musclemom

Hey stranger. This place is dead. I only stopped by because a secret Facebook group was created with a bunch of EF old timers. It made me nostalgic.

Any time I can relate a bit, so I'm there with you.

At least everything with you and the now-hubby seems fantastic! I'm happy for the relationship you and he have.

There's hope!

Hey! I'm good, crazy couple of last weeks, never been so sick, had like 8 dif meds for crying out loud! my CA125 test results came back in normal range (YaaaaaaY)so now my Dr. is just waiting 3 months having me on birth control to see if everything clears out. To add insult to injury I got a horrible ear infection! lol, but it's clearing up ^_^

Thanks!!

We went to Nuevo Vallarta. It was awesome.

Ahh ,I just thought it was nice to see you after an extended time, i'm doing the same as you, alternating back and fourth trying to multitask things....Take care hon.

Thank you for the kind message, Musclemom. I hope you have a wonderful weekend.....

Digi, you ever cook hamburger meat in a microwave? You realize these people live in places that don't have full kitchens right? People at the poverty level don't have the ability to COOK. There is this book called Nickel and Dimed, it's a about a woman, a journalist who decided to live off minimum wage for a year. A lot of them don't have full refrigerators much less freezers. There are a lot of things you don't think about that go into making decisions that make it impossible for them to make them. You think they can buy hamburger meat and green beans but how much does it cost to live in an apartment with a full kitchen and have pots and pans? I know it seems like a minor thing, but you can't cook hamburger when you have no stove/oven/pan to cook it. Think about it? If you have no stove and have to talk to a grocery store what will you do? Convenience store dollar burritos and a bag of cheetos.

I lived in Pittsburgh and worked downtown for 12 years...while I was there, I was a member of a do-gooder organization called "Christmas In July"...during the month of July all the members (many of whom were tradesmen and contractors) fixed up, renovated, cleaned out and just generally spruced up residences in the Hill District and Wilkinsburg and the North Side and numerous other areas that have fallen into disrepair since the steel mills moved out...as you can imagine, these neighborhoods are probably about 99% minority. I've also worked in Columbus, Cleveland, Atlanta and a few other cities...I've worked for a couple pretty large CPA firms over the years and we had clients everywhere.

However, I also worked for a minority-owned CPA firm in Pittsburgh for a few years too...small place...I was the only true whitebread person there...the only other white-looking person there was actually half Hispanic...his last name was Vargas. The one partner was an ivy-league educated black man who went to school on an academic scholarship...very smart dude...and his diet was just as messed up as the rest of the urban folks...so, it's a more of a cultural thing (from my observation) than a lack of education...he definitely knew the right thing(s) to do and he could absolutely afford to make the right choices...he just had a hard time choosing them! haha

You've really never been in a city have you? I live 20 minutes from center city. Do you know there are virtually no grocery stores in the city? (I'm talking Philadelphia, have you ever even been?) They have bodegas. No fresh food, no produce.

Look, you're smart but I think your opinions are based on your personal experience, which is extremely limited. Watch some documentaries, read some books, open your mind, be willing to change your opinion. The obesity problem in this country is not based on people being gluttons, it's based on the fact that they are nutritionally bereft, which drives them to eat. We are biologically wired to eat fats and sugars. 200,000 years ago fats and sugars actually had nutrition and were loaded with vitamins (honey, fruits, nuts, organ meats and brains). Now sugars are JUST sugar, fat is JUST fat. You have to consider evolution, agriculture, and how it all ties into human physiology. Humans cannot change the fact they crave fats and sugars when they are malnourished because once those foods were the source of life. Now they are poison. This has nothing to do with laziness or gluttony, it has to do with how large corporations derive their profits.

