Please Scroll Down to See Forums Below have you ever wanted to kill yourself? I have thought about it a lot of times because my life sucks. I am 22 years old and i am a virgin. I won´t get any girls because i have bitch-tits and i am very shy. It is very hard to get a job where i live. I don´t know what i am going to work with. I´m not good at anything. I am not going to take suicide, it would be very selfish.
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silverfish
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WODIN said:
Not a bad idea. If there's nothing there for you then leave. Where would you love to be right now. Pack-up and move there. Suicide is selfish, you're better than that. Move on out, new place, new life!
future1
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Mike_83 said:
Listen u wnt believe it but i use to be like u. I had the biggest tits ever i mean literally i could compete with some 2DD. It was hard getting work and ppl were making fun of me all the time. Imagine at 17 u go to swim and everyone starts cracking at u. I thought abt it every bloody day. Then I decide to change myself and start working out at the gym and moved address
I am now 23. People do not believe the way i luk now, they just dnt recognise and compliment me.
I went throught this as well but the only way u can change is to change urself. start going to gym, loose the fat and believe me u wuill get so many girls and confidence.
Eringobraugh
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Go to a psychiatrist to assess for clinical depression, talk to a cognitive psychologist about your feelings and work with the psychologist to develop a plan of action to change the path that you are on, they address all issues that you are going through better than what a forum like this can offer, they help you come up with solutions to things that are negatively affecting your life. Life's too short to feel the way you do and wallowing it without action wont solve anything. Make a decision to change your life right now and make an action. That means seeking professional help, dont be concerned about the stigma, at worst you'll be talking to someone that has helped people through much more difficult circumstances, its only talking to someone, not like youre getting married to the psychologist. You just have to do something in real life to work out what you are ruminating on.
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I agree with the moving part too.
Also, there's been plenty of times things have hit a low point in my life (as I'm sure everybody does), but eventually things always got better. Then you'll look back and laugh at the low times. It's the circle of life.
Also, there's been plenty of times things have hit a low point in my life (as I'm sure everybody does), but eventually things always got better. Then you'll look back and laugh at the low times. It's the circle of life.
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Gymgurl said:
there must be something ur good at, just think about it a bit more , what do u enjoy doing ? i bet u will find a nice girl too, just keep trying, and go out more with a bit more confidence , and if u get knocked back ( girls can be crule) just ignore it and move on, and dont listen to em ! chin up dude .
most people have at least though about it at some point.
For me it was in college, when things got really tough and it was possible I could fail...
I'd never do it though... its a long term solution to short term problems.
You've got a lot of life ahead of you man, you'll get laid one day, I guarentee it.
For me it was in college, when things got really tough and it was possible I could fail...
I'd never do it though... its a long term solution to short term problems.
You've got a lot of life ahead of you man, you'll get laid one day, I guarentee it.
Lestat is right, and if that guy can get laid, anyone can.
For real bro, pick up and head out. The meaning of life is to see what you can become, not to be what you are.
PM me if ya want.
For real bro, pick up and head out. The meaning of life is to see what you can become, not to be what you are.
PM me if ya want.
Mr. Black
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I know that if I was a 22 year old virgin and somewhat depressed (to the point of contemplating suicide), I'd probably just say fuck it, dial up a couple of hot escorts and fuck em both silly. This in turn would not only give you a much needed boost, but also having experienced the bliss of what a wet pussy can do for you, I guarantee you will no longer be thinking about death. After doing this then follow what everyone has said
Do you believe in Jesus brother? If you are truly living for God, you will not want to kill yourself. It breaks my heart the number that have prematurely ended their life because they had no hope. Romans8:24 "We are saved by Hope, but Hope seen is not Hope, for how can anyone Hope for what he has already seen" That scripture is on my right shoulder and it's a miracle from God. Long story. I named my daughter Hope, because I was agnostic at the time and hoped that through her, I would find God. And that's exactly what happened.
