What's the nicest way to tell woman to lose few extra pounds?

[blueta2]

Tell her that her ass is getting soft.

that does work ;-)

 

[Bikini Mod]

Perk, take it as I'm saying it, respect the woman enough to say to her, "I think you're a wonderful person and would hate to do anything to ruin our friendship but I respect you far to much to lead you on in any way, you're just not the physical type I go for." If she asks what you mean, then tell her you go for slimmer ladies. That way you're being dead honest, the decision as to whether to lose weight or not is entirely up to her and she can also decide how she feels about how much you value appearance. She might think you're too shallow and will just back off. Either way, problem solved.

It's been my experience that trying to sugar coat honesty backfires in the end.

Plus 100

I don't see how any other approach could work.

Men are very visual creatures and the fact that you saw past the fact that she is not your physical type in the hopes of getting to know her (because you already knew you liked her as a person) to see if you could get *over that* says a lot about your level of maturity and a lot about your strength of character. There are very few men who would remotely entertain this notion. So in that aspect she is a lucky woman. However, having said that, this doesn't mean that she will necessarily be willing to change her external appearance merely to make herself more attractive to you.

Good luck, let us know how it works out.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Wow, that just makes you sound like an arrogant and condescending fuck.

Why don't you do her a favor and dump her; if someone feels that they are in the position to "give someone a chance" to be with them they certainly must have a wide variety of women at their feet to choose from, no?

Velvett I think you took that the wrong way.

Men are VERY visual creatures so you can't be angry with a man for this point of view. Actually I feel that he should be commended for this approach. Not a lot of men would even go on a date with a woman unless he wanted to jump her bones from the word go, let alone have a relationship to see if his attraction could grow.

Women are the ones who warm slowly. Men decide sometimes in a nanosecond (based on a woman's physical appearance alone) whether or not they would even give a female the time of day regardless of what a stellar human being she is.

You can't be upset with Perkele for being honest.

 

[the_alcatraz]

Wow, that just makes you sound like an arrogant and condescending fuck.

Why don't you do her a favor and dump her; if someone feels that they are in the position to "give someone a chance" to be with them they certainly must have a wide variety of women at their feet to choose from, no?

I agree with this. If I were a woman and a man said that to me, I'd head butt him. lol

 

[Bikini Mod]

I agree with this. If I were a woman and a man said that to me, I'd head butt him. lol

I disagree.

Men are visual and for the most part superficial in this regard. A man needs to have all of his senses aroused before he will want to pursue emotional intimacy with a woman whereas women need to have their emotional needs stimulated/met before they will want to become physical - herein lies one of the biggest sources of frustration and miscommunication between the sexes. Strangely enough we both want the same thing. Problem is we (by design) approach from completely opposite angles.

 

[Megalomaniac]

I'm a straight talker these days. Life is too short to be PC about everything and this is a perfect case. If I'm with a girl who I feel needs to lose a couple of pounds then I say it. I say I would find you more attractive if you lost a couple of pounds. If she can't handle it then she can let me know. At this point I make a decision if her weight is that much of a factor, if so I move on. You only get one life and it is really short, why waste it being confused?

With that said you must be reasonable here, life isn't perfect so ask yourself how perfect does she need to be. What actually matters.

 

[the_alcatraz]

I disagree.

Men are visual and for the most part superficial in this regard. A man needs to have all of his senses aroused before he will want to pursue emotional intimacy with a woman whereas women need to have their emotional needs stimulated/met before they will want to become physical - herein lies one of the biggest sources of frustration and miscommunication between the sexes. Strangely enough we both want the same thing. Problem is we (by design) approach from completely opposite angles.

Saying that men are superficial is like saying all blondes are dumb or men who dress well are gay.

I was attracted to my wife's intelligence and views on life before I even noticed how beautiful she was. When I started dating my wife, she was overweight in every regard, and I broke off my relationship with a gorgeous swimmer with the perfect body. Looks don't mean much to me when compared to intelligence, outlook on life, and the ability to have fun. I'd want to be able to sit and have an intelligent meaningful conversation with my wife when we're gray and too old for sex, not ignore each other.

 

[Megalomaniac]

Saying that men are superficial is like saying all blondes are dumb or men who dress well are gay.

I was attracted to my wife's intelligence and views on life before I even noticed how beautiful she was. When I started dating my wife, she was overweight in every regard, and I broke off my relationship with a gorgeous swimmer with the perfect body. Looks don't mean much to me when compared to intelligence, outlook on life, and the ability to have fun. I'd want to be able to sit and have an intelligent meaningful conversation with my wife when we're gray and too old for sex, not ignore each other.

well put.



(with that said, I do love having sex with 22 year old hammers!)

 

[Bikini Mod]

Saying that men are superficial is like saying all blondes are dumb or men who dress well are gay.

I was attracted to my wife's intelligence and views on life before I even noticed how beautiful she was. When I started dating my wife, she was overweight in every regard, and I broke off my relationship with a gorgeous swimmer with the perfect body. Looks don't mean much to me when compared to intelligence, outlook on life, and the ability to have fun. I'd want to be able to sit and have an intelligent meaningful conversation with my wife when we're gray and too old for sex, not ignore each other.

You sir, are the exception to the rule. Most men don't *get this* until they are much older and even then, they still end up chasing the "empty-headed" or "empty-hearted" bitches because "they are hot" disregarding for the most part the women who have everythig to offer them EXCEPT being "hot."

Truth be told, my own husband admitted after seeing a pic of me 20 years ago, there is NO WAY he would have given me the time of day....

It hurt my feelings a little bit because I married him when he had nothing (the only woman to do this with the exception of his first wife who he married right out of the service). But he was honest. Not to mention that he has taken care of me many times when I am sick so I DO KNOW he loves me for me....

Still you must admit that MOST MEN are not this way.

Generally, they are more superficial when it comes to physical beauty and there is no need to get upset with them for that. It is part of their biology, just as it is a woman's biology to be attracted to the man who will be able to provide for her and her offspring best.

Men value beauty and women value security - all else stems from this.

 

[Megalomaniac]

You sir, are the exception to the rule. Most men don't *get this* until they are much older and even then, they still end up chasing the "empty-headed" or "empty-hearted" bitches because "they are hot" disregarding for the most part the women who have everythig to offer them EXCEPT being "hot."

Truth be told, my own husband admitted after seeing a pic of me 20 years ago, there is NO WAY he would have given me the time of day....

It hurt my feelings a little bit because I married him when he had nothing (the only woman to do this with the exception of his first wife who he married right out of the service). But he was honest. Not to mention that he has taken care of me many times when I am sick so I DO KNOW he loves me for me....

Still you must admit that MOST MEN are not this way.

Generally, they are more superficial when it comes to physical beauty and there is no need to get upset with them for that. It is part of their biology, just as it is a woman's biology to be attracted to the man who will be able to provide for her and her offspring best.

Men value beauty and women value security - all else stems from this.

Well I value money and loyalty. Beauty I buy. Security I carry. I also watch a lot of mob movies.

How do they tell ladies to lose weight?