What's the nicest way to tell woman to lose few extra pounds?

[gonelifting]

I pissed mine off slightly the other day and low and behold today she says shes going to the gym with me tomorrow. I win!

She's going to the gym to cheat on you.

 

[musclemom]

This is correct. Women are very body conscious but most of the time dont have a workable plan or are afraid to take that first step. I would think the best thing is to integrate her into your workouts, which means "dumbing down" your workouts to her level until she gets in better shape, or adding more workouts that you do with her simply to get her going.

The problem is, some people really fucking hate exercise. I'm married to someone who is like that. If it's not for sex or to collect a paycheck he hates getting sweaty, exerting himself, or doing anything physical. He likes some types of cardio (biking) but where we live it's not practical year round and you actually have to drive the bikes out of the area immediately around our home, we're in a valley, surrounding by brutal hills. We tried getting a stationary bike, it bored him after a few weeks. People who are non exercisers are very frustrating.

I believe if people want to work out, they will find a way and the self motivators are the only ones who lose weight and stick with it. If they want to lose weight and are at a loss they'll say "I'd like to drop some pounds/lose some weight, I'm working out, what do you think I'm doing wrong?" or "I'd love to work out but don't know where to start." Women come on the board all the time to the women's forum and say that.

Some powerlifting chicks, in particular, have their own reasons for not wanting to lose weight. Some women LIKE being big (in addition to being strong) and if that means carrying some extra pounds so be it.

 

[musclemom]

She was even heavier. Her weight went down little bit when she started powerlifting again after an eight year break, and after having few kids.

I've known her a long long time. Recently she got divorced and then she started drooling after me. She's one of the nicest person ever so I gave her a chance even though physically I was not attacted to her.

Perk, take it as I'm saying it, respect the woman enough to say to her, "I think you're a wonderful person and would hate to do anything to ruin our friendship but I respect you far to much to lead you on in any way, you're just not the physical type I go for." If she asks what you mean, then tell her you go for slimmer ladies. That way you're being dead honest, the decision as to whether to lose weight or not is entirely up to her and she can also decide how she feels about how much you value appearance. She might think you're too shallow and will just back off. Either way, problem solved.

It's been my experience that trying to sugar coat honesty backfires in the end.

 

[stosstruppe]

Telling someone they need to lose weight is like telling a smoker they need to quit smoking. People get angry because you're insulting their intelligence in stating the obvious. Let's face it, people know if they are overweight, just like people know cigarette smoking is bad for them.

+1

The person knows stuffing their face with caek is bad for them, & that they're overweight, no need to scream in their face repeatedly "FAT BITCH! EARTHQUAKE! AAAHHHH!!!" ad nauseum. I would however offer to undergo lifestyle changes together e.g. "fancy going for a walk with me?", "Want me to cook meals for a while?" "Do the shopping" etc., that way, any semi rational woman would know you're trying to tactfully lend a hand.

If she'd still kick up about it get rid of her. Fuck, not even married yet letting herself go & losing the rag at any effort to assist.

 

[NEO1]

If you can pull this off without offending her and getting kicked in the kahonas, let me know how you did it.

 

[jerseyrugger76]

I honestly didn't know there were chicks who were into powerlifting. That's kinda scary. I'd choose my words very carefully. Definitely stay away from things like . . .

"You're just too much woman for one man to handle."

"I'd like to see less of you."

or, when she's climbing on top of you for seks,

"Hey, one at a time!"

 

[velvett]

you say "Hey fatso, pick up your chin when you walk"

OMG that's funny, terrible, but funny.

 

[velvett]

I've known her a long long time. Recently she got divorced and then she started drooling after me. She's one of the nicest person ever so I gave her a chance even though physically I was not attacted to her.

Wow, that just makes you sound like an arrogant and condescending fuck.

Why don't you do her a favor and dump her; if someone feels that they are in the position to "give someone a chance" to be with them they certainly must have a wide variety of women at their feet to choose from, no?

 

[blueta2]

OMG that's funny, terrible, but funny.

Yeah, I wanted to answer a stupid question, with a stupid answer

 

[all the whey]

Tell her that her ass is getting soft.