My GF did coke this weekend and lied to me about it should I get rid of her?

[vinylgroover]

Livin Larger,

Have you though that maybe you're responsible for fucking her life up. It's convenient for you to blame her stripper colleagues for leading her down the wrong path, but yet i don't see you laying any responsibility at your own feet when you say you do other drugs with her like Weed, x and G.

You're being the worst type of hypocrite there is. Sorry to be so blunt!

 

[Xiodus]

You know, Just tell her to EAT A DICK!

 

[LivinLarger]

Is she paying her way through law school or paying for the food to feed her kids? Does she pay 1/2 of the rent or mortage at your place?

No, I let her live with me in my house for free.

A drug is a drug - while you may not view X, G, weed, or whatever is the popular drug of choice these days coke is STILL a recreational drug and if you use ANY drug of any kind who are you to tell someone they can't? You've lost your strength in the arguement before you have even started it.

How so, I told her from the start that coke was out, and if she ever did it I would get out.

Yah ok, you look young for your age, so do I, so what does that mean? Are trying to say that you prefer the lifestyle of someone younger than yourself? If so, what does that tell you about you? (Not that there'sanything wrong with it - I mean I still play video games 0

Yes, what is wrong with that?

Not every 30-ish year old female is looking to get hitched and make babies - that is simple an illusion created for women to feel bad about themselves and invest in self-help books and beauty products.

No, just every single one I have gone with.

A drug is a drug

Comparing weed with coke is just stupid IMO

You are going out with a stripper and wondering why you have relationship problems?!?!

This has been the only problem I have had with her in almost 2 years.

What is her motivation to have a job that makes quick cash? Why do you support it?

The economy here in Michigan is a mess right now, she had a nice job at steelcase but the fell on their asses and dropped 1/2 of their employees, she's lucky to have a job at all at this point.

Have you though that maybe you're responsible for fucking her life up. It's convenient for you to blame her stripper colleagues for leading her down the wrong path, but yet i don't see you laying any responsibility at your own feet when you say you do other drugs with her like Weed, x and G.

Not really, I have told her and tried to help her stay away from coke, considering I have no real issues with any of the other drugs above (not a big fan of X but that was only a few times), not too many women turn to prostitution to get another joint.

Sorry, but I refuse to take the blame for her doing coke, it was her decision and she knew I was against it.

 

[Night Fly]

Okay...you just said that the coke was the only problem you'd had with her in 2 years, correct? Does that mean that her cheating on you, lying to you about it, and you losing her trust not count as a problem?

It seems like to me that you are making excuses for her. Not to sound too harsh...but I have been in that situation and made excuses for a cheater and a liar. It's a vicious cycle and you need to get out as soon as you can. Problem is...you probably aren't nearly that strong.

Don't get offended or anything...but I'm just giving my .02.

Seriously...you need to get out...and if you can't see that, or don't do anything about that....then something is wrong with YOU.

 

[TEXgrl]

i've seen this thread for the past few days and simply read without responding, but, here goes........

#1, she has lied to you, and i'm all for forgiving someone when they lie, if they want to make an effort to stay with you. good for you for trying to make it work.

#2, shame on you for giving an ultimatum on what drug is OK, and not OK for her to do. while i do agree that coke can be an easily abused drug, she's a grown up and should be able to make her own decisions on what she wants to do or not do. by making it a "forbidden" drug, you've made it very desireable to try, and also given her no choice but to lie to you when she does try it. she's immature for hiding it, and lieing and you are equally immature for trying to control her.

#3, her living with you for free, not pulling her weight, paying bills, etc, looks very much to me like another way you are trying to control her. i think thats also why you are picking someone who is somewhat younger than you, you can control them easily. would she still be with you if you asked her to pull her weight?

bottom line is, you have no say in what she does to her body, its her decision. the best you can do is say how you feel about the situation, but ultimately the only person you can control is yourself.

 

[LivinLarger]

Does that mean that her cheating on you, lying to you about it, and you losing her trust not count as a problem?

Yeah, that was a biggie, but that was almost 2 years ago like I said.

#2, shame on you for giving an ultimatum on what drug is OK, and not OK for her to do. while i do agree that coke can be an easily abused drug, she's a grown up and should be able to make her own decisions on what she wants to do or not do.

She can do whatever she wants, but if she is going to stay with me she's not going to do coke.

you are equally immature for trying to control her.

Wow I suppose if she wants to do heroin I should allow that as well?
Other than these issues I am VERY non-controlling trust me on that.

i think thats also why you are picking someone who is somewhat younger than you, you can control them easily.

I let her live with me for free because she wants to save money for school and I am a nice guy, believe what you will.

bottom line is, you have no say in what she does to her body, its her decision. the best you can do is say how you feel about the situation, but ultimately the only person you can control is yourself.

I agree 100%, once we break up she can do WHATEVER she wants, and I should have no say in the matter.

 

[p0ink]

She has done other drugs with me before X, G, whippets and weed but I have to draw the line at coke because I have seen it ruin people.

what? she hasnt huffed any paint yet? huffing paint and sniffing super glue is very important in a loving relationship

 

[AAP]

HAHAHAHA!!! I did not read this post and not one fucking reply. It was always at the top so I am just putting my name on it.

All I know is that it concerns a woman (fucked up) who is doing coke (more fucked up).

Sounds like you need a sober man in your life.

 

[TEXgrl]

so, answer my question, would she still want to live with you if she had to pay for her room and board, at least half?

nice guy or not, you are saying some girls would whore themselves out for coke, or whatever their drug of choice is. don't you think you are basically paying for her affections by not asking for her to carry her weight? trust me, she's already whoring herself out, its just not for drugs, its for room and board. ask her to pay, see if she sticks around

 

[velvett]

How so, I told her from the start that coke was out, and if she ever did it I would get out.

So why are you still debating about it here?









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