need help getting over a breakup

[superqt4u2nv]

Take sometime for you before jumping into the dating scene. Do all the things you love to do but couldn't cause the relationship took up so much time. Relearn to be yourself outside of a relationship basically and then when you have done that start dating.

 

[velvett]

Take sometime for you before jumping into the dating scene. Do all the things you love to do but couldn't cause the relationship took up so much time. Relearn to be yourself outside of a relationship basically and then when you have done that start dating.

Great advice!

 

[alltraps]

traps, I'mma gonna lay it on real. In a few months you will realise you didn't love her as much as you thought you did. When you step away from the relationship you will see it wasn't as swell as you once thought.

I just broke it off with my lady about 4 weeks ago. I'm 26, soon to be 27. In the same boat as you. I was negative at first, but now I'm having awakening: it is fun as hell being single, especially when you are fit and well groomed. The average dude are age is starting to get fat and sloppy. you got fitness in your favor

i know it wasnt perfect, there were a lot of issues, i just always thought loves conquers all. i sound pathetic, dont i? haha

 

[Sassy69]

Sorry to hear that & I feel your pain. There are so many variables when it comes to meeting someone, but to make it a long term, you both have to be in the same place in your lives. This doesn't always mean that the age is the same, but you have to comfortably be in the same place in each of your individual lives for it all to survive.

Vel is right -- 28 is an amazing age becaue you are more mature but not too mature yet. It sucks to have to go out & meet new people but sometimes a situation like this forces you to be creative & live outside your comfort zone a little bit. Worst case, you grow from it. Best case, you meet Ms. Right. Or even Ms. Right Now

Good luck & like my dad always says, keep your mind on what you are doing.

(I still am not sure what he means, but he always says it...)

 

[The_Ghost]

Great advice!

Yes it is!

 

[alien amp pharm]

I don't remember making this alter

 

[alltraps]

thanks you for the kind words and advice. this is my first time on this side of the EF. good people here. thanks again. K for everyone

 

[Raptorex]

yup.

Without disclosing age..lol, I got 15 years on my girl? Whats my prognosis

 

[hamstershaver]

you are still young trust me, just dont go looking for it in the bars

 

[alien amp pharm]

Alltraps, I can relate to you.

I am 28 also and met this 20 yr old. If I had to write down everything I was looking for in a female, she would fit all of them and then some. I never believed in soulmate until this girl, although I have loved a couple long-term girlfriends before it has never been anything like this.

Long story short she broke up with me. I thought it was perfect, but apparently she didn't.

It's gonna hurt and it's gonna hurt bad. It's been 3 months since my breakup and although I still miss her, you gotta pull yourself together. Going out with random girls, staying busy, and being around friends was the only way I managed thru it.

It will get easier with time. That you can be certain about.
How YOU choose to handle this breakup with effect how much time it will take and how miserable you will be in the meantime.