Mandinka2
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I like Mr. Black's idea most , if you really are at the point of despair you should aim to throw caution to the wind right now - really live on the edge - before you worry about dying you should really LIVE. Personally that wouldnt be for me but it makes sense logically.
Other than that Biteme's is good - although unless you are right down there with the dogs truly you won't realise what faith can do for you - as Mother Teresa said "Only in nothing can you find everything". Good luck kid.
Other than that Biteme's is good - although unless you are right down there with the dogs truly you won't realise what faith can do for you - as Mother Teresa said "Only in nothing can you find everything". Good luck kid.
I agree with this post. Brother you are here for a reason whether you know it or not. I have turned my back on God and started doing some stupid shit. I was sent many signs to change my ways and never did. I feel GOD hit me with a hammer (heart attack) to put me back on track to accomplish my goals I put here on earth to do. I never though about ending my life but it’s not the answer brother. Not the answer at all. Life is like a drop of water in the ocean compared to what happens afterlife. OR what I believe will happen afterlife anyway.
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Eringobraugh said:
AND....
Be very careful once you start therapy. People that are clinically depressed are usually on the lethargic side. Once they start to come out of that, if they still feel life is hopeless, they now have the energy to commit suicide.
Go get some help, talk to a professional. There's many forms of therapy out there, it's not all just lying down on a couch and spilling your heart out for hours. Actually, they don't even lay down when they do that.
hang in there, being able to even think, and function in itself is a gift. if you take that ability from yourself you wont have anything. nothing will be fixed or made betterMike_83 said:
i was taking a long bath and meditating/zoning out and thinking, and all of a sudden felt like i had no reason to live..it wasnt even sad thoughts or nervous thoughts(which i have had when i was depressed),but i was seriously thinking why shouldn't i kill myself...
then i starting thinking about all the things i DO have...sure im a virgin too, have very little friends, hardly ever have "fun" and feel my life sucks, dont feel like anybody in my life outside of my immediate family truly wants to know what im thinking, how im feeling, to do stuff with me, hang out with me...
but i lift, and i love it. i have goals to reach, and that alone is enough to keep someone going. then i thought about my mom- she loves me and i love her, and i couldnt do that to her. and love i share with my dad and my brother too. the good times and even the not so good with your family or even a pet .EF, brothabills spirit board, my computer, music, running and just moving in itself even feels good. even being able to sleep and wake up, to eat and taste things, to watch movies, to laugh at tv shows.
just look in your life at the good things and focus hard on them, and enjoy them all the more. suicide is never an answer...its just an end for people who are too weak to find their answer
use condoms and DO NOT lick itMr. Black said:I know that if I was a 22 year old virgin and somewhat depressed (to the point of contemplating suicide), I'd probably just say fuck it, dial up a couple of hot escorts and fuck em both silly. This in turn would not only give you a much needed boost, but also having experienced the bliss of what a wet pussy can do for you, I guarantee you will no longer be thinking about death. After doing this then follow what everyone has said
Suicide is a permanant solution to a temporary problem......everybody hurts man, move, start going to the gym, eat right.....stay away from alcohol. You may think you are the only one going thru this but it's actually pretty common and it will pass.....before you do anything, PM and I will be glad to talk.future1 said:
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outset2
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I have had simular thoughts about suicide; I’m not all the way out of the woods myself. I can give you some advice that might make life easier for you. First as for the virgin thing at 22, don’t worry about it. Sex for the most part is overrated (If you’re not with someone you are in love with) and combined with the worry about accidental pregnancy or STD’s, being sexually active in you’re present frame of mind might not be helpful at all. You will find that there are many women you’re age who are shy and inexperienced and you will enjoy learning about these things with someone you care for, don’t just look for some slut to give it up to you. Second as for being shy, a lot of people are shy, me included and that doesn’t have to limit you’re potential for getting a good job, it only means that you will have to push you’re self harder than some. Everyone has special talents, you just need to find you’re talent. I did terrible at school and after a few tries I found my talent as an auto mechanic. Try not to worry as much about what other’s think about you’re appearance (I know it’s hard to do) but the only way to overcome the self esteem problem is from the inside, not by changing the way you look on the outside. I know a guy from high school who must weigh like 300+lbs at about 5’9” (not muscle), this guy has always been over weight, and I’ve actually known him since kindergarten. He is the most charismatic person I know and walks into a room with more confidence than a pro bodybuilder on stage. Guess what, the guy is happy, successful and has a beautiful and intelligent girlfriend. So the moral of the story is to change the way you think about you’re self, then change the way you look, only if you want to. If you start bodybuilding do it because you enjoy it and want to, not because you feel like you should, just to fit into the “normal” look. I haven’t mastered this all myself but am working hard; I think it is a good game plan. If you want to talk PM me.
