ WOW theres alot of shit!

Sad part is now, this entire time i still live my wife and i cannot get over her. The girl i am seeing is awsome and 1million times better than her....still for some reason i cant seem to get her out of my head. I get to a point to where im fine then BOOM she will call me out of the blue to "TALK". Shit is getting annoying i cannot wait for my divorce to be final so i can get my number changed and move on...
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Wow bro, sorry to hear that. I'd be lost without my wife. Do you really want to move on or do you think that's what you want. I don't know the whole story on how you decided to split and all, but there is a reason you guys got married. hope it works out for you.
 
Powerlifting57 said:
SO In a year i have......

graduated top of my class,got a good job, Got married, got arrested, lost good job, spent 3 mos fighting something i didnt do, WON my legal fight, Lost wife, went down hill, started doing drugs, got back in school for personal training, got out of drugs, been through more woman than i can count, still not divorced yet, rode my first roller coaster, found a great girl, started having dreams about wife again, graduated from school top of my class, gained 43lbs of muscle, cant find a job as a personal trainer, girlfreind got pregnant, girfreind had a miscarriage........ WOW theres alot of shit!

Sad part is now, this entire time i still love my wife and i cannot get over her. The girl i am seeing is awsome and 1million times better than her....still for some reason i cant seem to get her out of my head. I get to a point to where im fine then BOOM she will call me out of the blue to "TALK". Shit is getting annoying i cannot wait for my divorce to be final so i can get my number changed and move on...

On a good note, i am making an appointment to fly to illinois and look at the national university of health and science.
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Been there. Gotta think like this. Everything you are going through is for a reason. You have to think about why she left or you both just split. Also if you see a better future with the girl you have now. If so, use that to your advantage to create a better life for you AND HER. Move on. Once you start putting postive things in your life IT WILL ALL FALL INTO PLACE.
 
Captain FT said:
Wow bro, sorry to hear that. I'd be lost without my wife. Do you really want to move on or do you think that's what you want. I don't know the whole story on how you decided to split and all, but there is a reason you guys got married. hope it works out for you.
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She decided the weed dealer that she grew up with was better than me.:whatever::rolleyes:
 
bigtravis said:
Been there. Gotta think like this. Everything you are going through is for a reason. You have to think about why she left or you both just split. Also if you see a better future with the girl you have now. If so, use that to your advantage to create a better life for you AND HER. Move on. Once you start putting postive things in your life IT WILL ALL FALL INTO PLACE.
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Ya i know dude, i am trying my best. At 21 to have all that thrown at you was really hard to deal with.

I want to be with this girl, she is actually talking about moving out to illinois with me to study massage therapy.
 
Powerlifting57 said:
SO In a year i have......

graduated top of my class,got a good job, Got married, got arrested, lost good job, spent 3 mos fighting something i didnt do, WON my legal fight, Lost wife, went down hill, started doing drugs, got back in school for personal training, got out of drugs,Lost my grandpa, been through more woman than i can count, still not divorced yet, rode my first roller coaster, found a great girl, started having dreams about wife again, graduated from school top of my class, gained 43lbs of muscle, cant find a job as a personal trainer, girlfreind got pregnant, girfreind had a miscarriage........ WOW theres alot of shit!

Sad part is now, this entire time i still love my wife and i cannot get over her. The girl i am seeing is awsome and 1million times better than her....still for some reason i cant seem to get her out of my head. I get to a point to where im fine then BOOM she will call me out of the blue to "TALK". Shit is getting annoying i cannot wait for my divorce to be final so i can get my number changed and move on...

On a good note, i am making an appointment to fly to illinois and look at the national university of health and science.
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Damn bro. That is a tough story. Everything does happen for a reason and all this will work itself out. no matter how low you are it can always be worse.
 
superdave said:
Did you joose for your problems bor?
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No, i didnt joose my problems away lol.... I started using pro hormones before me and my wife split. She just wouldnt let me use the real stuff, so since she was no longer around. I did my first cycle in may when i finally got my head right.
 
Powerlifting57 said:
No, i didnt joose my problems away lol.... I started using pro hormones before me and my wife split. She just wouldnt let me use the real stuff, so since she was no longer around. I did my first cycle in may when i finally got my head right.
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The abilty to use joose alone makes the divorce worth it lol
 
superdave said:
The abilty to use joose alone makes the divorce worth it lol
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LMAO...I like the way you think. Women beleive if you juice that you will in time beat them or lash out at them. What they do not realise is, if you are mature and level headed enough. It will not alter the person you are.