As for SNAP cards being used in liquor stores ... I have no comment because that's not the way it works in my neck of the woods. I grew up on welfare, my stepdaughter has the SNAP card, you can't buy booze with a SNAP card, you can only buy food. In my county you can buy some prepared foods (you can go to Wawa and buy a hoagie, for instance) but fast food or liquor, no. My information is direct, yours is second and third hand. Are you telling me you've stood in the line at a state store and see someone use a SNAP card to buy alcohol?

did you know that you can use your access card at the liquor store?? <------ this is a crime against humanity! also, there used to be grocery stores in those neighborhoods (in pittsburgh...my only substantial metropolitan experience) but they moved out because they kept getting robbed, etc.

i get my data from observation, personal experience and dr. michael eades...

you're saying the same thing that i am...empty calories are not nutrition...instead of buying cheetos and pepsi, buy hamburger and green beans...you'll eat less, you may not feel full, but you'll be fed...it's about choices...and public assistance provides enough to make the right choices.

no...you're wrong...they don't NEED all those calories...that's why they're fat...you don't have to walk away from the table feeling full...you have to walk away from the table having consumed all of the calories required to keep your body and brain functioning properly. also, if you're obese? you've already reprogrammed your brain to overeat. thus, in order to conquer your obesity, you will need to get used to walking around feeling a little bit hungry all the time...probably for the rest of your life...and most people don't have that kind of fortitude. but, i couldn't disagree with you more. fat people consume more calories than they need...that's why they're fat...and almost every poor person in the u.s. is fat...they make poor choices when they go grocery shopping...they equate "feeling full" to being properly nourished...and they over eat to feel full. they need to consume less carbohydrates...and they can choose to do so.

yo! long time no see, hope all is dandy

Good morning..Have a wonderful day.

@TheTNlifetimecuckold: How bout you consider this an opportunity for stfu?

The new/airheads are the irrelevants, not you!

Thanks MM i just got around to seeing your response on meditation. Much appreciated.

I'm gonna check that out because I still cant find anything suitable;P

Good Evening, I hope you have been doing well. I have missed you and I am glad to be back. Do you need some more Karma? lololololl

Haven't read ya in a while, hope all is well *positive vibrations your way*

Have a great end of year and 2013 as well

Hope you had a great solstice!

Check your PMs

Pick a cause, I'll send you in the right direction! Not all environment organizations are created equally as far as their motivations and methods, I can direct you to an organization that will be the most mutually beneficial. I got lucky where I ended up. You wouldn't believe it, but there's a lot of in-fighting and drama that is just....nonsense. But some places have their heads and hearts in the right places, and I'll make sure you are tied to one of them. I'm well connected, please make use of that.

Also, one of my jobs is helping people initiate and organize their own grassroots efforts, should you not wish to volunteer with any one organization. If you decide you want to go that route, again, please let me know! One of the most rewarding things in my job is when I am able to inspire and give legs to a new person.

Thanks for your helpful K advice. I've always loved your avi too.

Thank you. I appreciate everything you said.

Murky golden aura meaning? Are the colors different for everyone? Can you see them?

The best part about the myth is understanding why it persists. The intent is not to say that hard work is hopeless, but the intent IS to say that hard work (in some cases) is simply not enough.

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Yeah, I know she is not in the bible at all directly named. I was just trying to see if she could fit since there are really no names in the beginning. Genesis leaves a lot out and is cryptic and symbolic and purposely leaves things out imo, so its possible Lilith is there but hidden from plain sight from the heard headed. Lololol I think its fun. Hell, I like her. Hahaha.

You're welcome! Keep well

if you're back I guess you feel a wee bit better, that's good

Happy Thanksgiving Musclemom!!!!! I hope you have a wonderful week ...

MJ was, I think they have evidence of michael saying so.

If someone put a gun to my head and said pick a religion or die...I would choose Wicca because it is least intrusive to my individual freedom. I bust your balls, I mean ovaries, because I have to challenge all belief systems...On a side note I converted Cindy and Aimee to Dr. Who fandom...I can't be all bad...

doing great MM. my lucks been GREAT for once =)

hey =)

how've you been?

Your on the Karma millionaire list. Congratulations.

I'm doing pretty good thanks for asking/caring! I wouldn't call things super awesome but they are definitely better. Abby starts preschool on Monday and I will start going back into the office a couple days a week. I think two years of working from home was more than I could handle, psychologically...I guess I'm not the introvert that I thought I was. I'll still work from home but not 99% of the time.

oh okay..that's how I thought it worked my bad

LOL...he's joking...but yes you are still correct ahahahaha why won't the universe forgive me?