Growth&Courage
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If gyno is a significant factor limiting you from getting sex and responsible much for your low-self esteem and insecurity in self-identity then you should address that first.
Gyno can be eliminated via surgical operations and increasingly there are many alternatives to go about it. (Do a search on gyno or bitch tits you’ll find a great deal of results)
Gyno can be eliminated via surgical operations and increasingly there are many alternatives to go about it. (Do a search on gyno or bitch tits you’ll find a great deal of results)
Mike_83 said:
Move to another city where there is more industry and get a short term job that you can tolerate just until you have enough money to support yourself.
Regarding the gynomastia, because you can't afford surgery at this point, I would try Nolvadex @ 50MG ed for a few weeks just to see if there is any effect. At that dose you should see some improvement unless it is glandular gyno which would most likely need to be excised via surgery. If it's just excess subcutaneous fat around the nipple, there are ways to work that off.
You are not serious about committing suicide. Both you and I know that you aren't going to do it. You are just having a hard time with life right now and you need some guidance. I understand well and there are many bros on here who will offer you the help you are asking for. Keep in mind that in life there are low points as well as high points and how you respond during those times will define you as a person. Get through this and make changes in your life that reflect where you want to be, rather than where you are right now.
I'm here to help if you would like. Take care, man.
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Mr. Black said:I know that if I was a 22 year old virgin and somewhat depressed (to the point of contemplating suicide), I'd probably just say fuck it, dial up a couple of hot escorts and fuck em both silly. This in turn would not only give you a much needed boost, but also having experienced the bliss of what a wet pussy can do for you, I guarantee you will no longer be thinking about death. After doing this then follow what everyone has said
LOL! This is exactly what happened to me. I was a technical cherry at 25(I had experienced 2 blow jobs before but no pussy) . I visited a hot escort and nailed her for an hour straight. It was the best $500 I ever spent. After I got over the whole stigma of being a virgin, I started having an easier time getting laid.
Fast Twitch Fiber
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Is your gynecomastia caused because you are overweight or is it true gyno with breast tissue? Some people just have pseudo-gynecomastia which is just fat, others have true gyno which is actual breast tissue. If it's just fat, then losing weight will make it go away. If it's actual breast tissue, go see a cosmetic surgeon. They can remove it. I had gyno removal several years ago. It was a relatively minor surgery. I was back lifting after 3 weeks. It cost me $3500 which I took out a loan and paid back $100 a month.
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Ulcasterdropout
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Know the feeling...
virgin - going on 27
virgin - going on 27
DaPit26
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it's not worth it. suicide is selfish. get into the gym like everybody else said. as you can see within the lifting community, we are all very tight-nit. we're all bros here on elite fitness. i mean if weights are a passion for you we are all your friends up in here. not to mention lifting boosts my confidence and definately makes me feel worth while. if i didn't lift weights i would be another student and a roofer. nothin too special. just try setting some goals in your life
MikeMartial
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pintoca said:
Cheers to that, did the exact same thing. After college, I moved to a city I had never live in before, and yes, like Pintoca said, you are reborn. It's refreshing.