Funny thing is, the guy shes with. He juices, even though he is like 100 lbs. Funny story i actually offered him advice on how to properly use AAS, he didnt find that funny at all. Does coke, weed, lsd,shrooms, pills and X.

Yet i couldnt use a little AAS.....
 
Powerlifting57 said:
LMAO...I like the way you think. Women beleive if you juice that you will in time beat them or lash out at them. What they do not realise is, if you are mature and level headed enough. It will not alter the person you are.

Funny thing is, the guy shes with. He juices, even though he is like 100 lbs. Funny story i actually offered him advice on how to properly use AAS, he didnt find that funny at all. Does coke, weed, lsd,shrooms, pills and X.

Yet i couldnt use a little AAS.....
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First off allow me to I feel for you that you've gone through so much by such a young age. You sorta brought it on yourself though, that is with THE EXCEPTION OF THE BULLSHIT LEGAL CRAP. Kudos to you for fighting and winning!!!

Now as to your assessment about what "women believe"... you have no idea what "women believe" because from what YOU'VE SAID, you've only been in the company of GIRLS.

Any woman that would leave her man when he was down for shit that he didn't do (ie the legal drama) is NOT "a woman" and she sure the shit didn't respect or value you to dump you when you needed her most.

So now, why this seemingly uncontrollable desire for a gutless skank who favors a drug dealer over a man who fought shit that was heaped on him INNOCENTLY and fought is SUCCESSFULLY... my young brother - that is ON YOU.

You are young with your whole darned life ahead of you.

Learn from the lessons that life has brought your way.

Take your time. Improve yourself and wrap that shit. No need to bring children into the world with someone that *you think* you love.

^^^This advice from a woman who is the poster child for how to IRREPAIRABLY fuck your life up reproducing with someone *you think* is in love with you. Did I love him? Faithfully till the night my head hit the ground..... So? That and $2.11 will get me an extra large cup of coffee, light with cream, no sugar at the Dunkin Donuts.

Just breathe.

Do you.

Enjoy life.

Don't stress. :)
 
Powerlifting57 said:
LMAO...I like the way you think. Women beleive if you juice that you will in time beat them or lash out at them. What they do not realise is, if you are mature and level headed enough. It will not alter the person you are.

Funny thing is, the guy shes with. He juices, even though he is like 100 lbs. Funny story i actually offered him advice on how to properly use AAS, he didnt find that funny at all. Does coke, weed, lsd,shrooms, pills and X.

Yet i couldnt use a little AAS.....
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No disrespect, but your ex-wife sounds like a bitch.
 
BIKINIMOM said:
First off allow me to I feel for you that you've gone through so much by such a young age. You sorta brought it on yourself though, that is with THE EXCEPTION OF THE BULLSHIT LEGAL CRAP. Kudos to you for fighting and winning!!!

Now as to your assessment about what "women believe"... you have no idea what "women believe" because from what YOU'VE SAID, you've only been in the company of GIRLS.

Any woman that would leave her man when he was down for shit that he didn't do (ie the legal drama) is NOT "a woman" and she sure the shit didn't respect or value you to dump you when you needed her most.

So now, why this seemingly uncontrollable desire for a gutless skank who favors a drug dealer over a man who fought shit that was heaped on him INNOCENTLY and fought is SUCCESSFULLY... my young brother - that is ON YOU.

You are young with your whole darned life ahead of you.

Learn from the lessons that life has brought your way.

Take your time. Improve yourself and wrap that shit. No need to bring children into the world with someone that *you think* you love.

^^^This advice from a woman who is the poster child for how to IRREPAIRABLY fuck your life up reproducing with someone *you think* is in love with you. Did I love him? Faithfully till the night my head hit the ground..... So? That and $2.11 will get me an extra large cup of coffee, light with cream, no sugar at the Dunkin Donuts.

Just breathe.

Do you.

Enjoy life.

Don't stress. :)
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Let me start off by giving you a big... THANK YOU!

Ya i know i brought alot of this on myself. I did not however bring her leaving me on myself. I gave that girl the world and then some.


The want for her only comes from the love i feel. That is it, other than that i have no respect for her and i WOULD NEVER let her come back. To only have her tell me that material things and things you do on a daily basis do not mean shit. I guess i was boring ( IE. mature and worked all the time, took care of the house, dog, laundry and cooked her food. WHILE i might add you she sat on her ass and did NOTHING.)

