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Might have a 9 yr old daughter that I want to find
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For the 1st time in 9 years I have a name and a face. She was born 21 FEB 93. Celine Christian Matheson. I met the grandparents for the first time. They gave me a pic and plan on giving me a lot more. They want me to be a part of my daughter's life and so does the mother. they live in FL. and the mother married her 2nd husband 2 years ago. Her husband adopted Celine which is currently becoming an obstacle.
He isn't to keen on the fact that the mother has never badmouthed me and that she wants me to be a part of Celine, my daughter's life. He feels we should wait until the daughter asks about me again which could be years. I feel that since she already knows that I''m out there she should know sooner than later.
Her mom is going to put a photo album together of me with all my pics and letters so when that day comes it will be there for her to see. I want to meet her so bad.
MY biggest regret is not pursuing this during the 5 years I was married. My ex-wife threatend to leave me if i went to look for her eventhough this happened 2 years before i met her.She had talked to Celine's mom once and threstend her to stay out of my life which scared her so she didn't pursue it I've missed out on so much and don't want to miss out on anymore.
Through all of this all Celine's mom could do was say that she didn't hate me and thanked me for helping her make such a beautiful child. After listening to her I knew I was with the wrong woman all these years. She was just happy that I lived a good life and have a successful career. Stuff that Celine would be prould of which made me feel really good becuase all these years I've busted my butt with the motivation of meeting her one day.
This is the main reason why I have never had another child up to this point. I couldn't do it knowing that I already had a daughter that I've never met. Last week changed my life for the better without a doubt. I just hope I get to meet her before i ship off to the middle east here in the near future.
For the 1st time in 9 years I have a name and a face. She was born 21 FEB 93. Celine Christian Matheson. I met the grandparents for the first time. They gave me a pic and plan on giving me a lot more. They want me to be a part of my daughter's life and so does the mother. they live in FL. and the mother married her 2nd husband 2 years ago. Her husband adopted Celine which is currently becoming an obstacle.
He isn't to keen on the fact that the mother has never badmouthed me and that she wants me to be a part of Celine, my daughter's life. He feels we should wait until the daughter asks about me again which could be years. I feel that since she already knows that I''m out there she should know sooner than later.
Her mom is going to put a photo album together of me with all my pics and letters so when that day comes it will be there for her to see. I want to meet her so bad.
MY biggest regret is not pursuing this during the 5 years I was married. My ex-wife threatend to leave me if i went to look for her eventhough this happened 2 years before i met her.She had talked to Celine's mom once and threstend her to stay out of my life which scared her so she didn't pursue it I've missed out on so much and don't want to miss out on anymore.
Through all of this all Celine's mom could do was say that she didn't hate me and thanked me for helping her make such a beautiful child. After listening to her I knew I was with the wrong woman all these years. She was just happy that I lived a good life and have a successful career. Stuff that Celine would be prould of which made me feel really good becuase all these years I've busted my butt with the motivation of meeting her one day.
This is the main reason why I have never had another child up to this point. I couldn't do it knowing that I already had a daughter that I've never met. Last week changed my life for the better without a doubt. I just hope I get to meet her before i ship off to the middle east here in the near future.
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KAYNE
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IF YOU DIDNT EVEN KNOW YOU HAD HER (ASSUMING SHE IS YOURS), WHY WOULD YOU SAY YOU WOULD DO ANYTHING TO GET CUSTODY. WHY WOULD YOU TRY TO TAKE THE CHILD FROM THE MOTHER EVEN THOUGH YOU DIDNT EVEN KNOW ABOUT HER. AND NINE YEARS LATER AT THAT!!!
KAYNE
KAYNE
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KAYNE
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WOUDLNT JUST BEING A PART OF HER LIFE SUFFICE AFTER ALL THESE YEARS??? NOT THAT A JUDGE WOULD GIVE YOU CUSTODY ANYWAY, I'M JUST CURIOUS AS TO WHY YOU (YOUR WIFE) TOLD THAT CHICK THAT.
