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When you want feelings to be there.. you can make anyone into anything..
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need help getting over a breakup
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canadianhitman
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Talking to her/seeing her/emailing her is going to prolong the suffering. Trust me...if you know it is over for good, CLEAN BREAK. That means not taking her calls, deleting any emails she sends without reading them, and avoiding places you know she'll be. That "let's still be friends" bullshit just delays the healing process.
Robert Jan
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Booze and rebound pussy
wutangnomo
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alltraps said:
Sorry to hear about your heartache bro. Here's what I have to say, so take it with an open-mind.
You said you will never trust any woman again, and quite frankly, that's EXACTLY what you need to start doing from this point forward. Realize that the world isn't as pretty as most people kid themselves it to be. The good old fashioned days of having one relationship that lasts a lifetime are OVER. Realize that the lifespan of an average relationship nowadays is very short, and if you can get 5 to 10 years out of one you are truly lucky.
Everyone in their life needs to get screwed over real bad in order to truly mature and grow, and in a way it is a GOOD thing she screwed you over now instead of 10 years from now in marriage. Consider this your wakeup call and learn from it. Remove your love blinders and realize that you are better off without her. If you still believe that she is the one for you then you are SETTLING. Is that what you want?
The obvious thing for you to do is immerse yourself into your passion, which I'm willing to guess is bodybuilding. Use this as motivation to take yourself to the next level in your health, job/career, family/friends, etc. If you're not the type that can engage in flings then don't do that as that'll only make you feel like shit.
Do NOT contact her again. It is OVER and the sooner you close the books the sooner you can move on with your life.
Consider this your blessing in disguise. You'll find better, much much better. With time you'll realize this... hopefully.
wutangnomo
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alltraps said:
It all comes down to power bro. If you can face bumping into her alone or with another person and NOT have it affect you (ie brush it off), the sooner you will move on with your life. That will show her that she has no more power over you and that YOU are in control.
If you run into her, remind yourself that it is HER loss. Should she be with someone else, consider yourself lucky that he has taken her off your hands, then pity the fool.
alltraps
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she;s just so confused about where her life is going. she wants to go back to school and all this other shit, and i think she felt i was in her way, since i was ready for the next step. she didnt ruin my life. she made it better. its just unfortunate that it turned out this way. i cant expect more from her, she is only 21. i wish her to find whatever she is looking for. it just sucks that i cant be a part of it.
im not into flings at all. i feel like i dont even want to meet anyone for years. i just need to be me, get bigger, get leaner, get a better job. i know i have to never talk to her again, but i miss her so fucking much. love is bullshit, and i dont think i believe in it.
im not into flings at all. i feel like i dont even want to meet anyone for years. i just need to be me, get bigger, get leaner, get a better job. i know i have to never talk to her again, but i miss her so fucking much. love is bullshit, and i dont think i believe in it.