Get outside more, get to the gym, if you have gyno, see a doc. Talk to him/her about depression.
You are only 22, you'd be amazed at the changes you can make to yourself right now.
if ur nto gunna commit suicide then dont even make the thread.Mike_83 said:
just try and change shit, who gives a fuck man, - iv thought of killing myself, but not really because i want to end it so much as move on and see whats next, but id never really do it- just like your not gunna do it
start working out, get surgery for your titties, start taking risks and having fun, just go to random places and act like a total idiot and have fun, if u think u got nothing to lose then who cares just do what pelases you without hurting others
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Ulcasterdropout
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If you're gonna kill yourself, take some fucking cops with you.
I'd like to off myself with a big fucking bomb. Take like 1k fuckers with me..
I'd like to off myself with a big fucking bomb. Take like 1k fuckers with me..
Joester
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Mike 83:
I don't mean to sound harsh but you need to snap to and look around. You are seriously out of perspective here Brother. There are people with physical issues that can't walk/talk/see, use their arms, eat without help, etc who would kill to be in your shoes. The fact that you have some gyno needs to be eval'd to see if it is due to a wt issue or hormonal, like prev said. After that, attack the cause with meds or the gym/diet and get to it. I sense a feeling of helplessness and hopeless here. If you don't become proactive in your approach to this you are in sad shape. Merely wallowing solves nothing. You have some ideas given here here yet I see no reply from you. The world sadly doesn't stop to hold your hand when you hit a bump in the road. You either get up and help yourself or sink farther down. Seek help via a professional, and start moving to correct this. Also you need to put perspective in your scenario, being a virgin at your age isn't the end of the world, nor an uncurable dz. With the self confidence you show no girl will come near you, for body language goes a long way. Suicide is a coward's way out, and only hurts those around you. Running away is merely changing the faces around you, but you don't change. Step up, stop looking for pity or a hole to crawl into. Look into fixing what is wrong with you, and the that is the ONLY way to start to improve your situation. Remember you have a pair, start using them and get to work.
I don't mean to be hard, but life is hard + you need to a kick in the pants here Brother.
Hope I helped.
I don't mean to sound harsh but you need to snap to and look around. You are seriously out of perspective here Brother. There are people with physical issues that can't walk/talk/see, use their arms, eat without help, etc who would kill to be in your shoes. The fact that you have some gyno needs to be eval'd to see if it is due to a wt issue or hormonal, like prev said. After that, attack the cause with meds or the gym/diet and get to it. I sense a feeling of helplessness and hopeless here. If you don't become proactive in your approach to this you are in sad shape. Merely wallowing solves nothing. You have some ideas given here here yet I see no reply from you. The world sadly doesn't stop to hold your hand when you hit a bump in the road. You either get up and help yourself or sink farther down. Seek help via a professional, and start moving to correct this. Also you need to put perspective in your scenario, being a virgin at your age isn't the end of the world, nor an uncurable dz. With the self confidence you show no girl will come near you, for body language goes a long way. Suicide is a coward's way out, and only hurts those around you. Running away is merely changing the faces around you, but you don't change. Step up, stop looking for pity or a hole to crawl into. Look into fixing what is wrong with you, and the that is the ONLY way to start to improve your situation. Remember you have a pair, start using them and get to work.
I don't mean to be hard, but life is hard + you need to a kick in the pants here Brother.
Hope I helped.
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Ulcasterdropout
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this guy is a fucking genius^^Ulcasterdropout said:
Yea, and it's people like this that is a reason why we have SWAT, ERT's, and HRT's.Ulcasterdropout said:
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fuck those pussiesswatdoc said:
Thanks. Where should we meet?Ulcasterdropout said:fuck those pussies
Oh yea, I'll be bringing my HK MP5 and my Glock .40 cal.