Anyway....

I am doing me now, i am looking at my 3rd addition to my educational background which will more than likely be an MD, PT or a DC.
 
Powerlifting57 said:
Let me start off by giving you a big... THANK YOU!

Ya i know i brought alot of this on myself. I did not however bring her leaving me on myself. I gave that girl the world and then some.


The want for her only comes from the love i feel. That is it, other than that i have no respect for her and i WOULD NEVER let her come back. To only have her tell me that material things and things you do on a daily basis do not mean shit. I guess i was boring ( IE. mature and worked all the time, took care of the house, dog, laundry and cooked her food. WHILE i might add you she sat on her ass and did NOTHING.)

Anyway....

I am doing me now, i am looking at my 3rd addition to my educational background which will more than likely be an MD, PT or a DC.
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OK... this is coming from a soon2B 42 year old woman who was married to an assWHOLE of epic proportions (that motherfucker, I can't get rid of him no matter how hard I try), dated like a fiend and is now married to a wonderful man who treats me like I am the only woman alive (why I married him... NOT because *I loved him)...

Why would you *feel love* for the woman that you wrote about? (all the parts I bolded)....

Sounds like the sex was good and she was hot.

THAT IS NOT *LOVE*.

Do you and fuck A LOT (just remember to wear your raincoat) and when you are done... then FUCK SOME MORE.

When a good girl that values herself (and what she has to offer) comes around she will bitchslap you if you don't *get a clue*

TRUST ME. ;) My husband is still trying to recover. LOL Funny thing is that said bitchslap was me telling him, "Go ahead big man... impress me... bring it. You've got my attention, now what?" And he is *the only man I see*. Do you see what I am saying?

You want a high-value female that values herself highly. :)
 
you're 21?

fuck man life hasn't even begun

put on a helmet, life is hard


sorry about your year though
Get away
 
are you doogie houser? how do you graduate top of your class in 2 schools in 1 year?

sorry for the ex-wife situation. its a tough pill to swallow but things happen for a reason. you might not see the reason or understand it yet, but its there.
 
timtim said:
are you doogie houser? how do you graduate top of your class in 2 schools in 1 year?

sorry for the ex-wife situation. its a tough pill to swallow but things happen for a reason. you might not see the reason or understand it yet, but its there.
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I ment i graduated from my first school in the spring of 2008. I took a 6 mos personal training course in the beginning of 2009 and just graduated in july. I figured i would learn alot more in a class room setting than from any text book.

I will however be studying M.A.T,DC and nutrition at the same time starting in the spring of 2010. I am setting myself up to run my own full service chiro office. I will offer DC, muscle activation technique, physical therapy, personal training, nutrition and massage therapy. I have my degree in medical insurance billing/ coding that way i can do it all myself.I also want to make sure my staff is properly trained when that time comes.
 
Powerlifting57 said:
I ment i graduated from my first school in the spring of 2008. I took a 6 mos personal training course in the beginning of 2009 and just graduated in july. I figured i would learn alot more in a class room setting than from any text book.

I will however be studying M.A.T,DC and nutrition at the same time starting in the spring of 2010. I am setting myself up to run my own full service chiro office. I will offer DC, muscle activation technique, physical therapy, personal training, nutrition and massage therapy. I have my degree in medical insurance billing/ coding that way i can do it all myself.I also want to make sure my staff is properly trained when that time comes.
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awesome plan. knowing everything about your business is the only way to successfully run 1. good luck.
 
Words of Wisdom and Words to live by. I have based my whole life on this concept, always works for me and It goes like this, "Two Tears In a Bucket, Mother Fuck It"
 
Man bro I cannot believe how much of your story matches my life. However I am not quite as book smart as you. First off like Mom said if she left you cause of some legal shit that you didnt even do then so be it. I would not talk to her anymore ever unless u absolutely have to. Just dont let probs get worse take the right road at all times. Dont resort to worse options like drug use and so on. I would not even think about going back to her bro if she left ya once she will do it again. Congrats on the degrees and also the working out achievements. We are all here for you and dont be afraid to vent or ask for advice. If anything we can always put ya in a better mood.
EB
 
empirebuilder said:
Man bro I cannot believe how much of your story matches my life. However I am not quite as book smart as you. First off like Mom said if she left you cause of some legal shit that you didnt even do then so be it. I would not talk to her anymore ever unless u absolutely have to. Just dont let probs get worse take the right road at all times. Dont resort to worse options like drug use and so on. I would not even think about going back to her bro if she left ya once she will do it again. Congrats on the degrees and also the working out achievements. We are all here for you and dont be afraid to vent or ask for advice. If anything we can always put ya in a better mood.
EB
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I appreciate the words bro.... Ya it was a little more than the legal shit.

