Do you still talk with your xgfs?

[juiceddreadlocks]

Aww thank you. Well he didn't appreciate me when he had me so I split. He didn't know what he had until after I was gone. Of course he would do things to upset me and I would take him back. I guess he thought when I said I was leaving it would be like all other times and i would be back. Little did he know that was for good.

meh, staying in touch just mind fucks me... I've gotta keep away.

 

[silverstar1025]

meh, staying in touch just mind fucks me... I've gotta keep away.

Yep. I agree with plunkey.. Not healthy at all. No need. I don't have hard feelings with my ex. If I ran into him I would be cool, but no need to be friends. It's funny that is the one and only person my hubby feels threatened by. He is not jealous at all, but the ex I can tell it bugs him. I guess because he knew I spent almost 6 yrs with him.

 

[EnderJE]

Hell no!

Forgot you ever knew them. Hanging out with an ex benefits no one if you're in a good, stable relationship.

I don't know about hanging out with them, but it's nice to e-chat with someone who knows you from time to time. Rather then the chat bots on here...

...although GS is getting better with the program, I almost think that you're all real people.

 

[ponyfitness]

I'm still "friends" with most of them, meaning when they come into town we meet for meals or coffees and catch up sometimes. When I've been single I've even banged a couple of them because it's so easy.

Most of the time they just want an ego boost because they aren't happy with their current partner so they are very easy to seduce. Then they go away.

 

[juiceddreadlocks]

I'm still "friends" with most of them, meaning when they come into town we meet for meals or coffees and catch up sometimes. When I've been single I've even banged a couple of them because it's so easy.

Most of the time they just want an ego boost because they aren't happy with their current partner so they are very easy to seduce. Then they go away.

yeah, banging the ex = mind and heart fucking for me.

It's such an easy thing to see from the outside. Not maintaining much (if any) contact seems to be so much better in the long run. I dont think many people's stories end up like the movie Sweet Home Alabama.

 

[Chocolate_Thunder]

I do. Mind you, it took along time for everything to 'heal up'; but now we can have rational conversations about things and have some general interest in each others lives. The closeness feeling that you have between lovers is now gone, so that's good too. I look back at those relationships like they are old movies that I haven't seen in along time. I can see what happens, but the emotional attachment is gone.

But with some people, I'm never sure if that's a good thing. One recently got divorced and she suggested that we hang out for dinner sometime. This was the girl that I originally thought I was going to marry 13 years ago. I'm sure it's all innocent and that, but I doubt that I'd hang out with her because I wouldn't want my wife to think that something was up. Even if she was fine with it, I'd be worried that she might still think something was up.

They are "EX'S" for a reason. There is no reason for me to keep in contact with any of them, for better or worse. I don't understand why you would want to be in contact with an ex?

 

[digimon7068]

only one. . .but she "joined the other team" not long after we stopped dating. . .so my flirtations are completely harmless. . .plus she enjoys the attention. . .and i'm a good friend. . .

oh. . .wait. . .i thought the thread title said "stalk" (sorry. . .didn't have my glasses on). . .talk?? hell, i still exchange christmas cards with many of the women that i dated over the years. with few exceptions, we were friends before we started dating and after we stopped dating, we ended up being friends again. . .

 

[truckdaddy]

yep...i still hook up with them as well between new boyfriends

 

[EnderJE]

They are "EX'S" for a reason. There is no reason for me to keep in contact with any of them, for better or worse. I don't understand why you would want to be in contact with an ex?

Mainly to see how people's lives have turned out. Just like I do with HS friends.

 

[javaguru]

I avoid it.