Have a wonderful weekend, MuscleMom!!!!

lol your threads are the only threads worth clicking in EF chat in the past couple weeks

I suspected as much, and you're probably in a very similar place to where I was a few weeks ago...especially in regards to the forums

Agreed.

lol ..not really so many people posting..just the type of stuff that's posted I guess loll

I'm going to send you a friendship request so you can post on my profile if you ever feel the urge lol... I had to turn off PM's and profile messages to everyone but friends.

Have a wonderful week..

Im perfectly capable of hate, and of killing someone under certain circumstances I already posted about. You should try a little more civility when people are being civil to you and not call someone a coward just for differing beliefs that neither make someone weak or a coward.

I'll always have your back when it comes to freedom of religion....You have the right to practice your religion unobstructed by the govement as long as you aren't harming anyone else....Wiccans and human sacrifice..wtf? That's some 16th century bogotry right there...

I agree I think we have different strenghs but are equal.

WLM = Women's lib movement

Too bad...beef and beer sounds pretty good I'm going to a "sausage sunday" here in a minute...lol... I sent an email

Hey when your friends get together a fundrasier for their daughter, let me know and I'll send what I can to help.

Well said Harri. Allopaths unfortunately are not trained to listen well. And unfortunately they often develop Doctor Bighead Syndrome. Our sensitivities to hormones are obviously unique, so like you said the numbers only tell a part of the story.

ooooh sorry about the computer honey! It's happened to me. I feel your rage hermana. I've long since started copying my longer posts onto the clipboard as I write them in case that happens.

whoooooooooa....so glad to hear from you lady! sounds like there's been real progress on getting you fixed. Really, really missed you.

Hey Gorgeous!!! Have a great day!

hey MM thanks for the kmsg..good advice Hope you're having a great summer It's the dog days here..I can't wait for the crisp cool fall air of October..hoodies and pumpkins..halloween etc. I'm done with summer.

Yes, I'm stucking to my guns...yes. I'll tell you more later.

I'm sorry it hurts so much..that sucks. Is the third one your last one?

Hope you're doing well MM

Oh it's okay...I'm okay. I thought you knew that? See, I told javaguru that and he got mad at me and posted it on the open forum to retaliate. So most people on here know, I never told my parents or anyone in real life though. IDK though. The only way I might suspect that it had an effect is that I'm really good at keeping secrets. And I knew from a too early age what real shame was. I guess time will tell.

HA HA . I did that to fuck with anyone talking shit about my spelling.

Kisses! I do occasionally let my bad boy out...lol. Very glad to know it made you smile! d

am i that wrong about the fan being on in the bedroom? lol

yeah , I gotta get something...I was induced early because the pain got unbearable
the weight was just too damned much...luckily the weight is flying off so far

yeah thats insane..being sued for witnessing an accident

our home owners policy just renewed and I'm pleased to say my rates only went up by 60 bucks a year..not bad for a half million dollar claim..and was just told this morning to not fret about the construction bill getting too high because we still have more coverage

Im suing liberty mutual for half that amount for the neck/back injury...really pissed the epidural wouldnt work correctly because the disc spaces were so screwed up

maybe with the state thing...but you havent heard of amica because they barely advertise and they dont have "agents"

check out the jd power awards for insurance...
for your thing i think youll be fine in the end...sounds like the guy is just tryin to scam a buck

well...good luck with it all...I was warned over and over again how bad our thing would have been if we had had allstate or travelers...

I know how stressful legal bs can be..and I would definitey bring third party suit if it gets hairy

the new ankle biter is really good..was gonna post an update thread today at some point

lol@redrocker being a lil crybaby

Good morning MM. I have not heard from you and you know if we are going to get married one day, it would be nice to at least communicate. lol Have a wonderful day.....

Always my pleasure to hear from you Harriet. Better you posted here anyway as the resident junior high jackasses took over. Those two really do make it difficult to enjoy any conversation in chat. At least they don't venture into the threads south of them. I just don't want all I post to be in religon and politics. I really do like to have fun! Honest!!

