To the ladies who've had children

[heatherrae]

If Tom wants to dig into that straight after for "nutrition" let him have at it. I would be ill just seeing someone do that. That should be on fear factor...lol.

 

[Daisy_Girl]

And you have to remind her, it takes MOST women (hollywood actresses excluded) about six months to a year to get their bodies back. You have hormones you have to deal with, and then the rest is just diet, exercise and patience.

I think even 6 months to a year is having very high hopes. If she is breastfeeeding, hormones will take much longer to normalize. My daughter is 18 months old, and I have must recently (in last couple months) have started to feel like my body is MINE again. And how it responds to things is VASTLY different than pre-pregnancy.

This is also with a totally normal pregnancy, gaining about 30lbs, NO stretchmarks, NO extra skin, nothing that outwardly shows I had a baby. It is all my internal workings that are reacting differently, I KNOW my hormones are still whacked.

Breastfeeding does NOT equal weight loss. People tend to think that breastfeeding is this calorie burning machine and will cause all breastfeeding mthers to lose weight overnight - WRONG. I lost ZERO weight while breastfeeding. My body actually held onto all my pregnancy weight while breastfeeding. I couldn't even BEGIN to think about losing weight until after I stopped breastfeeding.

 

[Daisy_Girl]

LOL, I really just wanted to reply that BM was 150% correct, her post was excellent. Somehow my blabbermouth babbled on and STILL forgot to say that.

*sigh* I am quite the blonde.

 

[cboogsrun]

This isn't me asking for me, its me asking cause she wanted me too. lol! She asked me to buy her a badass treadmill too. 2100 hundred later and it sits by our bed waiting for her body to heal. lol! I've never pressured her to loose weight. She has a very pretty face, so the rest isn't important.

I carried, birthed and nursed four children my friend and stressed every single time.

First it took me a long time just to get pregnant so I was terrified first go round to do ANYTHING that *might* hurt the baby, then it was just the added stress of how'm I gonna take care of a household, a business, ANOTHER baby, the bab(ies) that were already here, our business, my marriage, social obligations, oh yea...... and me.

I know how nerve-racking it is for a man to see his lady change like that and how much her role changes in your eyes. Imagine how SHE feels?.... think about all the pressure she is putting on herself that she may no even be sharing w/you.

THE LAST THING SHE WANTS TO HEAR IS GRIEF.

I know your heart and I know you are a good man and want to support her in every way. After all, she is the mother to your children. But before she became a mother, SHE was the center of your world as your life partner.

So now, comfort her all you can and tell her how DEAD SEXY she is and it took her 8+ months to *get this way*, it is RIDICULOUS for her to even THINK about changing her *body back* in less time than it took for her to get where she is.

The damage is done, so to speak and no amount of preaching is going to help her. I know that bringing all sorts of sweets into the house doesn't help matters ESPECIALLY when one is pregnant. Go ahead, put gummy bears or ice cream or browniies in front of a pregnant woman who is feeling well and tell her, "Control yourself! Only eat a small portion." Yea *wink* OK.

She is near the end. Her appetite will most likely decrease anyway as the baby gets so big there won't be much room anymore.

Talk to her A LOT as this is probably weighing heavy on her mind with all the other stresses associated with becoming a parent AGAIN. I *wigged out* near the end of every single one of my pregnancies... very normal. It is part of the body's hormones regulating themselves yet again. I know it seems like asking a lot, but BE PATIENT. This too shall pass and as Ms PreggoRae pointed out, but she will remember the negatives if there is more of them to remember.

The decision to nurse your baby is one of THE BEST that you could have made as nothing is better for both mother and baby.

Once she gets the *OK* from the doc at the 6 week postpartum mark she can begin a more rigorous exerise program if she feels up to it. As for her diet, she needs to eat MORE, not less. But cleaner healthier and smaller frequent meals and LOTS of water.

Get her to join the women's forum where there is A LOT of sound advice in this regard. There are MANY moms there who can pass on their knowledge and SUPPORT.

If she has any questions for me I will be glad to help. It's been a while since I found myself in her position (stressing mom to be) but it's sorta like riding a bike.....


