Problems with the wife over the EF

[Gottso]

I used to say to the woman "well i could just as well be at a bar hanging out rather than being online [in your presence]". guess it was my way of justifying my obsession with being on the comp. Only recently, after 2 years or so of doing this, have I seen just how damaging it can be. For some reason i cant even sit at the computer for more than 20min, which she loves , since im not 'ignoring' her anymore.
anything is good in moderation, but when taken to an exess, it can cause some serious problems. once any party in a relationship feels some sort of neglect due to another's "hobby", something has to change. Either limit the time in the "hobby", get the other person interested in it as well, or get another person.

I know many a 'online buddies' that have had their wives/husbands leave them because of their online obsession.

On the other hand, if you are going on to check the boards for a little bit, she should learn to deal with it and not immediately turn up the tude-ometer.

relationships, a cruel game of give and take!

GL mate.

Gottso

 

[Mandinka2]

Tell her u have to do somethin with ur frustration and ya don't want to cheat on her (that will get the guilt trip women love to pull goin), tell her to fuck more and then u wont have to spend so much time here.

 

[Johnny Cut]

i like sex better then i do hanging out with you guys.....when my girl comes over its all about her, but if one of u blows me then maybe ill think about staying on more...lol

 

[Parabellum]

I used to have that problem, then I bought the wife a computer and introduced her to the internet and everything is fine.

 

[drveejay11]

Damn, I feel soooo lucky.....my girl's the shiznittzzz when it come to this shit. I'm online all the time and she's right next to me on the couch 99% of the time doing HER favorite thing/passtime.....reading a book!

Relationships are DEF about mutual respect....but they should also be about allowing your mutual other to live life as they please as long as there's NO disrespect involved. You gotta be happy inside with yourself AND with your relationship otherwise it's NOT worth it IMO y'all!!! It's a fine balance....but it revolves around respect. THIS is what needs to be DEFINED by both you and your partner and NO ONE else.

 

[Lift Chief]

When i've got a girl around the internet becomes secondary.

 

[Canuck4]

Damn, that a big problem then.
Time for a new wife bro

Not only will she not talk to me, she won't give me any action either.

 

[Zyglamail]

Spidey's recent thread inspired this post. I don't know about any of you guys that are married with kids but the wife and I and constantly fighting about the time on spend chatting with you gentlemen on this board. I look at it for what it is, a hobby/interest plus it's a social outlet to communicate with people that share common interests. She likes to refer to it as an obsession that's ripping our family apart. I think that's a little extreme but nonetheless it's become a big problem in our house. Have any of you had similar problems at home over the time you spend on this board? If so, how have dealt with it.

Its obvious there is a problem in your relationship and I dont know the story well enough to even try and place blame and blame isnt really of importance at this juncture getting things back on track is. Having been through divorce before I would say that you need to get to the root of the problem and get it fixed ASAP. If you want to get your marriage back on track, weather your fault or hers, your going to need to do some work. If all she does is complaine about it then the job rests squarely on your shoulders.

 

[Johnny Cut]

or just sue EF ...lol

 

[under_dawg]

When i've got a girl around the internet becomes secondary.

it's true...when it comes down to it, the internet will still be here tomorrow whereas she may not.
UD