Isn't testosterone fun!! Lol. I don't know, some chicas can pull off the Vin look. I can't think of any right now?? I'd still date Tia Leoni or Jennifer Anniston sans hair! Does that help?? LOl. I should have all my 'stuff' today to start my peptides. I'll keep you posted and thanks again! David

I never get sick

I'll make mine all my drinks a double till I catch up

I'm going to go get some rum and start right now bb in a minute...lol

H...Thank you so, so much! I think I am going to go ahead and take the plunge. But I feel much better about it after hearing from someone who has experience and whose opinion I trust. I'll let you know how it goes. Have a great evening...D

My lowest flash point is bullies. No matter where I find them. He is making it difficult for me to maintain my cherub-like demeanor. Thanks for the intel.

So back to the peptides...Are you and hubby running them? How is it working for him in conjunction with the TRT if he is? So the protocol is to inject twice a day, I think? Into the midsection fat layer I think? have you noticed any BF reduction because of it? Any other aches and pains reduction? the whole idea of injecting myself is rather daunting. My experience with 'supplements' thus far have all been oral.

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And yours is a story told a million times over. I coach football and have for years so I have a birds eye view into many of these tales. And honestly, it saddens me more than I ever let on.

By the way, what's the deal with Strongbow? He is without question the biggest friggin A-hole i've met around here! Does anyone actually find his bully schtick funny?

Oh that is so unbelievably true. Men make that mistake so much. I have done it myself. We have such a bassackwards view of what constitutes real strength. Men complain about what they percieve is an always changing line of achievement in a woman's heart. And they percieve it as such because they are 'acting' in an effort to find balance. When in reality, to be honest, to be yourself and to be gentle all the while acting on what is right and not simply reacting emotionally, projects the strength of character and gives her the security her heart craves. But I assure you, these are not easily learned lessons.

That is a spot on diagnosis MM. Most men shy away from emotional understanding choosing instead to demean it or poke fun at it. And they do so to their own detriment. It's kinda tough to be strong in something you don't understand. The final stage for most is to confuse anger or wrath for strength which actually is quite the opposite. Sad but true.

I am just past the half way point on paying it off, bought it brand new, and I'd be upside down on it. So I want to keep it for sure, I might not be able to work out getting the bike anyway. My GF would probably flip out anyway. Thanks for the input though, I appreciate it. See ya on the boards MuscleMom.

Hey Gorgeous, you are not the only geek, I like Dr. Who to> lol

Thank you Musclemom, You are very special to me,

Oh I definitely agree with you there. She meant someone who had different interests not different values. I was supposed to be equally "yoked" in not only my relationships but my friendships as well....lol they wonder why I was such a defiant kid

Just came by to say hi

Oh man...Elizabth Bathory...I remember reading about her and then seeing something about her on the History Channel on...I think it was vampires? Maybe it was serial killers. Steal life force? What do you mean?

lol... never in a million years. The daughters of moms like that almost always end up fucked up in some way....lol...

Thank you. The generosity is almost discomforting in some ways too. I am usually the one volunteering, helping out...being a bleeding heart.I don't know how to say "thank you" as it turns out. I was given a box of thank you cards, envelopes, and stamps and it is a little paralyzing to write the thank you cards. Its like I'm affraid to give away that I'm so vulnerable and grateful. Writing this out here though gives me a new resolve to sit down and finish the cards I have written so far. I have a whole new appreciation for my immediate next door neighbors. They have so little and have given so much of their time, love, tried to give us their belongings.
I met with the structure adjuster yesterday at the house and he is being incredibly fair/generous with the repair write up. I think the house will probably be better than new when its done. The contents don't matter too much..but I really wish I could use my big bathtub! lol, it made being pregnant a lot easier. I also found a pressed glass depression era lamp in my house yesterday..it needs to have new wiring etc but its base and shade were in one piece which was just amazing to me. It's so weird to see what the fire destroyed and what the fire destroyed. I'm excited to meet one of the major contractors this afternoon to possibly sign a contract and get this show on the road.