Or was that the sex part.





Been so long.... can't hardly remember. You know they say that your memory is the second thing to go with age. Wish I could remember the first.

 

[cboogsrun]

who the fuck is DJ?
is your gf black?
pics of the onion???

DJ would be cboogsrun dinga ling. lol! Mixed, not full black. Not sure she'd enjoy me posting pics of her being pregnant. lol! She won't go get the family prego pics, so I doubt she'd be thrilled to know I was posting them on EF.

 

[Spartacus]

placenta & pineapple shake

 

[heatherrae]

I think even 6 months to a year is having very high hopes. If she is breastfeeeding, hormones will take much longer to normalize. My daughter is 18 months old, and I have must recently (in last couple months) have started to feel like my body is MINE again. And how it responds to things is VASTLY different than pre-pregnancy.

This is also with a totally normal pregnancy, gaining about 30lbs, NO stretchmarks, NO extra skin, nothing that outwardly shows I had a baby. It is all my internal workings that are reacting differently, I KNOW my hormones are still whacked.

Breastfeeding does NOT equal weight loss. People tend to think that breastfeeding is this calorie burning machine and will cause all breastfeeding mthers to lose weight overnight - WRONG. I lost ZERO weight while breastfeeding. My body actually held onto all my pregnancy weight while breastfeeding. I couldn't even BEGIN to think about losing weight until after I stopped breastfeeding.

I've gained lots but stil don't have any stretch marks and I don't think I will have loose skin. However, I feel like I have pulled muscles in my abs. Something really hurts and burns like fire right under my right breast at the point of the bottom of the ribcage. My doctor says it is bruised ribs, but I don't think that is all. It burns like FIRE and the surface skin is almost numbed...weird. I can't figure it out, though. Some days, like today, I spend most of the day in bed it hurts so bad.

Oh, I'm off on a tangent....lol.

I was going to say that I don't think my body will have stretchmarks, but I worry that I will never get my tiny, tight waist back. I'm thinking my muscles are damaged. I have a very voluptuous figure, and my small waist was the only thing that kept me from just looking big.

 

[musclemom]

I've gained lots but stil don't have any stretch marks and I don't think I will have loose skin. However, I feel like I have pulled muscles in my abs. Something really hurts and burns like fire right under my right breast at the point of the bottom of the ribcage. My doctor says it is bruised ribs, but I don't think that is all. It burns like FIRE and the surface skin is almost numbed...weird. I can't figure it out, though. Some days, like today, I spend most of the day in bed it hurts so bad.

Oh, I'm off on a tangent....lol.

I was going to say that I don't think my body will have stretchmarks, but I worry that I will never get my tiny, tight waist back. I'm thinking my muscles are damaged. I have a very voluptuous figure, and my small waist was the only thing that kept me from just looking big.

A tendency to get stretch markes is genetic, has to do with your skin/collagen.

That pain you're describing is neuritic. You really need to see a good chiropractor, and if you're already seeing one you need a different one, seriously. At this stage of the game you may have to hang in until junior has made his appearance.

 

[musclemom]

I think even 6 months to a year is having very high hopes. If she is breastfeeeding, hormones will take much longer to normalize. My daughter is 18 months old, and I have must recently (in last couple months) have started to feel like my body is MINE again. And how it responds to things is VASTLY different than pre-pregnancy.

I said "about six months," didn't I? I meant AT LEAST six months.

It took me almost a full year to get my figure back and I was only 20 at the time. But in all fairness, I have known a few women who bounced right back so I try not to paint with too broad of a brush. Never fails, you say "it's gonna take you about a year" and some broad pipes up "Oh, I had my figure back in a couple of months," and then you want to bitch slap her

 

[heavy_duty]

no no no dont take anything!!!
eat super clean, no junk food no booze and no smoking.
your baby is trusting you with her life, don't fuck it up.

congrats on the kid.

My girlfriend just asked me if there was any type of appetite suppression supplements that she could take while breast feeding. I don't know and I was hoping to speed things up, so if some of the mothers here can help me, I'd truly appreciate it.

DJ