What do you bring to the table?

[ceo]

It sucks, but you do have to go through a bunch of crazy bitches to find one good one. Gotta expand your options.

I view this like choosing a car to buy. There's some decent domestic models, but they usually never last. You can find some that are even VERY fun to drive (Vette, Viper, etc.), but when you're choosing one for the long term reliability factor...you go with an import.

Helps to find one with a good profession and higher education (doctor type - probably not lawyer).

Where are you finding all these wimmins? Why are you still looking there? I mean, of course IF you're really thinking about settling down someday. This is the first sign of any inclination I've seen from you ever in regards to the thought of possibly "settling down."

 

[puddlemonkey]

By the way, excellent thread, Puddles. I read it twice thinking, "wtf, he couldn't have actually written all of that out, could he?"

Its kinda jumbled, too many thoughts going through my head and I was typing it out. That and the phone kept ringing

 

[ceo]

As for what I bring to the table...shiiiiiat negro, that list is so long it would eat up too much bandwidth here and admin would delete your thread.

 

[puddlemonkey]

Well I was one of those women who had a TRUCKLOAD of debt. Nope, not due to frivolous spending (what's that?) it was due to the divorce/custody nightmare with my INCREDIBLY POOR CHOICE of who I married and whom subsequently fathered my only children. (Which you all are well aware of by now).

Thats another place debt will come from I didn't think about before. Divorce!

I can cook and bake and clean but I told men upfront - I won't so don't ask.

Ok, someone's going to ask so it might as well be me.... why?

 

[puddlemonkey]

I view this like choosing a car to buy. There's some decent domestic models, but they usually never last. You can find some that are even VERY fun to drive (Vette, Viper, etc.), but when you're choosing one for the long term reliability factor...you go with an import.

I'm usually first in line to rip on our women here, they can't all be bad can they?

This is the first sign of any inclination I've seen from you ever in regards to the thought of possibly "settling down."

It comes from the constant pressure of my brother, his wife and my mother. My father doesn't care if I marry or not. If anything he'd probably advise against it. My brother usually right about everything. Yes everything, been that way all our lives, pisses me off. But on this subject I don't think he realizes what I'm up against. He got lucky and has been with the same girl since they were ages 12 and 15. Not to mention they have no kids to deal with and she makes 6 figures. Those women aren't exactly a dime a dozen.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Thats another place debt will come from I didn't think about before. Divorce!



Ok, someone's going to ask so it might as well be me.... why?

Legitimate question.

With my first marriage I busted MY ASS, we are talking belly to the floor scrubbing on it while three little kids were tearing up the other end of the house. My kids were so spoiled that they would refuse to eat storebought cookies! Does that tell you anything about my abilities as one that can cook and clean?

I was raised to believe that a woman's value is dependent upon her ability to keep house, cook/bake and raise children... well for all of my work I got bubkus.

I was then lost as I NEVER wanted to remarry... I didn't have a clue what other value a "good wife" could have and I sure the shit was not about to go back to playing slave labor. On my own I cooked/cleaned and paid my own bills. So why then would I put up with a man's BS so I could have to cook clean more and get to keep less of the money I earned, not to mention give up my sexual freedom?

I then came to find that my value had naught to do with cooking OR cleaning as one can be paid to do that, nor did my value begin and end with what was between my legs.

My value came from my intellect and my heart (character)... those decided what type of mother/wife I was. So I would only give my time to those men who valued what I had to offer.

As I chose to date only men that were financially successful the issues of cooking/cleaning NEVER came up. LOL Not to mention, I would not be a good match for a man who WANTED his wife to perform these tasks.

It is all about knowing yourself and finding out your preference and what makes you happy... then not compromising that.

The Old Grump actually brags about how "I don't do shit"... heheheee every now and again some bubba gump in a bar will say, "Yea my old lady don't do shit neether." So I tell them how much shit I DONT do. They say, "Really, you don't even cook or clean... ever?" I say, "Nope." Then he is stunned when my husband tells him who does it. So then I correct that good ole boy (with a smile of course as Southern women have been known to do) by saying, "What you MEANT to say was that your old lady just don't get paid for all the shit she does!"

 

[ceo]

I'm usually first in line to rip on our women here, they can't all be bad can they?

Pretty much, yes. From my experiences, and most guys I know too. The really good, reliable domestic models are out there...but very rare, and usually require more maintenance.

It comes from the constant pressure of my brother, his wife and my mother. My father doesn't care if I marry or not. If anything he'd probably advise against it. My brother usually right about everything. Yes everything, been that way all our lives, pisses me off. But on this subject I don't think he realizes what I'm up against. He got lucky and has been with the same girl since they were ages 12 and 15. Not to mention they have no kids to deal with and she makes 6 figures. Those women aren't exactly a dime a dozen.

True. That's why I said doctors!!!!!

 

[habitualhealth]

I have noticed this with a few women. Everything seems to be... What are you buying me today? Where are you taking me today? What are you doing for me today? And we're not talking 10's either, it'll be like a 7 with a kid.

what are you buying me today? were are you taking me today? what are you doing for me today?



...good thing i'm an 11 with a kid huh?

 

[Paul7]

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[puddlemonkey]

what are you buying me today? were are you taking me today? what are you doing for me today?



...good thing i'm an 11 with a kid huh?

I was thinking 12. But you're right, you do have that annoying habit of talking.