KAYNE
KAYNE
Whoa Kayne
I never said I was going to try to get custody. I always knew she was out there. I was only 19 when it happened. and I married young. My ex-wife threatend her with custody and I didn't find out til years later. I'm at the mercy of the mom and we are working on this together.
I never said I was going to try to get custody. I always knew she was out there. I was only 19 when it happened. and I married young. My ex-wife threatend her with custody and I didn't find out til years later. I'm at the mercy of the mom and we are working on this together.
I know I screwed up by not stepping up
As for right now the only person that doesn't want me near her is her husband. I understand that. she only 9 and he's been around her for the last 3 years. I have complete respect for any man that would marry a women with children and adopt them as his own.
Then again he went into this relationship fully knowing that this was a possibility. Then when that moment came he threatend to leave Celine's mom if she tried to let me meet her. He can be the big man here and fully support his wife. he wants back child suppor for her before I meet her and that's fine. I offtered that from the get-go so that's not even an issue.
I guess it would be easier for him if the whole family talked trash about me including his wife but that's not the case. I know not everyone can be happy with this situation but I believe we can meet on common ground. It's only been a week so emotions are still running high. I've let him know that he can talk to me any time so that he can speak directly to me.
As for right now the only person that doesn't want me near her is her husband. I understand that. she only 9 and he's been around her for the last 3 years. I have complete respect for any man that would marry a women with children and adopt them as his own.
Then again he went into this relationship fully knowing that this was a possibility. Then when that moment came he threatend to leave Celine's mom if she tried to let me meet her. He can be the big man here and fully support his wife. he wants back child suppor for her before I meet her and that's fine. I offtered that from the get-go so that's not even an issue.
I guess it would be easier for him if the whole family talked trash about me including his wife but that's not the case. I know not everyone can be happy with this situation but I believe we can meet on common ground. It's only been a week so emotions are still running high. I've let him know that he can talk to me any time so that he can speak directly to me.
spongebob
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congrats bro, its an interesting and touching story. i hope you dont have problems with the step father and he realizes you just want a father-daughter relationship like any good father would. this wont deminish his role has step-father, maybe you should explain this to him. he's prolly feeling a little jealous right now, thats all. too bad it took nine years, good luck.
Your right
I plan on letting him know that nothing will diminish his roll. I understand where he's coming from. Hell this guy had to fight her fist husband because he was always stalking her. Not to mention he abused both Celine and her mom pretty bad.
But talk about a small world. That bastard has his 2 week annual reserve training in my town. just speculaton of course
but I don't think his 6'4" 185 lbs ass will be much of a problem for my 5'8" 225 lbs. 6.5% BF mixed-martial arts background ass LOL.
The fact that this man has no problem beating women and children not to mention of a child of mine should have no problem having his ass beat. I have so much info on this guy that it's not even funny. Hell If I could get away with it I'd post his full name and SSN just so everyone could look his ass up and see what a loser he is.
But yeah i understand her husband's protectiveness because I would be the same. Bottom line is that if we all keep Celine's best ineterst in mind it should all work out for the better. Small steps.
I'm just happy that the gradnparents consider me part of the family and have invited me over to see video of my daughter. It's a noble move on their part and I plan to take them up on it
I plan on letting him know that nothing will diminish his roll. I understand where he's coming from. Hell this guy had to fight her fist husband because he was always stalking her. Not to mention he abused both Celine and her mom pretty bad.
But talk about a small world. That bastard has his 2 week annual reserve training in my town. just speculaton of course
but I don't think his 6'4" 185 lbs ass will be much of a problem for my 5'8" 225 lbs. 6.5% BF mixed-martial arts background ass LOL.The fact that this man has no problem beating women and children not to mention of a child of mine should have no problem having his ass beat. I have so much info on this guy that it's not even funny. Hell If I could get away with it I'd post his full name and SSN just so everyone could look his ass up and see what a loser he is.
But yeah i understand her husband's protectiveness because I would be the same. Bottom line is that if we all keep Celine's best ineterst in mind it should all work out for the better. Small steps.
I'm just happy that the gradnparents consider me part of the family and have invited me over to see video of my daughter. It's a noble move on their part and I plan to take them up on it
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