Don't worry. I'll treat you medically after we're finished. Ha!
thewinkshow
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hey bro dont do the suicide thing u r bette than that, people say its a cowards way out i dissagree, i know for a fact i wudnt have the balls to go thru with it, so in a sense its brave, because sum one really wanting to go through with it has lost every last bit of hope, its total dispair.
personally id stay away from doctors,pills e.c.t,pills only treat the symptons
they dont address the cause,the cause is a lack of job and being overweight, no pills will get u these, thats ure own mind and willpower, only u can sort it out, every one here has good avice,
too many people say "im depressed" and get a bucketfull of pills from the doctor, get hooked and neva get beta, im not saying u aint depressed, but u may just be sad not depressed, alot of people use depressed very openly, like if there having a tough few months and say there depressed, when accually they aint.
id say get an escort, get it out ure system, alot of things can be sorted out with a big night out with ure mates,a good laugh and drink, its a gud cure,
remember u only live once make the most of it.
take it easy
personally id stay away from doctors,pills e.c.t,pills only treat the symptons
they dont address the cause,the cause is a lack of job and being overweight, no pills will get u these, thats ure own mind and willpower, only u can sort it out, every one here has good avice,
too many people say "im depressed" and get a bucketfull of pills from the doctor, get hooked and neva get beta, im not saying u aint depressed, but u may just be sad not depressed, alot of people use depressed very openly, like if there having a tough few months and say there depressed, when accually they aint.
id say get an escort, get it out ure system, alot of things can be sorted out with a big night out with ure mates,a good laugh and drink, its a gud cure,
remember u only live once make the most of it.
take it easy
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I'll be bringing the 5 year old hostageswatdoc said:
Mr. Black said:Thats Awesome
im just the same as you man. i had the same thoughts about suicide too and had seen psychiatrists that didnt do shit for me. i went to an asian massage spa (im 22 as well) and paid $200 for a massage and fuck which is where i actually lost my virginity. it did help my confidence a lot, kinda breakin me out of the mold which actually landed me pussy 2 times that same month from 2 girls that i wouldnt have thought i could have done anything with. i fucked them both and realized that sex isnt the most important thing on earth, my hand is actually just as good, and i realized that what i really wanted was a girl to be my girlfriend and best friend because that way you will be emotionally happier about life in general. i dont like the way i look either and i decided that instead of going to bars and clubs with friends and wasting money trying to act fake wasnt cuttin it for me, so now i go fishing every night for peace of mind. find something that is a mental outlet man, and do that, do something peaceful often so you dont feel as down, thats what helps me.
I haven´t killed myself and I´m not going to. Thank you all for your posts. I´m sorry that I haven´t respond. I don´t even have a computer. Now when it´s summer I´m less depressive. I have a summerjob, working with old people. It´s not fun but it´s better than being unemployed. I´m not going to move until I find a job or start a education in another town. I have started to run every morning. I still have a fat chest and stiff nipples. I think that I need to eat better. Those things I eat is: yoghurt, muesli, proteinbars, proteinshakes, fruits and vegetables. I problary need to eat some real food like meat, tuna, chicken, pasta and rice. Next week I am going to do cardio twice a day. I´m still shy. I can talk a lot to older women that I work with and to girls that don´t look so good, but when I meet a good-looking girl I can barely say hello. If I won´t get less shy when I got rid of my bitch-tits I´m going to talk to some good psychologist. Then I must talk to a psychologist that can promise that he can do so I get rid of my shyness and bad self-confidence. Pretty girls don´t want to be with a insecure and shy guy. If I still have bitch-tits in two months I´m going to do a plastic-surgury. The closest plastic-surgury center is about 470 miles away.
I´m going to do cardio and eat healthy food and see what happends.
Thanks again all you guys for your posts.
I´m going to do cardio and eat healthy food and see what happends.
Thanks again all you guys for your posts.
