Daisy wants me back.......

[seaking420]

Easy to make a point that when you dont see your kids everyday though.

Woots remember in one of my pms with you........you said dont stay for the kids.....you will always be their father no matter what. Before you know it your kids will be 15/16 and you wont be seeing much of them anyway...they're going to want to hang out with their friends all the time......it comes down to you and daisy.....if you still have strong feelings for her....and think you maybe able to trust her again, then try with her, but dont get back with her for the kids. Trust me I understand completely when you say that, I still struggle with it, but I do now know that the kids will be fine. MAybe you can try to get full custody of them....

 

[velvett]

You have several months of your own posts up on this board to remind you of what you thought prior to "being wanted back".
I think you should take the time to read those posts.

And then ask the question.

 

[Mr. Black]

If you do decide to go back, prior to this happening...make sure you pound a few more Hot Sluts. Gotta make sure you feel like you'r "even".

 

[mrplunkey]

If you do decide to go back, prior to this happening...make sure you pound a few more Hot Sluts. Gotta make sure you've feel your like you'r "even".

That's some seriously good advice.

 

[Cutiebaby]

Easy to make a point that when you dont see your kids everyday though.

I am not understanding this comment. I show no disrespect towards you nor towards your childrens mother as your private matters are your own. however you come here and you ask advice therefore I am going to give it and I am sorry if I hurt or seem to disrespect either one of you. However:

You 2 have some wonderful beautiful boys together, that is great. Would you rather raise them as functioning children not living in a home built around cheaters, liars, anger, fights, and what not??? How do you think that this will impact their futures? Will they grow to know how to treat a woman correctly or how to view their own mother without seeing her through their fathers eyes??? How about you, how will they see you, will you be the bad angry daddy who is always fighting with mommy, cannot trust mommy etc?
Look you two have soooo or shall I say TOO much shit to work through. Many many years of looking past things through therapy and communication. You cannot just wake up and be a happy family. Unfortunitaly it does not work that way.
Your children will benefit nothing if you are only building a marriage and a family on their behalf. That is a piss poor excuse, just like the women that get abused and stay because of the kids, pussy foot shit....That will only harm the children more than help.

Both of you need to sit and discuss this, get some professional help from an outsider that knows neither one of you. And Do not do this for the kids...Do not do this if you cannot trust one another, if you cannot talk to one another, and if you cannot 100% forgive one another. And damn it DO not lie to yourselves because you have children. Best to leave things well enough alone than to try, fail, and put your children through all of this mess once again.

Daisy- Woot, If you need to talk that is cool, we can exchange pm's. I have been with my husband for 11 years, obviously it has not all been pretty and I am not one to sugar coat...We all make mistakes. No marriage is perfect, no person is perfect. remember that!

 

[wootoom]

no marriage is perfect i understand that.....im just confused..seems like something is up

 

[Cutiebaby]

no marriage is perfect i understand that.....im just confused..seems like something is up

I was not trying to state that you did not know that. I was trying to state that a lot of marriages have been there done that and not all have failed completely same as not all have made it after trying...

What do you mean "seems like something is up"

 

[wootoom]

well why all the sudden does she have feelings for me again...or expressing them..

 

[Cutiebaby]

well why all the sudden does she have feelings for me again...or expressing them..

Sometimes it takes a while for confused people to understand what they really want and need, and also people learn from past mistakes.

 

[jnevin]

well why all the sudden does she have feelings for me again...or expressing them..

I think CW nailed it.