The generosity is mind boggling to me too. And es...similar to a robbery victim I would imagine.

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I lost almost everything when I got divorced from my ex..even my children and pets for a short time. This is so much different. Its so hard to put into words but I found a quote from another fire victim online, here it is "Expect your grief to come, fire is an isolation and horrible experience, It burns up more than our "things." It burns up hope and security. It takes our history and... some of our identity. "

I came away with a few "things" in my divorce. Some jewelery, some pictures, my antique rug...a pair of very expensive end tables..my clothes (half of them anyway). I didn't even have a shirt, coat or shoes after this...my youngest was naked wrapped in a blanket and not even her security blanket...no leash for the dog..no toiletries...even when I enlisted I was issued (and was able to buy) basic needs.

We've been donated a ton of stuff including an incredible bedroom set for us...a TON of clothing..including a weeks worth of brand new clothing a neighbor went out and bought. We live in a wealthy area and a lot of people give away stuff thats nicer than what a lot of people go out and buy..the insurance is covering everything..but weird things hit me...A painting my mother painted (shes an accomplished artist) at a very low spot in her life before I was born. My rug..it was very old and impossible to replace..I grew up walking on it, Greg had a blanket (goat hair) from Iraq that he "gave" to me when I felt low. ..and then stuff thats weirder still but just gone..and a pita to replace..makeup, herbal tinctures, cooking spices..hell deodorant..hair brushes....

then my sense of security is totally shattered...I bought ten smoke detectors for the rental (it has 9 rooms and had two detectors)...I hear fire trucks (a sound I was very comfortable with) and I freeze a little. I see a cigarette burning and I wonder if someones life is going to be ripped away because of it. I continue to wonder if someone actually set the house on fire. I've aready started to harass the insurance company and the potential contractor for heat sensors and residential sprinklers....

I know I don't "need" any of the stuff..but it would really make me feel more secure when I feel so...adrift.
If someone had been hurt or killed my focus would obviously be elsewhere..but that didn't happen fortunately...none of the firefighters were injured...though my husband did need (but didn't get) stitches in his chin after falling on ice in the driveway..fire trucks, water, cold weather= big ice...so now Im just stuck with this sense of loss and seeing everything either burnt beyond recognition or so black with soot its hopeless to clean is somehow harder than it just being gone...

its so hard to explain.

thanks MM. This has been incredibly hard. Replacing everything sets me off on an almost daily tangent. We lost almost everything .Weird things keep cropping up to be salvageable. Like, the insurance adjuster found my dog tags and my marriage license (different locations) in the house unscathed this week! I loved our house and took a lot of pride in it. We've been moved into a rental that though we picked we sort of hate. It just serves to underscore how well made my house was. I thank god (or whom/whatever) the insurance company has been very smooth efficent and pleasant...I'm starting to turn into a walking billboard for them. The loss of sense of safety and security is sometimes overwhelming.

lOL, I agree.
She's in that -I need to find some wellness, I'm over worked babyboomer 70+ hour demogaph- lol. She in a lifestyle transition phase, so yeah, positive thoughts and relaxing/rhythm/theme is what she needs. She's no longer worried, but I have to say, she seemed pretty adamant, 2 years ago, the world was gonna be shutting down at any moment.

Log in issues are straight out of pink panther/mr. bean. Thanx. Still with Thands, we are good, but made some career changes. Just ordered her a carnelian/red jasper strength bracelet for Valentines Day. LOL, my mom keeps calling me up talking about 2012, I wish I had some insight to tell her other than, nothing world shattering is going to happen, but a change of atmosphere on some level, probably, then I realize I have no clue.
Anyway, hope your 2011 shaman esque inquiry is going well.

I should have been more careful like you said.

Everything good in your world MM?

Thanks for the k MM...yeah I'm going to be very careful....

Happy New Year gorgeous

I did know that actually..and my 19 yr old brain thought it was a great backround story for the name...lol..damnit..hindsight is 20/20

Hi mom. Merry Christmas and Very Happy New Year to you toots that rhyms with roots!