Might have a 9 yr old daughter that I want to find

[SDRaver]

Has anyone else gone through this

I finally told my family after all these years. eiveryone was so happy because I was the first grandchild in my family and I had the first great-grandchild. Now none of us are going to see her. And all because the new husband feels it's too much of a strain on the marriage.
I'm sure if I was Johnny Crackhead he'd be cool with it and make him look beeter. but that's not the case. Spent 10 years in a successful career as an Army Ranger in the spec ops community. Doing well as a BB'er and will be contributing to the war effort in the Middle East soon enough.
I'm at the mercy of a man I've never met and it sucks. Everything I've ever done in my life would never mean more to me than just to be able to hug my first child just once. I guess what makes be so bitter is that last week plans were made to make me a part of my life and now nothing.

 

[SofaGeorge]

SD... take it slow and easy. You are a shock to them popping up suddenly. Give them a couple weeks/months just to get used to the idea that you are here.

This may sound odd, but I highly recommend (and Nicole or somebody else please back me up on this) that you talk to a counselor/therapist/caseworker who deals with this type of thing. I'm not sure who it would be... but I really think you need to sit down with a professional and get them to describe how this effects Celine, her parents, etc... from their perspective. Knowledge of what THEY are going through in having you come back into the picture will help you guide your actions... and help you build a relationship with Celine.

 

[SDRaver]

Got your PM Sofa

thanks for the quick reply. What you wrote makes sense and you're right. Everyone's emotions are still running high. Defensive mechanism have kicked in for everyone I'm sure.

 

[NY Muscle]

here you go

here most current address is 14150 PROSPECT ST, SPRING HILL, FL 34609

God i love my job LMFAO


*** SUBJECT'S ADDRESS HISTORY(* INDICATES RECORDS WITH THE MOST CURRENT DATE)


LINDNAL, KEZIAH SS# 600-58-xxxx
AKA: MATHESON KEZIA E
AKA: MATHESON KEZIAH E
AKA: ROBBINS KEZIAH ELENE

*14150 PROSPECT ST, SPRING HILL, FL 34609 (01/01)
RR 3 BOX 254, COLUMBIA CROSS ROADS, PA 16914 (05/97)
19114 58TH ST E, SUMNER, WA 98390

Phone: 224-4956
File Creation Date: 10/90

 

[manny78]

here you go

here most current address is 14150 PROSPECT ST, SPRING HILL, FL 34609

God i love my job LMFAO


*** SUBJECT'S ADDRESS HISTORY(* INDICATES RECORDS WITH THE MOST CURRENT DATE)


LINDNAL, KEZIAH SS# 600-58-xxxx
AKA: MATHESON KEZIA E
AKA: MATHESON KEZIAH E
AKA: ROBBINS KEZIAH ELENE

*14150 PROSPECT ST, SPRING HILL, FL 34609 (01/01)
RR 3 BOX 254, COLUMBIA CROSS ROADS, PA 16914 (05/97)
19114 58TH ST E, SUMNER, WA 98390

Phone: 224-4956
File Creation Date: 10/90

As you can see, no one can stop the EF crew

 

[SDRaver]

Thanks everyone

I agree with Sofa too. I will probably see a counselor monday instead of an attorney first. I would like to hear any of the EF women's point of view who may have dealt with this from the mother aspect

 

[SDRaver]

NY Muscle

You should have a PM

 

[SDRaver]

Nicole

Celene already know I'm out there and has aksed about me. Kaz, the mom wants to get a photo album toghether of me and my family along with letters I have written them both. the husband doesn't want her to see it until she's older.
I just think that might backfire on Kaz because then it will look like it's just been sitting around for years and that will make Celene wonder even more. It's not my business but for the husband to say this may hurt their marriage is a bit rough. I bet if he was looking for a daughter he'd want Kaz's support.
And I've offered the child support when we first talked. the husband no longer wants me to get a paternity test because he knows that would probably give me access to Celene sooner than later.
I'm not trying to sweep his wife away by any means. Plus when he tried to badmouth me to Kaz and she defended me that made things worse. It's a guy thing in that reguards. I want to work with them on this but I don't think I should be completley shut out of the picture
A girl I know who deals with these types of situations said it's better to let her know earlier than later specially during her teenage years when time are so turbulant.

 

[SDRaver]

for the record

child support is not an issue for me. that's the least of my worries. I have to live with the fact that not only will I not see her for sometime now but her first few years she and the mom was abused by the 1st husband pretty bad. same as me when I grew up. The thought of that happening to her is too much.

 

[PHATchik]

Hey hun, that was definitely a blow. I'm really sorry to hear that. Just stay positive. You've got a PM waiting for you.