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Daisy wants me back.......
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canadianhitman
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canadianhitman
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seaking420
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Not too well I guess. Im in the process of getting divorced........I guess its bittersweet. I've been seeing someone for a little bit, she's awesome, but part of me still wonders if Im making a mistake by getting a divorce. What bothers me alot is if she gets remarried and my son lives with another guy 1/2 the time. The divorce is not final yet...probably wont be for a few months. Are you officially divorced from Daisy? Be careful bro.....I know how hard all of this is.....I really wish you the best.
Tytan
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Friendship first, I think for the kids sake you guys should just work on being able to tolerate eachother again. You can`t get right back into a relationship, it will never be the same. You can however, be cool w/ eachother, forgive eachother and start a new type of relationship. "Single Parents".
mrplunkey
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This is probably a top three concern among all men getting a divorce. In reality, it turns-out to not even be a top-500 issue in practice (IMO).
Even being marginally available to your own child (i.e. every other weekend) means no other would-be "father" will replace you.
seaking420
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I really hope you're right about that. It scares me more than alimony/child support does. Its my #1 fear.
BNG
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Talkin' as friends is a step in the right direction.
I still think some couples counseling is desperately needed whether you get back together or not. Just so you can co-exist and be decent parents while around each other.
It's temting to give smart-assed bs advice like make her pay etc. and she may even be on the same page, but the fact is that there are several levels involved here.
First: She's running to you when SHTF. She still has that tendancy.
Second: You still care about her and the effects it has on the kids.
Next: Possibly most important is that she see's you've moved on and are doing well. It bugs the shit out of her that your living fine without her. Her state of mind may be as destructive as anything. Don't do anything with her but get counseling. If you tap that now it's feeding the cycle. Being parents together doesn't mean that you have to be back in a relationship. In fact if you have someone else right now it would be all the better.
I still think some couples counseling is desperately needed whether you get back together or not. Just so you can co-exist and be decent parents while around each other.
It's temting to give smart-assed bs advice like make her pay etc. and she may even be on the same page, but the fact is that there are several levels involved here.
First: She's running to you when SHTF. She still has that tendancy.
Second: You still care about her and the effects it has on the kids.
Next: Possibly most important is that she see's you've moved on and are doing well. It bugs the shit out of her that your living fine without her. Her state of mind may be as destructive as anything. Don't do anything with her but get counseling. If you tap that now it's feeding the cycle. Being parents together doesn't mean that you have to be back in a relationship. In fact if you have someone else right now it would be all the better.
redsamurai
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so she get's to go off and fuck around and leave you shitless and witless for a year and then "oh, so sorry.....now I want to get back with you??". Since I don't know the both of you I have to accept that she may have had a good reason to leave you......"if" that's the case, than those things haven't changed. It's STILL a bad idea all around. Cheaters always cheat again. And even if she doesn't, you'll be paraonoid as fuck for the rest of your life about what's she doing or where's she's at. At some point you're going to say fuck it, she's probably cheating.......well than so should I. It's just a mess. The kids are better off now than they would be in that kind of a marriage.