Although it sounds like you have a lot going on, if you get more depressed in the winter, you might want to invest in a sunlight replacement lamp. Seasonal affective disorder is a real entity and lamps have proven to help. However, it sounds like you have many reasons that need to be addressed. Hope you get well soon. Let us know if we can do anything to help.
I´v been thinking about going to college. I don´t know what I´m going to study. It is high unemployment in Sweden. I want to study something so I know that I get a job after college. I think I´m going to work somewhere for a year or two and think about what I´m going to study. I agree that I should move to another town. I´m going to move when I have find a job.pintoca said:
It´s hard to find prostitutes in Sweden because it´s illegal.Mr. Black said:I know that if I was a 22 year old virgin and somewhat depressed (to the point of contemplating suicide), I'd probably just say fuck it, dial up a couple of hot escorts and fuck em both silly. This in turn would not only give you a much needed boost, but also having experienced the bliss of what a wet pussy can do for you, I guarantee you will no longer be thinking about death. After doing this then follow what everyone has said
trying2grow101
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smoking pot helps me and i also relieve alot of stress by working out
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gobalboa
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keep in there man
Mike_83 said:
22 is too damn young to give up on life!!! You have to be a good person to realize that suicide is selfish, don't waste your life ... and don't freak about the virginity thing, there is plenty of time for that! A virgin is a valuable commodity in this day of STDs!
What about military service? See the world, get free education? All branches don't get put into danger zones (especially if you pick your job carefully!!!) My son is 21 in the AirForce and stationed about 25 miles from me
The Navy is a pretty safe bet, too.You DO need a fresh perspective, you need to put yourself out there deal with people, the shyness will melt away. You have to realize that everyone has their own insecurities, too, and they won't judge you half as hard as you judge yourself.
And the bitch tits ... any girl who loves YOU for YOU won't care. Would you love a girl less if her breasts were massively lopsided? She had scars her clothes hid??? C'mon, we ARE more than the sum of our parts!
It's not easy, and I'm not trying to diminish your pain, but there is so much in this world, don't lock yourself into a box, look beyond the paradigm and take a chance ...
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gobalboa
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it's true, there is girls who will love u for u. Not every girl just wants a bodybuilder fuckbuddy in this world who doesnt give a flyin fuck about her. You WILL find one who will respect you the same way you respect her. You just got to search
MuscleMom said:22 is too damn young to give up on life!!! You have to be a good person to realize that suicide is selfish, don't waste your life ... and don't freak about the virginity thing, there is plenty of time for that! A virgin is a valuable commodity in this day of STDs!
What about military service? See the world, get free education? All branches don't get put into danger zones (especially if you pick your job carefully!!!) My son is 21 in the AirForce and stationed about 25 miles from me
You DO need a fresh perspective, you need to put yourself out there deal with people, the shyness will melt away. You have to realize that everyone has their own insecurities, too, and they won't judge you half as hard as you judge yourself.
And the bitch tits ... any girl who loves YOU for YOU won't care. Would you love a girl less if her breasts were massively lopsided? She had scars her clothes hid??? C'mon, we ARE more than the sum of our parts!
It's not easy, and I'm not trying to diminish your pain, but there is so much in this world, don't lock yourself into a box, look beyond the paradigm and take a chance ...
i agree...you have to get out there and be around others more often to learn that its not as important as you think it is to care about what others think, but then again society, especially for people his and my age (im 22 as well) live in a very superficial society, where everytime you turn on the tv, look at a magazine, or go out anywhere the main topic is sex....thats why so many guys on this forum do roids.....for cosmetic reasons and self-confidence. people may argue with me in self-denial on that, but look at the 60's when the ideal male was skinny and smoked pot.....you didnt see many people in their 20s rushing out for deca and dbols back then, whereas today practically every dude ive become friends with at Penn State is on that shit and virtually 95% of the females are looking for that exact body type: abs, big chest, huge arms all that shit. its hard to get passed that in your mind in our country at our age.
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