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need help getting over a breakup
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flexygrl
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alltraps said:
Don't lose hope...never lose hope. I'm not sure if you know my story...
Almost 2 years ago I had to go through the ultimate in betrayal. I found out my ex-husband(then husband) was cheating on me. This man was my life. I met him at 18 and married at 23. Through the support of friends and family I moved on. I immersed myself in things I love...my new apartment, my animals, my family, my friends. I started to sing again, which I hadn't done since before my wedding. I worked my ass off in the gym and ate only good, healthy meals.
Bottom line, I found myself. I found an amazing person that I never would have met had I stayed in my relationship.
I read something that inspired me through my transformation...
People come into your lives for a reason, a season or a lifetime...
She was not in it for this lifetime, but she was there for some reason. Take everything you loved about her and look for it in a NEW partner when you are READY! Take your time. Enjoy your family and your friends. You don't even have to date if you don't want to. In face, don't date...not for atleast 6 months.
When you least expect it(I hate when people say this, but it's the truth) "she" will come into your life.
A really close friend of mine often cries to me asking when she will find someone...I always tell her, when you are ready for "him" to come into your life.
Make you the best YOU, you can be. "She" is out there. Be patient...
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alien amp pharm
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Also realize you are not the first nor last person to go thru this. We all do at some point and somehow manage to survive and almost always end up happier down the road.
alltraps
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i know everything you guys are saying, and i know everyone goes through this, but it always seems worse when its me. thank you for all the help. i dont know what to do from one minute to the next. i did cardio 3 times yesterday cuz i couldnt sit at home and be alone. im gonna end up 160lbs soon
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Ulcasterdropout
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Not true.alltraps said:
Meantime1
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alltraps said:
Hi
Sorry to hear about your pain, i must say break-ups are never easy, and i must also say it takes great courage to open your self and your heart to tell the world (elite fitness) what you are feeling,
I have been where u have and it is not easy, but one i will say is this, time is a great healer, your girl is 21 and it is understandable that she might feel she is not ready to settle down, Look at it from her point of view it will really makes things easier for you, when u were 21, did u know what u wanted, did u want to get married, I'm sure u were still trying to find yourself, that is what she is also trying to do, what i would say is this, give her time, respect her wishes, i too broke up with my ex 1 yr ago and he was just 20,
But remember this feel what you feel, don't be angry for the way you feel acknowledge it, don't fight it, accept and ride it out and believe you me , you will be ok,
I am a great believer that what is meant for you will not pass you by, so be strong have ok and remember in God we Trust
I'm here for you buddy
Meantime1
alltraps
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i just woke up and havent slept much at all. its hitting me harder today. she never called me last night, which is good, but hurtfull, cuz this means she is over me already. its day 3, and i feel like its just getting worse. who the fuck said its better after the first two days? i had nightmares the whole time i was sleeping.
i know she is only 21, but we were together for almost 2 years, and she was so sure about me pretty much the whole time. i just thought that we could help each other on this path of life and go together, thats what love is after all. i have to keep saying to myself, that she never loved me, and doesnt want to be with me. i strongly believe that when you love someone, you dotn jut walk away to find yourself, especialy when you;ve been telling this person the whole time that they are your soul mate and want to be with you forever. then again, i dont know what the fuck love is. i thought this was it, and now i have no clue. i know she is hurt, and i feel like i still need to be there for her. but who is gonna be there for me? no one. this is her choice and i just have to swallow the fact that the last 2 years meant nothing to her and she wants to be without me. im scared for her, because the world is a harsh place and she is so naive sometimes. she is gonna get hurt and i cant be there to protect her. sorry guys, i know i sound like a broken record, but this is fucking hard for me.
i know she is only 21, but we were together for almost 2 years, and she was so sure about me pretty much the whole time. i just thought that we could help each other on this path of life and go together, thats what love is after all. i have to keep saying to myself, that she never loved me, and doesnt want to be with me. i strongly believe that when you love someone, you dotn jut walk away to find yourself, especialy when you;ve been telling this person the whole time that they are your soul mate and want to be with you forever. then again, i dont know what the fuck love is. i thought this was it, and now i have no clue. i know she is hurt, and i feel like i still need to be there for her. but who is gonna be there for me? no one. this is her choice and i just have to swallow the fact that the last 2 years meant nothing to her and she wants to be without me. im scared for her, because the world is a harsh place and she is so naive sometimes. she is gonna get hurt and i cant be there to protect her. sorry guys, i know i sound like a broken record, but this is fucking hard for me.
