Feedback on this situation please

[shirlene29]

jesus..why would you want to be with someone that intentionally tries to withdraw affection on a major holiday generally associated with giving in general

over...a fuckin coffee maker being left part way full on a counter

i mean, how hard was it for him to dump the carafe out and huck the coffee maker if he wanted to...holy shit

 

[lartinos]

"I have a guy's POV in a chick's body. I make them comfortable, I can see where they are coming from, but I can also explain why thier GF is acting all crazy."
Now that is the oldest line in the book, lol. Not saying it isn't true, but that is exactly what I'd tell you because I know that is what you want to hear.
During my last stint being single I ended up doing the same thing girls do. I had lots of girls as my friends kind of how girls can have guy friends.
It is just a lot easier to have people attracted to you around you. It is also a lot better to look at them than my buddies and they go along with what you say. I also missed female companionship as well. The last reason I had Girls as friends was the ego boost to know that I was wanted by these pretty girls.
But I am not stupid... I knew that if I didn't look the way I did that they would be less likely to pick up the phone and hang out with me. Being a guy I know exactly how it goes. There is a certain bit of emptiness I guess to know how shallow people are and that your exterior determines so much.
I was that skinny kid who didn't have it so easy for a long time and I understand how life can be so much more challenging.

 

[puddlemonkey]

Men like to chase, and you're running directly at him at full speed. Women make this mistake all the time.

 

[puddlemonkey]

over...a fuckin coffee maker being left part way full on a counter

i mean, how hard was it for him to dump the carafe out and huck the coffee maker if he wanted to...holy shit

It's not over a coffee maker, you're smarter than this shirl.

 

[lartinos]

Pour the coffee on him and tell him the relationship is over. Then on your way out put the coffee pot back where he didn't want it.

 

[nimbus]

usually if a guy bullshits around like that he's never gonna commit

 

[just...v]

"I have a guy's POV in a chick's body. I make them comfortable, I can see where they are coming from, but I can also explain why thier GF is acting all crazy."
Now that is the oldest line in the book, lol. Not saying it isn't true, but that is exactly what I'd tell you because I know that is what you want to hear.
During my last stint being single I ended up doing the same thing girls do. I had lots of girls as my friends kind of how girls can have guy friends.
It is just a lot easier to have people attracted to you around you. It is also a lot better to look at them than my buddies and they go along with what you say. I also missed female companionship as well. The last reason I had Girls as friends was the ego boost to know that I was wanted by these pretty girls.
But I am not stupid... I knew that if I didn't look the way I did that they would be less likely to pick up the phone and hang out with me. Being a guy I know exactly how it goes. There is a certain bit of emptiness I guess to know how shallow people are and that your exterior determines so much.
I was that skinny kid who didn't have it so easy for a long time and I understand how life can be so much more challenging.

Dude. That sucks. But I did ask....so thanks for being honest.

I was a late bloomer, so I know what you are talking about as far as how shallow people can be. I think this is why I am very picky about the guys I am attracted to and why I watch who I am friends with. I tend to pick the person who will be honest with me over saving my feelings as far as friendship goes.

 

[just...v]

actually talking to him tonight was good... he's been distant the past couple days, and I had a shitty holiday, spent Christmas by myself - and I think he was trying to make a point and it made it extra hard. He did tell me tonight that he misses me and can't wait to see me (driving there Wed or Thurs). I am acting needy and he's afraid to take down his walls. Whole lots of over thinking is going on.

Step back. I agree with Puddz.

 

[princesa]

"I have a guy's POV in a chick's body. I make them comfortable, I can see where they are coming from, but I can also explain why thier GF is acting all crazy."
Now that is the oldest line in the book, lol. Not saying it isn't true, but that is exactly what I'd tell you because I know that is what you want to hear.
During my last stint being single I ended up doing the same thing girls do. I had lots of girls as my friends kind of how girls can have guy friends.
It is just a lot easier to have people attracted to you around you. It is also a lot better to look at them than my buddies and they go along with what you say. I also missed female companionship as well. The last reason I had Girls as friends was the ego boost to know that I was wanted by these pretty girls.
But I am not stupid... I knew that if I didn't look the way I did that they would be less likely to pick up the phone and hang out with me. Being a guy I know exactly how it goes. There is a certain bit of emptiness I guess to know how shallow people are and that your exterior determines so much.
I was that skinny kid who didn't have it so easy for a long time and I understand how life can be so much more challenging.

If I do anything for my birthday this year, you and melo have to come out.

 

[princesa]

jesus..why would you want to be with someone that intentionally tries to withdraw affection on a major holiday generally associated with giving in general

over...a fuckin coffee maker being left part way full on a counter

i mean, how hard was it for him to dump the carafe out and huck the coffee maker if he wanted to...holy shit

I totally agree.

imo ..the beginning of a relationship should be smooth and fun and all that good stuff. If there is drama from the getco I let it go.

i'm single so what do i know..