The funny part is, before I was 20 I never touched alcohol or drugs. I started drinking and smoking weed for about 2 months and decided that it was absolutely absurd.
 
ah young grasshopper you should always keep at least one or two for future blackmailing purposes
 
you dont have to actually do it,
the threat is suficient....


crap, I think i just showed my cards
hopefully my ex wont see this I'll lose my leverage

and whats with all the "this coming from a female" crap? I seem to be getting that a lot
maybe the insomnia is causing me to crack......
maybe....for all my humor I expect to be taken seriously when I am in fact serious...


and on a serious note....
drop the ex , dont return phone calls, tell her to contact your attorney or bring up her bs in court...
the current girl??
well, your a young guy and you probably just dont yet have a clue what you actually want in a partner/relationship
 
I am not trying to mess with your head or get into your shit ...but have you considered flying "solo" for a while after you free yourself from this last nightmare????

You are young, smart and obviously don't have any trouble getting your basic "needs" taken care of. You have many years ahead of you. You now realize that life is a series of choices and consequences...bad choices= bad consequences...you fill in the rest.

If you really love this new girl and she loves you...taking a break won't matter. Don't find yourself pressured into jumping from one relationship into another.

The ideal match up is to be with someone because you want to...not because you need to. Don't fear being alone for a while...you will learn things about yourself that you never will while being involved with someone else.

Just a few words from a guy who has been there.

Good luck!!
 
you should focus on your career and health while you are in your 20's.

DONT fall in love. stats dont lie.. if you get married so young you are in deep trouble cause people change. the girl you find attractive at 21, you will find ugly at 31 both physically and emotionally. trust me.

when you get into your 30's you can worry about finding a good woman to marry. by then you will have a stable career and home.

nothing worse then being tied down to a person whom you don't like, i see it all the time.
 
true bro. And I wonder how this bor is doing now...almost a year later!




Perhaps you didn't notice this thread was a year old though. Or maybe you bumped it wondering how he was doing now (and just forgot to ask in the midst of giving advice based on what was happening a year ago)?

:)

To the OP...how are things now brah?
 
Powerlifting57 said:
No, i didnt joose my problems away lol.... I started using pro hormones before me and my wife split. She just wouldnt let me use the real stuff, so since she was no longer around. I did my first cycle in may when i finally got my head right.
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No loss if you can't be you round your bish. My wife accepted that Ima joose head and we have never gotten along better.
 
Powerlifting57 said:
SO In a year i have......

graduated top of my class,got a good job, Got married, got arrested, lost good job, spent 3 mos fighting something i didnt do, WON my legal fight, Lost wife, went down hill, started doing drugs, got back in school for personal training, got out of drugs,Lost my grandpa, been through more woman than i can count, still not divorced yet, rode my first roller coaster, found a great girl, started having dreams about wife again, graduated from school top of my class, gained 43lbs of muscle, cant find a job as a personal trainer, girlfreind got pregnant, girfreind had a miscarriage........ WOW theres alot of shit!

Sad part is now, this entire time i still love my wife and i cannot get over her. The girl i am seeing is awsome and 1million times better than her....still for some reason i cant seem to get her out of my head. I get to a point to where im fine then BOOM she will call me out of the blue to "TALK". Shit is getting annoying i cannot wait for my divorce to be final so i can get my number changed and move on...

On a good note, i am making an appointment to fly to illinois and look at the national university of health and science.
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when you come out to illinois, if you need a reliable buddy to talk to and lift/chill with from time to time shoot me a PM

hang in there buddy sounds like alot of ups and downs, alot of stress, but if youv gotten through that you will get through anything!

youv lived more life in a year than may people have in 50
 
ceo said:
true bro. And I wonder how this bor is doing now...almost a year later!




Perhaps you didn't notice this thread was a year old though. Or maybe you bumped it wondering how he was doing now (and just forgot to ask in the midst of giving advice based on what was happening a year ago)?

