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What do you bring to the table?
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dps1822 said:
You might want to keep that quiet for awhile, early enough in a relationship and that could be grounds for dumping to some guys.
cindylou said:
That seems to be an issue. Its usually one of two things, either the ex is nowhere to be found and the kids run rampant and she has zero control of them, or the ex is in the picture and the kids behave well but the ex is a pain in the ass and is always trying to cause problems with the new boyfriend.
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PuddleMonkey said:
Just turn
BlueBird said:
lol no, info is being sent to you in the mail regarding time and place.
PuddleMonkey said:So I found myself thinking about this the past few days as I continue to get pressure from my brother and sister in law about settling down. Not so much about myself, as I'm perfect, but rather the women I've dated the past 6 or 7 years. I went through them one by one and asked myself what would each girl bring to the table in a long term relationship? It seems like the same scenario time and time again. Maybe its the women I've associated myself with, but debt and mental instability came up repeatedly. And kids too, most women my age have a couple kids. Most of my friends refer to these women as DG (damaged goods), but personally I don't mind rug rats as long as mom can keep them under control. Am I suppose to be looking for anything in particular here? Is it wrong to view this in dollars and cents? Society tells us men to be good providers, which I can do, but when I'm brought up to see things in business terms its hard to want to adopt a bunch of dept I had nothing to do with. Where is the benefit to finding someone longterm? The only things I can see myself needing are better eating habits and a cleaner house. There are areas in my house I haven't dusted since '04. I just swept the kitchen and hardwoods yesterday and found some interesting things hiding in corners and behind appliances. And my eating habits, those seems to be worse when I am dating. Is it just me or when you guys date are you taking her out to restaurants 3-4 times a week? Do women even know how to cook now days, or is it just not as important as it use to be? Do you women ever ask yourself, "why would I make a good wife?" (no hate)
As for the rest of you, what the hell do you bring to the table? What makes you a good choice as a mate?
Money, position, virility, experience and wisdom.
I have the greatest luck with 20-29 year olds who are damaged by relationships with boys their own age. It doesn't last though ... I'm too old and really no fun. I'm devoting all my time to the new daughter and I'm overdue for a new romance.
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Excellent thread...
Well I was one of those women who had a TRUCKLOAD of debt. Nope, not due to frivolous spending (what's that?) it was due to the divorce/custody nightmare with my INCREDIBLY POOR CHOICE of who I married and whom subsequently fathered my only children. (Which you all are well aware of by now).
I do completely understand your point of view. Hell, I knew how hard it was to find someone of substance (once I was ready) because regardless of all of my highly desirable qualities, that one HYUGE negative pretty much overshadowed the good stuff.
Not to mention the fact that I haven't been healthy for a long time and highly doubt I ever will be again.
Anyways, what do I bring to the table?
I am smart, funny, creative, loyal, talented, proud, trustworhty, loving, kind, will kick your ass when you need it and hold your hand when you need that. I can cook and bake and clean but I told men upfront - I won't so don't ask. I am incredibly frugal as I was raised poor and was helping my parents run their business by 17.
When I feel well enough to get my freak on I enjoy my partner almost too much... (this has become a flaw as I deteriorate).
I work hard to be attractive for myself and for my partner. I have a great sense of style and flair and want always to be visually pleasing. For MOST MEN this is fairly important. If I haven't let myself go by 40 something, I certainly don't feel the need to start.
There is NO NEED to feel pressured to find a partner that is suitable.
Just think on it like this:
1. You HAVE to really Really REALLY like her, in other words you gotta enjoy her company in THE ABSENCE OF SEX.
2. You HAVE to have common life goals.
3. You should be kind, supportive to one another. It has to go both ways or it won't work.
4. If you rock each other's worlds sexually that is a bonus, but not mandatory. You can "learn" to rock each other's worlds over time as you get to know one another better. With a woman you need to start with her head and she must be visually (then mentally) appealing to you.
Ya'll have seen my husband and every day he gets a new ache or pain and he busts his ass every fucking day to deliver what he has promised me. He NEVER checked out on me, even when I checked out. I will never forsake him for this. <---- for this is a characteristic that is truly rare indeed. For me, there can be no other man.
I can't speak for him, but I believe this bolded statement is one of the qualities that I possess that he values most.
My husband is kind, loving, pure genius, charming, has character and integrity that is unparalelled and MY GOD does he know how to rock my world.... too well, in fact.
Well I was one of those women who had a TRUCKLOAD of debt. Nope, not due to frivolous spending (what's that?) it was due to the divorce/custody nightmare with my INCREDIBLY POOR CHOICE of who I married and whom subsequently fathered my only children. (Which you all are well aware of by now).
I do completely understand your point of view. Hell, I knew how hard it was to find someone of substance (once I was ready) because regardless of all of my highly desirable qualities, that one HYUGE negative pretty much overshadowed the good stuff.
Not to mention the fact that I haven't been healthy for a long time and highly doubt I ever will be again.Anyways, what do I bring to the table?
I am smart, funny, creative, loyal, talented, proud, trustworhty, loving, kind, will kick your ass when you need it and hold your hand when you need that. I can cook and bake and clean but I told men upfront - I won't so don't ask.
I am incredibly frugal as I was raised poor and was helping my parents run their business by 17.When I feel well enough to get my freak on I enjoy my partner almost too much... (this has become a flaw as I deteriorate).
I work hard to be attractive for myself and for my partner. I have a great sense of style and flair and want always to be visually pleasing. For MOST MEN this is fairly important. If I haven't let myself go by 40 something, I certainly don't feel the need to start.
There is NO NEED to feel pressured to find a partner that is suitable.
Just think on it like this:
1. You HAVE to really Really REALLY like her, in other words you gotta enjoy her company in THE ABSENCE OF SEX.
2. You HAVE to have common life goals.
3. You should be kind, supportive to one another. It has to go both ways or it won't work.
4. If you rock each other's worlds sexually that is a bonus, but not mandatory. You can "learn" to rock each other's worlds over time as you get to know one another better. With a woman you need to start with her head and she must be visually (then mentally) appealing to you.
Ya'll have seen my husband and every day he gets a new ache or pain and he busts his ass every fucking day to deliver what he has promised me. He NEVER checked out on me, even when I checked out. I will never forsake him for this. <---- for this is a characteristic that is truly rare indeed. For me, there can be no other man.
I can't speak for him, but I believe this bolded statement is one of the qualities that I possess that he values most.
My husband is kind, loving, pure genius, charming, has character and integrity that is unparalelled and MY GOD does he know how to rock my world.... too well, in fact.
thelion2005 said:
How's that going by the way? I remember the original thread awhile back. Has the rest of the family started accepting her more, or is it still an issue?
