Wifes poor dad dying, she had to whip out the POA, pretty broken up

[RADAR]

Thoughts and prayers to you, your wife & family....

Yup! Stay strong for your wife.

RADAR

 

[annabelletx]

sorry to hear about everything going on. my family went through the same thing two years ago this june with my grandfather. he was a ww2 vet and was dying of cancer. thank god before he got to ill he made it clear what he wanted. dnr and made my father poa and asked me for help since i am in the medical field and he knew i would be straight with him about stuff. shitty part was that all of my dad's siblings except one agreed with my grandfathers decision, she raised hell. but he passed peacefully finally.

just stay strong for your wife, even if she doesn't show it, she will really need you. your wife and family are in all our prayers. god bless and keep you in his arms.

 

[biteme]

That sux man. Sorry to hear it.

 

[jaded]

Thoughts and prayers to you, your wife & family....

 

[calveless wonder]

Damn..........wifes dad fell at the nursing home 3 days ago and broke his hip. After thunking he was ok last night he suffered a major heart attack. We just got back. They cant operate cause he has bad heart, bad kidneys, and they found 2 anurisms and say he can most likely not handle it. They said possibly, but it would take him to hell and back and we know he wont survive it. He is 72, a vietnam vet and many of his oprobs have been agent orange suspected but cant be proven--like his hips degenerating 25 years ago. So after consoling with him and family members all day she told the docs to not revive him and just keep him comfortable. At least everyone was in agreeance, although the wife is the one with the poa and final word. Shes in bed crashed out, I cant sleep. Got her sis flying in tonight, things would be better if it werent for the massive ice storm we have 2 power lines down in the yard and huge tree limbs have smashed up a bunch of shit. We had to get a ride in to the hospital as my 4x4 is effed up right now and the roads are treachorous. So anyways rolling in the new year.......

when it rains it pours.......i'm very sorry to hear that. The best thing you can do is be there for your wife and her family to support her. in his case, it may be the best.......it sounds like he's had a difficult life and living in a nursing home is not a pleasant experience especially when your health is so far gone.
i wish the best for you and your family....just stay strong for your wife and her family. i'm going through some tough times as well but the storm will always weather

 

[Testosterone boy]

Thoughts and prayers to you, your wife & family....

damn......things will get better bro.

 

[flexygrl]

damn......things will get better bro.

I agree...keep you head up

 

[john937]

I went thru this earlier last year....you're going for a walk thru hell and back...
It sucks but it will get better.
I joined a group berievement therapy group for a while.
Your wife should consider berievement counseling.
It helps to have others to talk with that have been there.
Sometimes they have answers you aren't going to find any other way.
Make sure you take time to talk in depth with his hospital case worker.
Make sure his case worker is aware of your families decisions.
Make sure his Do Not Resucitate orders are clearly on file.

 

[aznurse]

See if the doc will write an evaluation for Hospice. They will provide nursing, bereavement and social services. They are great for helping everyone involved. The goal is to keep the client comfortable, once you make the decision to not do any agressive treatment.

 

[The Shadow]

72 and a NAM vet??


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