:)

To the OP...how are things now brah?
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i didnt look at the fucking post date i feel dumb
 
Sub-Zero said:
when you come out to illinois, if you need a reliable buddy to talk to and lift/chill with from time to time shoot me a PM

hang in there buddy sounds like alot of ups and downs, alot of stress, but if youv gotten through that you will get through anything!

youv lived more life in a year than may people have in 50
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you gonna suck him off to or does nimbus handle that end?
 
haha guys guys, easy! lol Im doing very well, trying to get some things going. Right now im focused in the gym. Im trying to reach a 500lb bench and a 1500lb total raw under 190. Im also getting into some fitness modeling. I have a meeting tomorrow to talk about a photo shoot. My goal is to get paid in the gym, i have been personal training for some time. I am doing very, very well. Met a new girl, we are taking things very slow. Been off the joose for a while now, holding strong and feeling better than ever. Im looking at trying some of PP`s new products. I have honestly just taken this year and devoted it to me. It has been nice but now its time to get some new things on track.


Thanks guys for the concern.
 
ceo said:
true bro. And I wonder how this bor is doing now...almost a year later!




Perhaps you didn't notice this thread was a year old though. Or maybe you bumped it wondering how he was doing now (and just forgot to ask in the midst of giving advice based on what was happening a year ago)?

:)

To the OP...how are things now brah?
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he started posting again on another forum and seemed like he was doing good.. so i wanted to lend him some advice and see how he was doing today hoping he would give us an update at his bad luck story. :chomp:

glad he is doing good
 
Powerlifting57 said:
Sad part is now, this entire time i still love my wife and i cannot get over her. The girl i am seeing is awsome and 1million times better than her....still for some reason i cant seem to get her out of my head.
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I can totally relate. It's totally natural dude. You married her thinking you were going to get old with her, thinking she is The One, it was legit. You made a promise in front of God and your families to love and respect her forever...that doesn't just go away, not in a day, not in a month, not in a year.

Having said that, it gets easier with time. I try not to be too hard on myself, I try not to act on a strong feeling cos it's just a feeling, not fact, and I rely a LOT on the support of friends and family. With practice it will be just another life experience. For me the feelings will never go away but the key for me to move on is to acknowledge and accept them as being OK.

I know what you mean about the next gf being better, but there's just something about the first one, I didn't promise to love and protect anyone else but her forever, you know?
 
Bump...

Life is going great guys, sorry for the delayed response. I took some time away from everything to enjoy life.I am happily living with the girl i was with when i finally signed the divorce papers. She has been a huge help in my time of need, i cannot thank her enough. I fell into a athletic director position and am enjoying every minute of it.

Training isnt going very well though, chest pains and shoulder injury have kept me out for about 6 months. But i did end up taking 503 for a ride raw before going into the doctor about the heart palps. I got it off a 1 board.
 
On to the ex-wife, i figured i would give you an update on her as well..

Sadly she still hasnt found her way, she is back home with her family and we are on a every so often talking basis. Her dad is dieing of lou Gehrigs disease so i am hoping that will make her take a different path than what she is currently on.
 
hang in there good bro, you need a few years with no drama.
 
Powerlifting57 said:
On to the ex-wife, i figured i would give you an update on her as well..

Sadly she still hasnt found her way, she is back home with her family and we are on a every so often talking basis. Her dad is dieing of lou Gehrigs disease so i am hoping that will make her take a different path than what she is currently on.
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Just read the Whole thread. Good life bro. Lived, Learned, Grew, Prospered. On top of the Health.
I know your prolly kinda worried about the Ex, But no kids should = no contact. No matter what the current lady say's, She DOES Mind ya'll talking sporadically. Even if it just's bothers her a very little bit. Not worth the risk IMHO.
 
I am so happy you're doing well. I have also read this whole thread. Ditto what these guys have all said. Girl I was interested in at 20 was dif. then 25. Take your time, and I would steer clear of the x if things are great with your gf now.
 
^^this is what I'm learning ..what's crazy is most girls are the same n the end..but there's always that one chick that we come across that's hard to get over

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Hey just curious ..what kind of llegal trouble did u get in trouble for..what u get arrested for

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I dont really talk to her all the much, just to hear updates on her dad. Her mom is the one who contacts me these days. Her dad and i were very close.

Thanks for the kind words guys, things are looking up. I am making an appointment with matt wenning for this saturday to help me with deadlift/squat. I am itching to get back into the gym.
 
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