need help getting over a breakup

[biteme]

it sucks but there is more than one person in this world for you. don't rush looking for her. it does get easier with time, devote yourself to things that have always interested you. sorry to hear bro, and i loved your homer av

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[bignate73]

Relearn to be yourself outside of a relationship basically and then when you have done that start dating.

Excellent advice. My advice is to become whole again, learn from your sorrow, learn from the past, and be a better person as you move forward.

alltraps sounds like he is lonely but is able to be alone. Thats a good thing! All too many times people CAN'T be alone and jump into another failed attempt. as QT said, learn to be strong alone. When you are dating again, you won't feel like you have to latch onto the first person who shows you attention. You can have a semi-clear head and evaluate if your date is a good match for you. rebounds can be a b$#%h thats why its better to clear your head before jumping back in the game again.

You'll be alright bro. take your time day by day, learn what you can from the past, look forward to the future. I know what its like to be a romantic "love conquers all" type, don't lose that belief, someone in your future will respect your devotion. You'll get a chance to use it again. Don't turn cold, just protect yourself for a while.

 

[BUBBLES]

pour yourself into other activities...work, going to the gym, hanging out with friends, dating. Oh, and don't get serious with 21 yr. olds. You should have a rule of at least 27 or older. You'll find a world of difference between the chicks at 21 and 27+.

sorry to hear about the breakup
listen to CEO and try to concentrate on other activities..... it takes time to heal a broken heart....but YOU WILL come out of it !!! It is all in the mind!!

 

[alltraps]

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[*MissFit*]

I havbe always been relationship girl.. spent almsot my entire last 13 yrs ina committed relationship. start of summer i found myself single and without much skills in the dating department.

I took some time to find myself, and thne put myself back out on the market. If you want too, dating can be fun. meeting new ppl and figuring the things you like and don't like, discovering the things you have always deemed to be critcal, not so critcal.

Give it time.

28 is not too old. Hell I'm almost 29 and i feel fine

 

[ceo]

listen to ceo!

28 is a great age.
time will help the trust thing...eventually

Shoma fereshteh khoshgel!

(Im sure you can find out what that means).

You must spread some Karma around before giving it to velvett again.

 

[alltraps]

I havbe always been relationship girl.. spent almsot my entire last 13 yrs ina committed relationship. start of summer i found myself single and without much skills in the dating department.

I took some time to find myself, and thne put myself back out on the market. If you want too, dating can be fun. meeting new ppl and figuring the things you like and don't like, discovering the things you have always deemed to be critcal, not so critcal.

Give it time.

28 is not too old. Hell I'm almost 29 and i feel fine

i have dated most of my life, never serious, so i know all about dating. when i met this girl, she swept me off my feet and i knew she was the one. she was everything i wanted and so much more. i know who i am, and what i want. thats the problem,. im so picky. and she had it all.

 

[*MissFit*]

Obviously.. she wasn't all this.. sometimes we create things in people that don't exist.. I'm just assuming.. but i would say you proalby built her up in your head into something she quite possibly ..wasn't

i have dated most of my life, never serious, so i know all about dating. when i met this girl, she swept me off my feet and i knew she was the one. she was everything i wanted and so much more. i know who i am, and what i want. thats the problem,. im so picky. and she had it all.

 

[jerseyart]

Obviously.. she wasn't all this.. sometimes we create things in people that don't exist.. I'm just assuming.. but i would say you proalby built her up in your head into something she quite possibly ..wasn't

Ditto tha bor.

Unless part of what you always dreamt about was a cheating woman who treats you like trash.

You were in love with that facet of herself she showed you until recently. Hate to say it, but the girl doing all this to you is still her as well.

She's 21, and shes right about you wanting her to be 28. She's not ready to stop being a kid yet, with al that entails, including dating lots of other guys

 

[KillahBee]

This is the place to post this...

You must spread some Karma around before giving it to Ulcasterdropout again.