speed dating...

[Razorguns]

OK so, a dude approaches me in the grocery store (has happened believe it or not) and he captures my attention long enough to entice me to meet him for a cup of coffee or a meal at a time and place when we are not rushed and we are wanting to get to know one another to see if there is something there worth pursuing past the initial "yea, I'd like to fuck him/her" part that brought us together in the first place.

What would YOU call that?

tell him to call you or meet him friday to go see Rush in concert w/friends or party at the beach with Lestat.

r

 

[Bikini Mod]

tell him to call you or meet him friday to go see Rush in concert w/friends or party at the beach with Lestat.

r

Obviously we are going to chat on the phone before I agree to meet w/him again so as to better ascertain if this man who I found to be initially charming is worth the trouble of a date. But why would I want him to be with me and ten thousand of my closest most personal friends? That sorta defeats the purpose of getting to know the guy. Dontcha think? I mean, how is this guy supposed to continue to impress me in this type of circumstance?

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

Obviously we are going to chat on the phone before I agree to meet w/him again so as to better ascertain if this man who I found to be initially charming is worth the trouble of a date. But why would I want him to be with me and ten thousand of my closest most personal friends? That sorta defeats the purpose of getting to know the guy. Dontcha think? I mean, how is this guy supposed to continue to impress me in this type of circumstance?

One benefit to this is it's a more relaxed atmosphere, and you can observe that person's actions from a distance, ie, see how he/she normally acts when not being at attention.

 

[Bikini Mod]

One benefit to this is it's a more relaxed atmosphere, and you can observe that person's actions from a distance, ie, see how he/she normally acts when not being at attention.

Dunno... I suppose being as forward as I am I like to mentally fence as well as sit back and take notice (especially) how people act when they are *on*... I suppose that is just one reason why I am drawn to alpha males. I LOVE to watch them own a room. However, inviting a man to a "beach party" w/my friends wouldn't exactly be my idea of watching him own anything. LOL

 

[Razorguns]

Obviously we are going to chat on the phone before I agree to meet w/him again so as to better ascertain if this man who I found to be initially charming is worth the trouble of a date. But why would I want him to be with me and ten thousand of my closest most personal friends? That sorta defeats the purpose of getting to know the guy. Dontcha think? I mean, how is this guy supposed to continue to impress me in this type of circumstance?

because it is NORMAL. Two people hanging out having fun.

sitting in a restaurant barging 20 q's back and forth during a job interview ISN'T. It would be like chinese water torture to me to be in a position like that.

Maybe that's how old people date on eharmony I don't know.

r

 

[Bikini Mod]

because it is NORMAL. Two people hanging out having fun.

sitting in a restaurant barging 20 q's back and forth during a job interview ISN'T. It would be like chinese water torture to me to be in a position like that.

Maybe that's how old people date on eharmony I don't know.

r

LOL Surrounding yourself with tons of other people to avoid a direct one on one encounter doesn't sound natural OR NORMAL to me, nor does it sound like much fun. So I suppose we can just agree to disagree. Which is a good thing... obviously if someone like you met someone like me at the grocery store and the get-together that you would suggest was a bonfire on the beach with tons of YOUR FRIENDS so that you could avoid one on one contact w/me would tell me that we are not well-suited for one another.

I would blush and thank you for your interest and tell you that I don't think that we are well-suited to date but if I thought you were cool otherwise (meaning you didn't come off like a total horndog) then I would suggest friendship with no romantic interest perhaps.

See? Easy... no reason to get our shorts in a wad because it was decided by BOTH parties just weren't well suited for one another.

As for eharmony... that shit sucked ASS and everyone that I knew who used it HATED IT.

And for me dating was more like, dude sent a car or bought me a ticket to wherever it was that he was traveling/working/or living and I would fly out/be driven out to meet him. If we dug one another IRL the way we did online, (if we were equally impressed and amused with one another) it was on. If not, then WE BOTH tried to get me back home ASAP.

My husband was the only man who flew out to meet me.

 

[Grumpy Old Man]

I dated someone before. It seemed to work out and besides that, I am a hot old guy with a ton of money. I make at least 250$ a week.

 

[Bikini Mod]

I dated someone before. It seemed to work out and besides that, I am a hot old guy with a ton of money. I make at least 250$ a week.

Yea but the dumb OLD broad who married you did so when you had ZERO cash... but I 'spose you had a lotta poh-ten-shul... either that or that dumb old broad was a major gambler.